On today's episode of Marriage Helper Live, Dr. Joe Beam responds to:
"My wife filed for divorce. What I've learned through Marriage Helper is to try to extend the divorce time to give it time to calm down, so I responded that 'I didn't think the marriage was broken' and it infuriated her. How do I respond now?""My family friend has had an on and off affair with my husband for 7 years. Is this limerence?""How do I reconnect with my wife to get her to see that there's hope & change that can happen?""My wife and I are separated because she is having an affair. She is vilifying me, and telling me we have nothing in common. I don’t know what to do.”“My husband and I have been divorced for 8 months. Our relationship has gotten better, but his relationship with the other woman is still ongoing. He wants the other woman to be part of our children’s lives, but he has not told them the truth about what happened. Is it wrong for me to set a boundary and not allow her to have a relationship with my children?”“How do I proceed in trying to save my marriage now that we are divorced?”
 

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When we suggest dragging out the divorce is when the other person feels like they are "madly-in-love" with someone else. And if dragging out the divorce makes things worse- we may not suggest it if you're viewed as controlling.Demonstrate without pointing out/telling what you're doing and how you're changingThe valley