Get What You Want: How to Go From Unseen to Unstoppable
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This book will show you how to get what you want, especially if you think getting what you want is impossible.
In this empowering guide for women who are tired of being told “just be yourself,” host of the chart-topping The Influencer Podcast and business coach Julie Solomon teaches you how to shake off outdated ideas of what is possible and use your newfound confidence to make anything you want happen.
In these pages, you will learn how to overcome self-loathing, feel good about yourself, and gain the confidence to accept and love yourself for who you are.
Filled with actionable steps and easy exercises, Get What You Want offers a no-nonsense, eye-opening path that enables you to leverage your power and influence to:
- Understand and overcome the origin stories that hinder your success
- Discover your true purpose and create a new vision
- Set (and stick to!) newfound boundaries
- Gain the confidence to pitch, negotiate and get anything you want
By the time you finish reading the last page, you will know how to let go of what you can't change, how to change what you can, and blast through fears and self-doubt to create the life you’ve always wanted.
Julie Solomon
For more than fifteen years, Julie Solomon has been empowering lives--including her own. Julie has launched several successful online coaching programs and services, including Pitch It Perfect, The Influencer Academy, SHINE Mastermind, and EmpowerYOU Membership. She helps women turn messages into movements, and empowers entrepreneurs to grow their influence and impact through her work. Julie was recently named one of the Top 100 leaders in influencer marketing. In her weekly chart-topping podcast, The Influencer Podcast, she offers up real-time coaching, straight talk, and conversations about business growth and personal development to her millions of listeners worldwide. From her start as a publicist representing some of the top music acts and thought leaders of our generation, Julie has grown to teach tens of thousands of students worldwide. Her work is featured in outlets including Forbes, Entrepreneur, Business Weekly, SUCCESS, and People Magazine. Julie currently lives in Nashville with her husband, award-winning actor and activist Johnathon Schaech, two children, Camden and Lily Jo, and their small but mighty Pomeranian, Foxy. To learn more about Julie, visit www.juliesolomon.net.
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Praise for Get What You Want
Julie Solomon has a profound calling for helping people to conquer their feelings of powerlessness. One of her truly unique gifts is helping people step into becoming all that they are meant to be so that they can experience the full freedom that life has to offer. Read this book to find out how to do that for yourself!
—RORY VADEN,
cofounder of Brand Builders Group and New York Times bestselling author of Take the Stairs
Julie has personally helped me release shame and live fully and walk freely in my story. She instilled in me a rhythm of learning from the past, goalsetting, and boundary making, which have ultimately created a clarity in my vision for my purpose for life. This is a must-read to learn these skills to press forward in a newfound strength!
—LAUREN KENNEDY,
New York Times bestselling author of Still Lolo
"Get What You Want is exactly what it sounds like, plus a ton of kickass advice and serious empowerment you might not expect. The fact that this book is this good AND coming from a powerful woman in a niche often dominated by men makes it an absolute must-read. Cannot recommend this enough!"
—ALLIE CASAZZA,
bestselling author of Declutter Like A Mother and host of the chart-topping podcast The Purpose Show
If you have big plans to be, do, and have MORE—let it be easy by following Julie’s words that are more valuable than gold.
—SUSIE MOORE,
bestselling author of Let It Be Easy
"In Get What You Want, Julie does such a beautiful job inviting us into the process of remembering our worthiness and releasing so many of our conditioned limiting beliefs in a way that is accessible and inviting so that we can begin telling a new, empowered story in our lives."
—RUTHIE LINDSEY,
speaker, activist, and author
When it comes to getting what you want, Julie Solomon really knows what it takes and vulnerably and generously shares it. Her stories and methods will inspire you, move you, and give you just the jolt you need to believe in yourself and your dreams, and take powerful, courageous action. Hers is the voice you need in your head when you’re looking at your vision board asking, ‘But how??’ Read this book and change your life! You won’t regret it.
—JAMIE JENSEN,
award-winning writer and producer
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FOR CAMDEN AND LILY JO,
may you always believe that anything is possible.
AND FOR JOHN,
who has always believed in my possibility.
CONTENTS
Cover
Title Page
Copyright
Prologue
Introduction: Supposed To
Means Crap
PART ONE
Realizing the Possibility
1. What’s Holding You Back?
2. What Do You Want?
3. Steps to Getting What You Really Want
4. Find Your Purpose
PART TWO
Taking Action
5. Becoming the Visionary
6. Creating a Blueprint for Success
7. Pitch It Perfect
8. How to Negotiate to Get What You Want
PART THREE
The Results
9. Limitless
10. The Importance of Masterminds
Conclusion: Time to Get What You Want
Epilogue
Acknowledgments
Index
About the Author
PROLOGUE
A COUPLE OF YEARS AGO, I got my copy of a new book from one of my favorite female entrepreneurs. Years earlier I had learned that she was one of the very first female entrepreneurs who was doing exactly what I wanted to do in business. She had served hundreds of thousands of women across the globe, made millions of dollars empowering other women to do the same, supported incredible charities, and spoke on some of the most sought-after stages. This woman was unstoppable.
I was excited to sit down and sink my time and energy into her brand-new, widely anticipated book. I couldn’t wait to learn new business strategies and hear her take on how to overcome life’s challenges and become successful. But most important, I was excited to get to know her. I wanted to know about her struggles, her vulnerable moments, her trials and tribulations, with the hope that, maybe, I would see a piece of myself in her and not feel so alone.
As I began to read her book, I quickly realized that almost everything in it was just transcriptions of her past speaking engagements, webinars, and online programs. At this point, I knew this woman’s work so well that I started to paraphrase what was coming in the next chapters before I even got there. I made it about a quarter of the way through, put the book on my bookshelf, and never opened it again. I was underwhelmed. I had wanted so much more. I had wanted her.
I knew that if I was ever given the opportunity to write a book (and actually have people read the damn thing, no less), I would make sure to bring the one thing that I want when I read a book: authenticity.
Here’s the truth: I’ve never written a book. I was never taught how to write a book. I’m the absolute worst at grammar, and don’t know the first thing about editing. But I do know what it’s like to have the desire to share your story. I do know the impact of seeing yourself in someone else that goes beyond a curated Instagram picture. I do know what it feels like to want more from a leader you admire than the generalized just be yourself
statements (if it were that easy, this book wouldn’t exist).
Most important, I do know the courage you can gain from seeing someone else do something you’ve always wanted to do.
And that is why this book exists. This book contains completely new, personal material, in a way that I have never shared before. For some of you, this information may be shocking based on my persona or what you’re used to seeing from me. For others, it may be the warm, welcomed hug that you’ve wanted me to share for some time now.
I poured my heart into this book because I wanted to give you the authentic me. This isn’t to say that my podcast and my coaching aren’t authentic, but I’ve always had a bit of a let’s focus down and get shit done
energy between me and my community because I pride myself on being results-focused. But I’m discovering that results can also come from being vulnerable and sharing more of my genuine self.
For our time together here, I’ve torn those walls down to share my experience, with the intention that it gives you the strength and hope to do the same in your own lives. You can’t get what you want until you know what you want. And in order to know what you want, you need to be honest with yourself. It took me a long time to pinpoint who I wanted to be and what I wanted to do. This isn’t a story about overnight success. This is the story of a woman who found out what was holding her back and created a new path to get what she wanted and got it.
I’m sharing with you what I’ve gone through, because perhaps you have gone through some of these things too. And maybe there is something to be learned and shared here.
My goal with this book is to help anyone get what they want in life—especially those who think getting what they want is impossible. I know what that feels like. I was once there too. And I am here to say, it’s possible. You are possible. I’d love for you to join me.
Yours,
INTRODUCTION
Supposed To
Means Crap
HEY, HON!
SAID MY HUSBAND through the phone in a maddeningly chipper voice as he was walking into an important meeting with a director. When were you going to tell me about the credit card?
I sat at the dining room table, frozen. I had just one frantic thought, over and over: How do I fix this? How do I fix this?
My husband had just found out that I’d been hiding $30,000 worth of credit card debt from him. And by just found out,
I mean literally five minutes before the call.
I had to pull myself together and deal with this somehow. But what I really wanted to do was hang up the damn phone, grab some Pirate’s Booty, and watch an entire season of The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills while letting my denial and delusion freak flags fly with reckless abandon.
Instead, I sat at my dining room table desperately sorting through my thoughts, trying to find my escape hatch. I’d been hiding for two years about amassing $30,000 in credit card debt. I’d justified it by believing it would all be okay. I’d even prepared responses. All of them escaped my memory now.
I guess now’s not the time to tell you that we have more than enough airline points to finally take that trip to Hawaii we’ve been talking about?
Ding ding ding. The liar’s got a solution!
Too soon?
Unfortunately, no.
I could hear the anger and hurt in his voice as he saw through my desire to deflect the conversation.
You see, it wasn’t supposed to be this way. I was supposed to land a big PR campaign or start doubling down on my content creation that would bring in the big bucks. He was supposed to land a new role in a movie or TV show. I was supposed to win the lottery and get that thing paid off before he knew about it and everything would be fine.
Supposed to means crap.
I do know this: When the spending started two years earlier, I had recently moved to Los Angeles. I didn’t have many friends. Throw in the fact that I had a newborn baby boy in tow with no support system, and a new husband who was across the country working. No one told me that the road to finding myself again was going to be a winding, complex one. No one said that after becoming a mother, part of me would die, peacefully and quietly. I didn’t know I would miss the part of me that was carefree, independent, and a bit of a wild child. No one told me that through navigating the greatest love I’ve ever known, and learning every day how to nurture life, I might feel my own self slip through the cracks, a little at a time. No one told me that while stepping into this role called motherhood it was okay to mourn who I had been before. I didn’t know what it meant to be a good mother. In sum, I didn’t have the tools to handle what was happening. So spending became a way of coping and feeling connected to something greater than myself.
However, I remember being bombarded with the not-so-subtle messages from social media, telling me what it meant to be the perfect mother. I internalized these messages and knew I had to look the part.
I wanted to be fit, have the right clothes, know the right people, and keep up with the Kardashians.
To do this cost a lot of money. $30,000, in fact.
Before I knew it I was filling the emptiness inside myself with stuff
from outside myself. It hit my pleasure center and made me feel good, temporarily. If you are low—whether you are postpartum, lonely, or sad, especially if you don’t feel like you belong or have a purpose that is your own—you’re not getting that oxytocin hit every day.
So, guess what’s going to feel really good? A package in the mail and a really nice lip gloss! I also loved the community and socialization around shopping. I loved going into a store and having a connection with other women. I finally felt seen and heard from someone other than a baby, and I felt good about myself making a purchase.
And all those little
interactions and daily
hits added up to a big pile of debt.
For two years I swore that I had it all under control. And by having it under control
I mean I buried my head in the sand, rationalizing and justifying my behavior by thinking it would all work itself out. Was I insane?
You know how a self-righteous woman dies? she climbs to the top of her ego and jumps off!
I really needed to be right, but self-righteousness would not be my safety net.
I could feel myself becoming more and more aerodynamic as I was metaphorically crashing my way down to a new rock bottom.
So what I wanted was for my Call-Me-on-My-Shit Husband to give me a minute, because things were kind of messed up. I was normally really good at these things. These things were faking it till I made it, while forcing whatever solution was necessary so as to not feel pain or discomfort.
Why? Well, it’s simple. It’s how I learned to survive.
John kept talking, and I honestly had no idea what he was saying. All I kept hearing was my own inner voice asking, Why am I so afraid to be honest?
MY MONEY STORY
Up until that point in my life, I had been uncomfortable when it came to money. I was afraid of it, to be honest. I had never been good at math, so when it came time to learn about numbers and finances, I lacked the confidence to take control. Those insecurities were compounded by the fact that I didn’t grow up