The Rubber Band Ball Concept: The Social Struggle of Classism

By Magic Liaison

Are you a part of the problem or the solution? You will discover the true answer within the pages of this book.

The rubber band ball concept is a book about creating change. It is a call to action for all people living on the margins of society and those who want to help. It explains misconceptions about race and provides insight into the way in which class has more to do with our social experience than we think.

There are twelve rubber bands within the concept, and they are all interconnected. It identifies the problems and issues impoverished people face and unravels the complex interconnection of each problem to the next as it explains why it is so hard for government, teachers, policy makers, etc., to come up with viable solutions that benefit everybody.

Together we can combine our minds and bring change to the social class system in a way that promotes growth through investment rather than handouts.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Page Publishing, Inc.
• Release date: Oct 4, 2022
• ISBN: 9781662487774

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The Rubber Band Ball Concept

The Social Struggle of Classism

Magic Liaison

Copyright © 2022 Magic Liaison

All rights reserved

First Edition

PAGE PUBLISHING

Conneaut Lake, PA

First originally published by Page Publishing 2022

ISBN 978-1-6624-8781-1 (pbk)

ISBN 978-1-6624-8777-4 (digital)

Printed in the United States of America

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments

Introduction

Chapter 1

Absentee Father from the Household

Chapter 2

Teenage Pregnancy

Chapter 3

Lack of Financial Aptitude

Chapter 4

Lack of Investment

Chapter 5

Lack of Unity

Chapter 6

Culture

Chapter 7

The War on Drugs

Chapter 8

Social Development

Chapter 9

De Jure Discrimination

Chapter 10

De Facto Discrimination

Chapter 11

Inadequate Education

Chapter 12

Lack of Civic Duty

Chapter 13

Wrap It Up

About the Author

Acknowledgments

First and foremost, I want to send my love and respect to my granny. You are the epitome of a queen. Never have I ever seen anybody check you nor get out of pocket and not get checked. When I was a kid, you always made sure we had everything. Lillie Mae Jackson, you have been here during the entire thirteen years of my bid. Never have I ever had to ask you to send me money or put money on the phone. I knew if there was ever a time when there was no money on the phone it was because you did not have any, but as soon as you got it, I would have it. I cannot explain the love and respect I have for you.

Second, I would like to thank my aunt Pauline. You haven't been here for me throughout this time, but you have never in life let me down. I remember you leaving work to come get me when I was in trouble. I never had to explain myself because you never judged. I remember when you came and got me out of jail at 3:00 a.m. in an entirely different city. I cannot begin to thank you for the sacrifices you made for me when I was a kid. I thank you the most. You showed me what true love is, and I thank you for it.

I want to thank my mama. You try, but you got your own demons to tend with. I love you though. You show me mad support and believed in the vision since the first time I told you about it on a visit.

Shout-out to my nieces Tati and Shoug, my nephew J'quan. I love y'all to death, and hopefully I can show y'all something different.

Shout-out to my sisters and brothers, Jeff, Tay, Freddie Bob, Asheka, and Aisha. I love y'all.

Shout-out to the dead. I miss y'all. There ain't a day that goes by where I don't reminisce about somebody that ain't here no more. It hurt, but it's motivation at the same time. I really wish y'all could see what I've become.

Last but not least, shout-out to the people who were instrumental to the process. June, you read the first chapter when it was written in pen. You're forever my brother, and we go build a table and award people seats. Showtime Quise, Drick, Slim, and 30 Bands, I remember them late-night vent talks about growth and development. Y'all helped me clean up the concept, and to y'all, I am grateful.

Shout-out to the homie Rio, I hope you give back that time, and the homies B-real and Burleigh Maine. I will see y'all out there. All y'all came through for me at one point in time or another. I thank y'all for that.

Last but not least, shout-out to Breanna Hutley for making all of this possible. Man, without you, I would still be dreaming. You built the website for me and put the book in manuscript form. As I write this, you are in contact with the publishers. I could never thank you enough. You put in just as much work as I do, and I appreciate that. You made my vision our vision, and I see twenty-twenty now. Thank you.

Introduction

The rubber band ball concept is a metaphor of the struggle being lived by marginalized people of every descent, an abstract view of the system in its entirety and the intertwined correlation of one issue to the next. Inside the concept, you will encounter twelve rubber bands that serve as correlative issues within the concept and one common goal.

The concept will promote growth and engender change, enlighten those living in the dark, and assist people in the pursuit of their ultimate goal in life—success. Success is subjective, but we all seek it in some shape, form, or fashion. The purpose of this book is to create dialogue in hopes of inspiring economic, political, and social change for all of humanity. We have to open our minds to a different perspective in life and choose not to point the finger at everybody else but look within ourselves and figure out where we stand first. As the old saying goes, when you point the finger at somebody else, three more fingers are pointing back at you.

A rubber band ball is full of resistance. The omnipresence of resistance within the rubber band ball concept serves as a cohesive force between each rubber band and creates balance; without balance, there would be complete chaos. Balance is at the heart of every system throughout the universe. If we put a mirror to ourselves, it will allow us to see what it is that we are contributing to the struggle in general and to the world as a whole. We have to observe not only the things we have problems with, but also what problems we may be causing as well.

Whether you are African, Haitian, Jamaican, dark, or light brown skinned, you are referred to as Black in this book. There are many different names for the many different shades of people that can be used, but we are categorically assigned at birth. Black doesn't necessarily mean your skin is black; it means your ancestors built the pyramids. To others, it means your ancestors were enslaved and had to fight for their rights. I will refer to all people of Mexican, Central, and South American descent as Latinx. Puerto Rican and Cubans alike will also be included in this category despite having an enormous populace of African and Native indigenous descendants. If you are Canadian, Russian, European, or American, you will be referred to as White. It isn't a reflection on my personal views of categorizing people by the color of their skin, but this is the society we live in today and for me to invent new ways to describe the social groups we belong to outside of the color of our skin is outside the scope of this book. I do explain different positions on matters of race; however, I do not offer different names to describe the different social groups we identify with concerning race. I'm not a fan of social titles because they are a convenient way for society to divide and categorize an enormous amount of people. From the time of birth, we understand the different social groups and where we stand because of titles. Instead of looking at everybody simply as humans, we have to define them by the color of their skin or their ethnicity, career, or how much money they have.

Everywhere you turn, there are inhabitants of a country whose ancestors were from a different geographic location in which they are currently located. Why are they considered citizens on paper but not in society? Why must there be a hyphenated nationality in America? If Blacks in America are considered African American (majority have never been to Africa) or Natives are considered Native American or Latin American (although they, too, were born in the United States) for that case, then who is just American? Why must America have hyphenated nationalities? Why does every job application ask you to check the box that best represents your race and nationality? Is it because it makes the hiring process easier and more efficient, or is it because it has become the standard protocol to divide people based on the color of their skin? These questions have been raised many times before, but yet here we are.

The rubber band ball concept is an original concept meant to elicit emotions by vividly describing the struggle that we the poor people endure on a daily basis. The success to successful system is real and has become a part of everyday life. It seems as if we the people have been forgotten by the politicians and regulators. They have chosen to put the needs of capitalists, corporations, and financial institutions ahead of the constituents they are supposed to be representing. Could it be the world's obsession with growth that plays the biggest role in why we have been forgotten, or is it the ability of the wealthy to influence the government? The struggle takes on a myriad of forms, and it comes in many different shapes and sizes. In this book, you will encounter the struggle in its purest simplest form. After reading this book, you will have a different understanding of the diaphanous system and the complexities within its operations.

Sadly, majority of the people are unaware of the system and their contributions to the predicament they are in inside the system. They go on living their life on a daily basis while it controls the lives of millions of people throughout the world. In this book, I bring to you different points of views and opinions on the way things are and why they are that way. Every system has pieces that work in tandem with each other so the system functions properly as a whole. Some systems are even more complex to the extent in which they have systems inside of systems; the human body and society are examples of complex multilayered systems that function individually as part of the whole. Here is a new perspective on the struggle and the people living it. Money, class, race, religion, culture, education, and professionalism all play a significant role in where you are in the system. Everybody has a role whether they are conscious of it or not. The system is not a bad thing; it isn't some ominous cloud hanging over the poor. The system doesn't think about the individual; the system is designed neither by one person nor for one person. The system was built by many for many over an extensive period of time.

The media plays a major part in how people view the world and from what angle they are viewing it from. He who controls the media controls the world is a true statement. The only way we know beyond a reasonable doubt that the earth is a sphere is because of the media. How many of us have ever been to space and seen it or did the calculations ourselves? This isn't something that we think about, but it is in fact the power of imagery and the media. The media is very informative and much needed in the world we live in today. The markets are interconnected, globalization is at the forefront of every major corporation in the world, and people want to be informed as soon as possible. What happens when the media is used to promote the propaganda of special interest? It can be used to plant seeds in people's minds without them having any clue as to what's going on. Remember when people wore T-shirts over their faces and the first thought you have were of ninjas? Due to the excessive display of terrorists on the news with T-shirts over their faces while cutting off heads, taking responsibility for blown-up buildings full of innocent people, and committing other heinous acts of violence, the look is now associated with terrorism and subconsciously evokes fear.

The same seeds were planted in the 1980s with the American crack epidemic. It associated Black people with violence, poverty, guns, and drugs. Every day in the twenty-first century, the same thing that associated crime with Black people in the 1980s is now on the front of people's minds every day. If you ask a random person on the street who commits the most crime or ask them to close their eyes and imagine a crack feign, both answers will probably have the same result, a Black person. If you ask them about a heroin junkie or a prescription pill addict, they will envision a White person. We know that isn't true, but that shows you the impact the media has on our lives.

The rubber band ball concept is very unique in its approach. It represents the different complexities of the struggle and why the system is full of resistance. Each rubber band represents a different component of the struggle and the rubber band's resistant nature. This for me is why the rubber band ball is the perfect metaphor for the struggle. If you look at a rubber band ball from an abstract perspective, you will notice that it appears to be an abstruse sphere designed to confuse the eyes of the beholder; there lies the perfect metaphor for the struggle. The spherical shape represents the 360-degree cycle that keeps the system up and running. The only way the system can be annihilated is for every rubber band to be completely dismantled piece by piece. No matter how many rubber bands are removed, the rubber band ball will retain the shape, essentially keeping the system in place for generations to come.

People often view the struggle through color-shaded lenses. The struggle isn't a White, Black, or Brown world specifically tailored to one ethnic group. However, Blacks and Latinx make up majority of the people in poverty in America that would leave many questions unanswered. Marginalized citizens have an entirely different view of the world than upper-class citizens. A class system was invented to separate the rich from the poor, the haves from the have-nots. Was it intentionally designed that way? I don't believe so, but over time, it evolved into something far more sophisticated than people had imagined as they made their deals in boardrooms and passed laws in Congress. There are class systems within class systems, and poor people are categorically placed in these class systems, causing stigmas and stereotypes to meet. The uninformed will continue to sleep on the important things in life until they are awakened. When I say important, I am referring to the standard of living and quality of life for all of humanity. It is not a zero-sum game; however, life is full of gains and losses.

In this book, you find valuable and useful insight that will enlighten and educate you on the problems of the low-class community and how each rubber band within the rubber band ball compliments each other. The rich get richer; the poor get poorer is an ancient aphorism that stems from biblical times that can still be applied today. The problems of marginalized citizens go far beyond the lack of money. The rubber band ball concept will take you on a journey from the high class to the low class, from government housing to the high-rises downtown. It is a social pyramid of classes that we aim to turn upside down. Put your seat belt on and open your mind to a new way of thinking and train of thought. This is the rubber band ball concept.

Chapter 1

Absentee Father from the Household

In poor homes without a father, there is less marriage, more early pregnancy and markedly different attitudes toward sex.

—Michael Harrington

It's a man's world is one statement introduced through music that couldn't be any closer to the truth. I've chosen to make the absentee father an actual rubber band within the concept because of the status men hold in the traditional household. Thoughts, attitudes, and beliefs are developed at home in early stages of life. Culture, morals, and values are imposed on children's social world before they are in day care, school, and playing on the streets. Being that men are a critical component to a stable household and a stable household being a critical component of success, I think it's only right for me to start in the household. Despite theories about DNA and the impact it has on the development of the person, parenting is a crucial factor, and more examination needs to be done. How over one million kids are being raised by their grandparents in the wealthiest nation on earth is still a riddle to some. Since we are going to trace the impact the presence and absence of the father has on the household of the lower class, we must first gain some perspective as to why 64 percent (as of 2019) of Black households are being run by a single mother alongside 24 percent (as of 2019) of Latinx households, and they, combined, make up the majority of people in abject poverty and below. Can it be a possible correlation between the two?

There are many reasons why men aren't present in the household; a few reasons they're absent could be a lack of responsibility, a tumultuous relationship with their children's mother, substance abuse, or incarceration. When a man is missing from the household, it makes the household unstable because there are only things in life that a man can teach his kids. Children will always wonder why their dad was absent. This question alone can cause anger and tension within the household that can be damaging in its effects. If children don't know how to deal with their anger, it will be expressed through violence. Women can't make up for the missing father because men teach boys how to be men from a man's perspective. No matter how hard the mother tries, she can't teach her boy how to be a man from a man's perspective. The same thing can be said about an absentee mother. There is advice that a girl needs that can only be given from a woman's perspective because a man simply has no clue. At early impressionable stages in life, a child needs balance and care more than anything.

Oftentimes, the boy harbors resentment toward his mother for the lack of material objects that she can't afford (new bikes, shoes, clothes, basketball hoops, etc.) that the other kids at school or in the neighborhood have. This resentment causes tension because he now has a chip on his shoulder that leads to him getting in trouble at school. The woman is angry now because she has to take a day off work to attend a parent-teacher conference at the school to discuss the children's behavior. Questions are asked about the child's sleep, appetite, and medication is often recommended. The child hears his mother on the phone talking about him in ways a mother shouldn't talk about their child. She's heard telling her friend, He don't need no medication, he just needs his ass whooped! The more days she has to miss from work, the angrier she becomes. She begins to look at the young boy and see his father, so she's heard swearing and sayings things like You are going to be just like your trifling ass daddy or Boy, you aren't shit and aren't ever going to be shit! The more toxic their relationship becomes, the more beatings he receives. The tools for these beatings can range from a belt to an extension cord or a switch (thin tree branch), which in turn only add more fuel to his fire. The violence teaches him nothing of value that can be taken into the real world. The child learns that violence is an acceptable form of punishment and the right way to express one's anger.

In some cases of psychological study, people who are stereotyped suffer from what is known as the stereotype threat. Other people's perception of them subconsciously affects their actions. By the absentee father's presence not being felt, it leaves the mother to be the single authoritative figure in the household. If she's not mentally equipped to take on the responsibility in the proper way, she will be unaware of the exacerbation process taking place by her methods of discipline. The child oftentimes sees it as living up to the standard that has been set by his mother, aunties, uncles, teachers, and peers. If they think I'm a badass, I'll show them a badass. Some parents decide to put their children on some form of psychiatric medication at critical stages of development, only to make them feel isolated and different from everybody else. How can you give a child mind-altering chemicals to make him slow down by diagnosing them with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) or attention deficit disorder (ADD)? They are supposed to be imaginative, creative, and hyper. Children that aren't full of energy would be seen as abnormal or shy. Why are the more middle- and low-class citizens' children diagnosed as ADD or ADHD than the citizens of a higher socioeconomic class? People in the low-income communities are unable to afford the best psychiatric treatment, so it results in more misdiagnosis.

Two paychecks are always better than one. If the father was in the house, he would be able to contribute to financial obligations and help discipline the child when it is necessary. If the mother is full of anger, the father can then bring in positive reinforcements and take proper disciplinary action because she's not thinking clearly. The same approach could be taken by the mother if she feels that the father has maybe gone too far when imposing his disciplinary tactics. Balance is a very critical component in a stable household, and without a man, it's very hard to obtain that balance. A young boy will oftentimes naturally step up and try to be the man of the house to no avail. He might discipline his little brother for staying out late, or make his sister change her clothes which he thinks are too tight or exposing too much flesh, attracting the wrong type of attention. This only causes conflict between the siblings because they will continuously remind him that he isn't their father.

Kids who watch their mother struggle don't understand the gravity of the situation until they are of a particular age. When they come to the age where they can articulately fathom the depth of what is really going on, they are appalled. When they realize Mommy's friends were actually tricks paying the bills and helping out around the house and the black eyes weren't from bumping her head, they lose respect for her. What is authority if the subordinates don't respect it? What is love if a person's perspective has shifted and the person they love and looked up to doesn't really exist? Sometimes people love their family just because they are family. How many fights have to happen before a relationship is broken beyond repair?

What happens when a kid finds out that the woman he loves the most is a junkie'? Whether they are Black, White, or Latinx, the feelings will be similar in the effect. The drugs don't matter in the case because they are detrimental to the environment of the household. They begin to understand why they weren't afforded the material objects that other kids who had two parents were afforded. That is another rubber band for another chapter which I will elaborate on in subsequent chapters.

With an absentee father, a boy will become of an age where he's outgrown his mother. I'm not taking away from the mothers who are doing the best they can, but a boy will eventually become a young man. A mother will often do the best she can whether it's working multiple jobs, taking extra shifts, or engaging in criminal activities. When lower-class single parents are struggling to make ends meet, they are usually providing for more than one child. What can a mother do if her full-grown sixteen-year-old son profusely uses profanity or decides to take her car without permission? The physical disciplinary actions that worked when he was growing up are no longer available because he is much bigger and stronger. In her mind, she only has two options: call the police or send him to the streets.

People in lower-income communities don't have the money to pay for family counseling or the luxury of sending their children to boarding school as the higher class do. Parents kick their kids out of the house, and once they are on the street, they are headed into a downward spiral of disparity. The boy that is thrown into the streets often finds himself having a baby by an older woman or in trouble with the law soon after he is out on the streets. Simultaneously the trouble with the law and the untimely pregnancy can occur because he resorts to the criminal lifestyle to provide for himself and his family.

What will happen when the baby is born and her dad is still living a criminal lifestyle? The father ends up going to jail, her mother moves on to another man who captures her heart, and they, too, have a baby. This relationship often ends the same as the one prior because of the constant emotional and mental abuse. The altercations have become known to mainstream media as baby mama drama, and the cycle is repeated. To put into perspective the situation at hand, you have two kids without their father and a single mother struggling by herself to raise two children without the help of the children's father. I've elaborated on the effects of a missing father from a boy's life, now let's observe the effects of daddy's little girl missing her father.

The impact that a missing father has on the girl can be catastrophic in its implications because her father is supposed to be the exemplar of a man. A woman's inferences about what a man is supposed to be can only go so far in its reach when based on something she never had. The same goes for the boy when he's inferring on what a good father is supposed to be although his father wasn't present consistently in his life. A girl's father is important to the growth and development of a girl to a woman as is her mother. As stated in the previous chapter, balance is a critical component to a stable household and a major factor in determining who is successful and who isn't. A girl's father will more than likely teach her grit, toughness, and the games boys play. A man will teach his daughter how to circumvent the game by artifice of her own, effectively making the hunted now the hunter. The father is the exemplar of the ideal man and sets the standard of what a man has to live up to.

A father can sometimes be overprotective of his daughter and prohibit her from going on dates and learning from mistakes early on in life that will eventually make her a better mother and wife in adulthood. In such cases, these girls do, however, make it to college and view it as an opportunity to let their hair down. This newfound freedom is a breath of fresh air, and these girls are filling up oxygen tanks. When a girl's father becomes overly protective, it makes her gullible and very vulnerable to men. She will eventually learn from her mistakes and gratefully accept her father's protection for what it was meant to be. These women are more likely to establish careers and get married to the father of their kids. Their husbands are usually family oriented and bear a close resemblance to their fathers. Some good girls choose bad boys then become surprised when he becomes violent or a serial cheater. The reason for this attraction can stem from multiple reasons, but it has everything to do with American culture as a whole, which I will further elaborate on in subsequent chapters. There are going to be exceptions in every case, but these women are still usually successful in their careers, and the presence of their father has a profound impact.

The resentment held by the girl for a missing father will be stronger than that of the strict father who is present. On the contrary, a girl who is missing her father is susceptible to the guidance and influence of her single mother. Her ideals and ideologies are all taught from a feminine point of view through both actions and communication. If there is no fixed father figure in her life, then she becomes confused as to what a relationship is supposed to consist of. Mainstream media creates love stories and Cinderella fairy tales that are used as teaching tools for these women but often leave them disappointed and hurt when they find relationships much more difficult. We as humans are very visual creatures. Her mother isn't with her father, her siblings have different fathers, and her mother has a new boyfriend as often as they are moving into a new apartment. The girl constantly witnesses her mother going through a revolving door of drama, infidelity, sex, violence, and confrontation. Some girls suffer from attention deprivation caused by their father not being present to tell them how beautiful, smart, and elegant they are. A father giving his daughter compliments contributes to not only her vanity but also her confidence and self-esteem. This confidence or lack thereof will spill over into her social life among friends and coworkers but also into her intimate life with her boyfriend or husband; whether it's positive or negative will be determined by how potent it is in its presence.

Girls seek a father figure in a man when they lacked the presence as a child. This same young girl will develop a rebellious attitude inside and outside of the house due to the lack of balance from not having a father in her life. The resentment toward both of her parents will be played out in a descending spiral of sex, drugs, violence, and alcohol or some other external stimuli. Sex will be used as a tool to fill the void caused by attention deprivation and finally give her the attention she so longed for as a child. Drugs will be used as a stimulant, and the alcohol will give them courage. This courage mixed with resentment will provide the second voice in their head that allows them to go against some of the teachings they learned earlier in childhood. Fist fighting will be encouraged among her peers, and she will acquiesce because anger simply breeds violence. The more fights she participates in and wins, the more her popularity grows, giving her the much-needed attention of a different kind. These fights will take place at school and throughout the neighborhood, furthering her experience in that arena. As her grades drop, so do her standards, dreams, and aspirations. The doctor or teacher she wanted to be is put on the back seat because a different type of lifestyle is more intriguing. The school will decide they've had enough of the juvenile delinquent, and she'll be sent to an alternative school where she will meet kids who are going through similar if not the same problems as her. By giving up on the child, they effectively put gasoline shoes on her and told her to walk through fire.

What happens when a vulnerable girl seeking attention, love, and protection thinks she has it all figured out? By living a semi-fast lifestyle full of partying, drugging, and boozing, they feel as if they can't be told anything by anybody because they really don't understand. Everybody wants to control their life, but they can handle themselves. These young women began having sex with men twice their age, some of whom have children the age of the young girl herself. They never take time to stop and think because everything is moving so fast. They never put into perspective the mindset a person has to have in order for them to sleep with an underage juvenile but also a person nearly the same age as their own children. She doesn't know and quite frankly doesn't give a damn. These young women are very selfish and don't care about anybody but themselves until they meet their match, a wolf in sheep's clothing. The wolf understands her pain because he is not only smarter but also more seasoned in living the life she is trying to live. He lends his ear, and she pays with her heart, mind, and body, which he will gladly use to the best of his abilities. These young girls fall off into the hustle and bustle of life on the streets. They grow into women as they develop a street vocation that is equivalent to that of a carpenter, makeup artist, hairstylist, plumber, or electrician in lawful society. The variety ranges from boosters (thieves), prostitutes, drug dealers, or defrauders. If you ask a drug addict who turned them on to drugs, they will more than likely say a person of the opposite sex. This goes for both men and women, but in this case, the young girl is turned on to the drugs by her boyfriend because he wants the same control over her (via drugs) as the drugs have over him. She eventually gets caught committing the low-class crimes and is shipped off to prison, more than likely giving up a child to the system. This could help explain the reason over one million children are living with their grandparents in America alone.

Not all girls whose fathers are missing become low-class bottom feeders or welfare queens as President Reagan so infamously put it. A lot of women are fortunate to have great mothers and a good support system that allows them the ability to stand strong on two feet without any government assistance. Not all low-class women stay at the bottom in which they were born. They defeat the odds by making the best out of their situation, and because the struggle is always present, they manage to turn adversity into drive and ambition that they take to school and into the workplace. The story becomes an inspiration of some sort, manipulated a little bit to make others think that if she can do it, then anyone can, but really, it's not as easy as they make it seem. The struggle is usually infused with a little hyperbole to make it sellable as a real rags to riches success story. There will always be amazing success stories and exceptions that can be accounted for in every system, but what about those that don't make it out? What about the regular people who made it out but didn't become celebrities? Those are the stories that we need to focus on because it brings a real foundation that people can stand on. Everybody needs something to aspire to, but we need to also understand that it makes people think things are all right and better than they used to be when in fact that isn't true. If you show a kid that nobody can make it out, then that will kill their spirit, but if you tell them anybody can make it out, it gives them a false sense of security as well. Not only does it shape their minds but also the minds of the people on the outside looking in. We need to create balance and get a full understanding on what it really is and what it is not.

A man is the protector of the household in almost every civilization on earth. Humans and animals alike rely on the man's ability to protect the women and children of the household from any imminent threat or dangerous intruder. What happens when a father isn't there to protect his daughter from sick pedophiles dressed in peace and kindness? These little girls suffer life-altering traumatic experiences from men whom their mothers bring into their household. These men are often very good at concealing their intentions from the parent and often treat the little girl as if she was his own. The women are so grateful to have a man in the house that she fails to see the signs when they are right in front of her the whole time. A recent study revealed that molestation by the mother's boyfriend or close relative is more likely going to occur in a lower-class household than that of the people in upper- and middle-class households. At first glance, one might consider that a very semi-racist remark until they take the extrinsic variables into account that can be major contributing factors as to why such problems exist.

The upper-class society has the financial capabilities to provide adequate childcare that people in the lower class don't. Lower-class constituents have to get childcare wherever they can afford it at the cheapest price possible. Whether this is a toxic environment of a close