This makes it too easy for kids. We coddle them. How did you learn resilience? Did you have an adult to help shape you into something better? Resilience - #1 strategy attachment to a caring adult. Bruce Perry - National Leader on trauma. Witnessed in their humanity How do we create that caring, supportive environment that supports that student when we are in the school environment. We can’t get hung up on the behavior. The problem is when we alienate because of the behavior. Understanding that any perception of loss of safety is potential for students to become disregulated. Trauma is the perception of loss of safety and connection, not just the ACES. Safety - not just physical safety. Moral safety and emotional safety - see more from Sandra Bloom How to deal with the response, “This takes too much time.” Calm room is not punishment. Schools can’t do this alone. “My Piece Matters” Won’t kids take advantage of that? Teachers notice that.   Every child wants to do well. Do we teach them through a punishment mode or regulatory mode. Building adult skills to support trauma-impacted youth. Emotional Hygiene How to be a transformative principal? Dig into understanding of hardwired response system in the brain. Kids aren’t out to get you, they just don’t know how to manage themselves. Self-Reg Stewart Shanker By Daniel Goleman Emotional Intelligence Starts with understanding that each of us can help create a safe environment. Nurturance is reparative and restorative.  Are you feeling like you are always behind at school? Do you feel like you need about 2 more hours each day to accomplish everything? Here’s how I help principals work manageable hours: Create your ideal week, so that you can leave work at work and enjoy your life! Join my group coaching program Please take a moment to rate this podcast in iTunes or on Stitcher.  Please follow me on Twitter: @jethrojones for the host and @TrnFrmPrincipal for the show. Buy Communication Cards Show notes on TransformativePrincipal.com Download Paperless Principal.   Web Site Transformative Principal on Stitcher Refer A Principal Best Tools for Busy Administrators Survey