In any home, there’s the workload everyone can see: the dirty dishes, the broken crayons under the dining room table, the laundry to be folded. And in most of our homes, that workload is divided more equitably than it was in the homes where we grew up. But then there’s the workload that lives in a parent’s head, the running list of things we hope we won’t forget: the permission slips and prescriptions. The birthday presents and batteries. And there’s still usually just one parent who’s in charge of THAT. And if you’re reading this right now? We’re going to guess it’s you. In your household you’re the one that blogger Mblazoned calls “The Default Parent,”  and while we hasten to append  #notallmen to what we’re about to say… studies indicate that whether the mother works outside the home or not, all this “stuff” usually remains firmly in the mom’s pile. And it’s a big pile. We have a choice: to either change that dynamic, or leave it the way it is but stop feeling resentful about it. Margaret and me? We’re starting with the moms in the mirror. Make that change. In this episode we discuss: •how to make the “invisible workload” more visible •the power of the Sunday evening calendar meeting •why we’re going to start saying “thank you” more often •why letting go of the “why am I always the one who does everything” monologue is harder than we care to admit Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices