The Breakup Recovery Journal: Bible Verses, Healing Strategies, and Prompts to Feel Whole after Heartbreak

By Elayna Fernandez

The Breakup Recovery Journal is a guide for women who are seeking peace, healing, and hope as they navigate a painful breakup or divorce.

Breakups can be traumatic because stigma makes it difficult to ask for help, so we end up suffering in isolation. Breakups can also trigger overwhelming anxiety, depression, compulsive beha

• Language: English
• Publisher: the Positive MOM
• Release date: Jan 1, 2024
• ISBN: 9781952201936

Elayna Fernandez

Elayna Fernández is a bestselling author, international speaker, and self-made mom entrepreneur. Elayna's God-given mission is to provide moms with skills, strategies, and steps to find peace, break unhealthy cycles, and feel whole. Her award-winning Emotional Wholeness programs help moms worldwide transform their pain into peace, purpose, and positive growth. To learn more about Elayna, visit thePositiveMOM.com and follow @thepositivemom.

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LUKE 8:48

...Daughter, be of good comfort: thy faith hath made thee whole; go in peace.

I guess they call it a breakup because it leaves us feeling like we are broken. Whether it’s the end of a friendship, romantic relationship, marriage, or a business partnership, we perceive it as a loss, and that implies grief.

Breaking up hurts, no matter how it happened—and even if you initiated it or it was a mutual decision. Experiencing betrayal, rejection, and mistreatment makes a breakup even more painful, and can certainly reinforce the trauma we’ve experienced throughout our lives.

Thankfully there are tools and techniques that can help us feel whole when all we feel is brokenness. I know because I am an involuntary expert in this type of heartache. I didn’t know how to break the patterns that kept me stuck in unhealthy relationships or even what drove me to get in them in the first place.

It is my wish that my own path to healing helps you to rediscover your happiness after heartbreak. That you can enjoy the comfort, wholeness, and peace that the Bible verses, practical truths, and inspired prompts in this journal can bring into your life.

What broke your heart is not your fault, but seeking to feel whole is your responsibility. And here you are, taking ownership of what you can do, even when your wounds are wide open.

So I applaud you and I celebrate you for being willing to take action to heal your heart, to let go of what was, surrender to what is, and have faith in what will be.

I’m proud of you because you are seeking answers in the right place. Immersing yourself in the Word of God can provide the guidance and comfort you need in this time of trial.

I’ve used these verses to find encouragement and to calm the agony, anxiety, affliction, and the raging storm inside me. I have been down that dark road many times: the sleepless nights, the endless cries, the intense panic. I have an intimate relationship with these practices and I know they work, as you rely on the power of the Holy Spirit to guide you in each step.

I know your broken heart can be made whole. And as you commit to this process, it will.

You are not alone. This journal is a sign that you are worthy of healthy, unconditional, and reciprocal love.

So let’s start the journey through hope, healing, and happiness. Yes, it is possible for you and, more importantly, you deserve it.

WHY I CREATED THIS JOURNAL

I believe that pain is the common thread of humanity. And working through our emotional pain is essential, not only to heal, but to know how to be in the presence of others’ pain.

Breakups are hard for everyone, no matter who we are. When we face any type of loss, we go back and forth through the many stages of grieving. It goes beyond the Kübler-Ross model¹ of denial, anger, depression, bargaining and acceptance.

Besides the grief of losing the relationship itself, we deal with feeling like we are worthless, unlovable, and rejected for not being good enough. We are often grieving parts of ourselves that feel lost, buried, or invisible.

I’m not here to invalidate you with phrases like:

It will be okay.

Everything happens for a reason.

You are better off, anyway.

Move on with your life, already.

It’s a blessing in disguise.

Be grateful for the good times.

Or… I know how you feel.

While I don’t know exactly how you feel, God does.

And this journal is an invitation to hear from your Self and to hear from Him.

Think of me as a facilitator guiding your conversation, so you can achieve clarity, get direction, and move through this test with dignity and grace.

His grace is sufficient. As you let it in, you will be invigorated by His perfect strength.

And I know from my own experience, and from witnessing and working with the moms in my community who have been through breakup and divorce, that the shame, guilt, regret, fear, and hopelessness can not only be healed, it can be