Prudence is joined this week by Julia Furlan, a Brooklyn-based journalist and podcast maker who is trying to learn how to hold a grudge. Together they take on letters about what to do when racist thoughts influence your choice of sperm donor, should you leave your stable job to take the family on a year long sailing trip, how to approach the “do you want kids” question on first dates, what actions to take when your coworker talks to you in sexy (yet creepy) voice, how to handle your husband rejecting your decision to transition.Slate Plus members will hear Prudie and Julia tackle letters about what to do when you accidentally hit your girlfriend after she “surprise” scares you, and how to handle a friend’s uncle who gave you a lap dance. Not yet a member? Sign up at Slate.com/PrudiePod.Email: prudencepodcast@gmail.comProduction by Phil SurkisThis episode is brought to you by the following advertisers: Sunbasket, learn more at sunbasket.com/prudence and get $35 off your first order.Listen To The Marriage, the new novel by John Jay Osborn. Available now wherever books are sold.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices