When we're young, we have an amazing positive outlook about how great life is going to be. But somewhere along the line we forget to dream and end up settling. Join Up Dots features amazing people who refuse to give up and chose to go after their dreams. This is your blueprint for greatness. So here's your host live from the back of his garden in the UK, David Ralph. David Ralph 0:25 Yes, hello there. Good morning to your good morning to you and welcome to Join Up Dots. Thank you so much for being here. Thank you so much for lending me your lovely, firm, sexy bodies for however long I want to keep on talking for. I never know, I never know literally what I am going to do. I get a bit of paper and I just write a title. I write a title on it. And and then I start talking. Sometimes I think to myself, did that hit the spot, didn't hit the spot and listen back to it and be? Yeah, come into it. It's funny. The one this is where I'm kind of slightly doubting myself is the ones that I get lots of responses back and people go, yeah, that really hit the spot. One of the ones I've had quite a few responses for was the last podcast episode, the solo show, I feel down in the dumps when I was I was trying to tell you all that. Once you get to a certain point, and you're sitting in your job now and you're going oh, this is crap. This is dreadful. And I hate the boss, and I hate the hours and I hate the commute. And if you're like a guy called Martin, but I know it makes me laugh, because he I'm building a business with him at the moment. And we're working through it. And he's done amazing stuff. He within six weeks, he's gone from absolute no clarity at all, to already hiring his first member of staff basically, and is a brilliant success storey. And I know that Martin is going to go on to great things. Now. He's now into that point where beginning it was lyst podcast, he was all going around in circles all the time. And I've kind of known him on on and off for about two years now. And when he suddenly said, David, I want to hire you. And I said, Martin Martin, come to me come to my my firm moves, and I will catch you and show you the future that you deserve. And yeah, we worked on this concept and and we've come out with his business. Now he desperately wants it to be he's hoping and so he's coming to work every day. And he sends me some messages you go up just spoken to the cleaner, and a cleaner so depressed our it brings me down. And so he's gone from this feeling of this is my reality to actually now this isn't my reality, this is something totally different. But this isn't where I see myself for the rest of my life. I see myself in the exciting place my own business where I can live or I can do things as I want. Now, the podcast episode The other day when I said I feel down in the dumps, just trying to so evidence to you all. But the dream life sometimes doesn't always become the dream life. You know, it's good, it's good. But we all think always going to be amazing is going to be brilliant and stuff. But then once you get it, it becomes kind of normal. And happiness can stay with you over time happiness becomes normality of a normality becomes depression. And I was just saying on the show the other day, how I felt depressed for the last few weeks, no reason for it. But I just felt a bit flat because my dream like the other people look at actually kind of as become a bit boring. So I need to change things anyway. So that was that was the point of my liberal Martin talk. And he's now at that point where he wants to move into something exciting. Now, the key thing to this, is it where you reality is, is your reality, where you are at the moment? Or is it where it's going to be now, the exciting reality is always where it's going to be. But that doesn't mean it's any different of a reality. Now, I need to explain that because it's in my head. And how can I make this this sensible to you? So you go Yeah, oh, he does know what he's talking