474: OVERCOMING THE NO

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474: OVERCOMING THE NO

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Apr 2, 2019

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Marriages become extraordinary when you choose connection. Learn about overcoming the no that you say when you don’t want to put forth the effort. | "Explain your feelings instead of acting them out and you will find solutions instead of arguments." —Anonymous

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Apr 2, 2019

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Is your marriage everything that you want it to be? Are you ready to make a change? Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo to create a strong marriage so you can have mind-blowing intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. Marriage is not always easy but it's so worth it. Come and make your marriage EXTRAORDINARY!

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003 – Rejection: Our McDonald’s Theory: Have you ever given any thought to the power the word NO has on your marriage? What might be a minor decision for a wife/husband (do we or don't we make love tonight) can have a larger impact on our marriages, by ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show
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