Life's Messy, Live Happy: Things Don't Have to Be Perfect for You to Be Content
By Cy Wakeman
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A simple shift in thinking can change everything you believe about your own happiness.
By the time we become adults, most of us have joined the religion of suffering, which preaches that unless circumstances are controlled, life will be a mess. We compare ourselves to others and speculate about an impossible-to-know future, holding out hope for an improved life through getting ahead, fulfilling passion, or finding true love. But the idea that happiness comes from putting effort toward altering one’s circumstances is harmful and backward. What if we instead learned to understand that circumstances can rarely be controlled, and that life is, and always will be, messy?
From that starting point, we could learn to use our minds to create happiness despite life’s ever-changing circumstances and events. Life’s Messy, Live Happy by Cy Wakeman is about dramatically changing the level of happiness you feel in your daily life, by learning to disconnect happiness from external forces, stop worrying about the future, and realize that most of your negative feelings are about things that never even happened.
Wakeman is a credible, relatable teacher—a business owner, mother, and community member who has lived her philosophy and achieved profound happiness and success in a crazy, messy life. Filled with concrete daily practices and true stories that are hilarious, painful, and poignant, this book will change everything: your perspective, your focus, and your energy level for everyday life.
Cy Wakeman
CY WAKEMAN is a drama researcher, international leadership speaker, and consultant. In 2001 she founded Reality-Based Leadership. She is the author of Reality-Based Leadership, No Ego, and the New York Times bestseller The Reality-Based Rules of the Workplace. In 2017, she was named as one of the Top 30 Global Leadership Gurus by Global Gurus, a Top 100 Leadership Expert to Follow on Twitter, and was deemed "the secret weapon to restoring sanity to the workplace." She lives in Omaha, Nebraska.
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Life's Messy, Live Happy - Cy Wakeman
PART ONE
LIVING HAPPY
TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE
On a sacred mountain in Tecate, Mexico, I am the hiking guide for a group of successful leaders from all over the United States. It’s a warm, late-spring day in 2009. Century plants are bursting into bloom like popcorn on a hot flame. The view is spectacular, the company superb, and I’m feeling like I just won the work-life lottery.
Out of the corner of my eye, I spot something ahead, slithering across the path.
SNAKE!
In an instant, with one thought, the glorious feeling I’d been experiencing blew up. The panic was instant. I began breathing heavily, it felt as though my major organs were shutting down, and the urge to pee like a pack mule was overwhelming. My mind raced. How could I survive a snakebite on a mountain? All I could come up with was a technique I remembered from a John Wayne movie—not savvy but all I had. He’d heroically whipped out a knife, cut an X over the fang marks in his hand, and sucked out the snake venom. I reached for my pocketknife, preparing to perform self-surgery and save my own