The Imperfect Father - The 10 Principles That Make You a Great Dad
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"The Imperfect Father" is a compelling book that offers an honest and heartfelt perspective on the ups and downs of fatherhood. Written by an experienced dad, this book delves into the unique challenges of parenting in today's fast-paced world and offers practical tips on how to navigate them. With engaging storytelling and insightful advice, "The Imperfect Father" is a must-read for any parent looking to improve their skills and gain a deeper understanding of what it means to be a dad in the 21st century.
- Insightful Read- The Imperfect Father is a beautifully written book that offers readers a unique perspective on fatherhood and the challenges that come with it. The author shares his personal experiences and struggles with honesty and vulnerability, making it a relatable and insightful read for fathers of all ages.
- Practical Advice- The book offers practical advice and tips on how to navigate the ups and downs of fatherhood, including tips on building strong relationships with your children, dealing with difficult parenting situations, and finding a healthy work-life balance.
- Positive Tone- While the book acknowledges the challenges of fatherhood, it has an overall positive tone that encourages and uplifts readers. It reminds readers that being an imperfect father is a normal part of the journey and that the most important thing is to never give up on being a good father.
Mthokozisi Nkosi
Mthokozisi Nkosi was born in Mpumalanga Province, and grew up between two small townships, Volksrust and Perdekop. He is an Author, Motivational Speaker, and Founder of Live2Elevate Motivation blog, and Smart SEO Content (a digital and video marketing agency) based in Johannesburg, South Africa. He is also the author of Step Out of Your Comfort Zone and Start Living Your Dream, The Ultimate Guide to Succeeding in Life, and Reinvent Yourself and Live Your Dreams.
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The Imperfect Father - The 10 Principles That Make You a Great Dad - Mthokozisi Nkosi
Dedication
This book is a heartfelt dedication to the responsible fathers who realize that, although they may not be perfect, still strive to remain involved in the lives of those they protect and provide for. This work is especially dedicated to my two sons, Lwazi and Bandile, who taught me that being a dad isn't only about supplying financial support, but spending time with them. Watching you boys reminds me of the miraculous gifts God has given me. My love for you both motivated me to write and finish this book, and you showed me that being a good dad means being a present, loving father.
Introduction
You Are Not Perfect
The essence of man is imperfection
-Norman Cousins-
The day I discovered that I was going to be a father, I had no idea how I was going to make it work. I was scared and worried that I might fail. I had no other choice but to accept my fate as a father. It was my first child and I had just turned 29, making it a bit easier to accept. When I told my parents the news, they accepted it easily, and responded by saying, You are old enough now and independent enough to take care of both you and the baby.
On 20th November 2014, my son, Lwazi, was born. When his mother told me, I was at work and informed my manager of the good news. He allowed me to leave and go be with my child. I had always wanted to name my first child Lwazi, which is a Zulu name that means knowledge
, so I decided to do so even before he was born. I did not accept any name suggested to me and knew that my son was a chance for me to learn more about fatherhood.
When I arrived at the Johannesburg hospital the same day my son was born and held him in my arms, I finally understood the wonderful gift we had been given. Therefore, I could not comprehend why some men are absent fathers and prefer to love their children from afar. I experienced this kind of relationship with my father, as he was always away from us and we would see him once a year, sometimes even less than that. We were mainly raised by our grandmothers, but my mother worked hard to make it to our home in Volksrust, Vukuzakhe Township, to be close to us.
One day, when I heard that my mother had returned home, I fled from my father’s side of the family and went to stay with my mother. My aunt came to fetch me, but I saw her before she could see me and hid until she left. All I can remember is me crying and telling my mom that I am not going back, I’d rather not attend school. My mother took action and asked for my transfer document from the school I used to attend at Perdekop, Vukuzenzele Combined School, so I could be enrolled in Theu-Theu Primary School at Volksrust.
Nowadays, many men believe that they have to be superheroes to succeed in fatherhood. They think that they need to be perfect. I have come to realise that there is no such thing as a perfect father. You should give yourself the chance to fail. You must remember two things: you are human, and humans learn from mistakes. Allow yourself to mess up as a father. Do not run away from your responsibilities. Even if you are not experienced, you will learn through this process. Fatherhood is not something to be feared, men should embrace it. To quote Sammy Davis, You always have two choices: your commitment versus your fear,
and I chose commitment.
You must understand that fatherhood is a journey. You learn to be a father by playing your role in your child's life. Evading your duties does not teach you anything but cowardice. Cowards only know one thing, which is to run away from things that need commitment. I sincerely hope that you do not fit in this category, or that you do not aspire to become like this.
Do not give your children the same treatment your father gave you. Make a promise to never become what your father was to you. Be present in your children's lives. Start by applying the lessons you will find in this book.
I have learned from my imperfections. Wade Boggs once said, Anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad, and that`s why I call you Dad because you are so special to me. You taught me the game and you taught me how to play it right.
That is the reason why you should be there: to teach your kids about life and how to play the game of life correctly. Without you, they might easily get lost and start living their lives like you lived yours.
They will develop a wrong conception of what fatherhood truly looks like, and will start looking for father figures in the wrong places. Whether you are their biological or stepfather, you should be the best influence on their childhood. This process starts with the principles which I will share in the following pages.
It is my sincere wish that The Imperfect Father drives you to take action in reconnecting with your children and motivates you to take a second opportunity at being a good father. We all aspire to be accepted by our fathers and having role models to teach us what it