A Flame of God Himself: Reflections on the Song of Songs

By Joshua Elzner

I invite you to join me on an in depth journey through the greatest love poem of the Bible, and indeed of the whole of world history: the Song of Songs. This is a breathtakingly beautiful drama that occurs, not merely between two human hearts, but between every single human heart and the God who is passionately in love with us. In this drama, we will encounter the pain of longing for a Beloved who seems to be absent, and we will encounter the ecstatic joy of discovering that he is never far away. We will rest in the joy of his indestructible love, which cradles us without ceasing even in our darkest place, delighting in us and cherishing us in our own unique and unrepeatable beauty. And our hearts will hopefully be inflamed with an ardent longing to love the One who has so passionately loved us, drawing us to surrender ourselves to him and to enter into ever deeper intimacy with he who is "the fairest of the sons of men" (Ps 45:2), who is indeed the Beautiful One himself.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Joshua Elzner
• Release date: Feb 11, 2022
• ISBN: 9798201451615

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At the Heart

of the Gospel

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The Love in Whom

All Lines Converge

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Joshua Elzner

New edition published in May 2023.

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The basis of the Scriptural quotations (and the literal text of the longer quotes) is:

Revised Standard Version of the Bible—Second Catholic Edition (Ignatius Edition), copyright © 2006 National Council of the Churches of Christ in the United States of America. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

Copyright © 2021 Joshua Elzner

All rights reserved.

ISBN: 9798743325436

DEDICATION

I can only dedicate this book,

as I dedicate my life, my every breath,

and the stirring of each beat of my heart,

to the Three who alone give meaning to all things,

who are Life who give life to all that lives,

Beauty who give beauty to all form,

Truth who are the source of all truth,

Love everlasting who are beginning and end of all,

and in whom, by sheer grace and gift,

I hope to rest and dance and play eternally

in the embrace of perfect Intimacy, in the joy of Communion.

Let it be, Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.

Let it be, God of Love, for me and for all of your children.

And grant that the frail and faltering words in this book

may help others to know how deeply they are loved,

and to know that you wish for nothing, nothing,

but their everlasting happiness—a happiness begun already now—

in the joy of your sweet embrace, in the breath of your mouth,

and in the radiant glory of the new creation bathed in your light

and made new in the inmost heart of your own eternal life.

CONTENTS

ישוע

INTRODUCTION

God cannot be approached as a problem to be solved, but only as a Mystery to be lived, as a Person to be loved. Any other approach to God is destined to remain far from him—at best perceiving his existence but not understanding his nature or the true breathtaking beauty of his own inner life, and at worst rejecting him altogether as incomprehensible and unable to proven. And yet this isn’t only true of our relation to God, but in fact of our relation to so much of life, to all the things that are deepest, most important, and most beautiful. For problems lie beneath us, to be solved by human ingenuity, to be worked out with effort and comprehension and skill. But mysteries surpass us, even as they enfold us, even as we find ourselves caught up into them and inextricably involved, from the very first moment. I cannot prove that my mother loves me, not with rational dialectic or the scientific method. But I have been involved with my mother from the first moment of my existence, and this begets a deeper certainty. She is a mystery in whom and from whom I have come. I cannot prove that the world is beautiful, that the interplay of sky and earth and sun and trees is beautiful, but I am immersed in it, and it speaks to me in a way that I cannot doubt or call into question without calling my very self into question.

If this is true for the mystery and meaning of creation, and above all of the human person, then this must be true of God himself. It must be true of the Gospel. Yes, we can have the same kind of certainty towards God—not only in his existence, but in his love—as I expressed above in the foundational experiences of our life. Indeed, we can have certainty in all the truth revealed to us in the Gospel, in the Person of Jesus Christ and the gift of the Spirit. There is, in fact, no greater certainty in the entire universe, for this is the revelation and experience of the foundational Reality that holds, permeates, and gives meaning to all things. This is what I hope to help communicate, to make tangible, as the most amazing gift for which our hearts long, in this book.

Yes, we cannot approach the realities of Christianity as problems to be solved, but only as a mystery in which to participate, a voice of Love speaking to us and inviting us into the vulnerability of loving relationship. For Christianity is a relationship: God’s relationship with us, in which it is no longer so much we who seek him out, but he who seeks us out, even to the point of taking our flesh as his own, and suffering and dying in it to be with us in our places of greatest darkness. Christianity is the mystery of a Person—of Christ, the incarnate Son of God—and indeed of three Persons, Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, who seek to incorporate all human persons into the everlasting joy of their own inner life of love.

Thus I invite you to approach this book as the expression of a mystery, and not as a dialectical exposition of a problem. It may read quite differently than most other books you have read, as it speaks more from the heart’s silent contemplation of the multitudinous rays of light that fill our world, and above all of the light that shone into our world in Jesus Christ. But this does not mean that this book is dishonest, or that it seeks to manipulate your mind or emotions. No, I have spoken in simplicity and vulnerability of my own heart’s deepest certainty, my own deepest joy and gladness, and I ask that you receive me in a similar way. Read with your mind and heart; ask questions; criticize and correct if you need to. Be honest, with yourself, with me, with God. Wherever you are, be there. All that is necessary is to ask, and to ask with desire. It is to ask the question of truth with an authentic desire to find it.  Is what is contained in the pages of this book true, or not? And if it is true, what does this mean for my life, for the meaning of the universe and of human history itself?

Perhaps you will realize (or realize more deeply) that the truth you seek is not a concept to be known, but rather the mystery of a Person who deeply desires to find you.

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The simplest things are often times the very things that are most under attack, most easily lost under the surging currents of lies and depersonalization that are present and at work in our world, and in the Church itself, due to sin. And the Gospel is the simplest thing of all—the Gospel which is nothing but the revelation of God’s tender love for each one of his children, and the gift of his very self, in Christ and in the Spirit, to draw us back from our loneliness and sin into the joy of his own embrace. God is an eternal exchange of love, Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, and he has destined us to share in that exchange (CCC, 221).

This book is meant to be a journey back to the heart of reality, the heart of the whole of human existence and of the universe itself. Isn’t that too much to attempt, too grand and magnificent a project to even begin? That would be the case if meaning and beauty and life were far away from us, in an inaccessible heaven divorced from the earth, or if we were so totally corrupt as to be utterly incapable of distinguishing good from evil, beauty from ugliness, truth from error. It would be the case if the gift of redemption was only for the chosen few, the elite, or if it was so complicated that only the most intelligent or educated could understand it. But Christ himself said the opposite. He came to open our eyes, to remove the scales of our blindness, to reveal the true and innate goodness of our being, to liberate it, and to make it new again with the touch of his own redeeming tenderness. Yes, and he rejoiced with a childlike happiness in the truth that this gift is for the little and the weak: Though you, Father, have hidden these things from the wise and the learned, you have revealed them to little children (Mt 11:25).

Yes, life is indeed fraught with difficulties, with inexplicable sufferings and experiences of mysterious evil; it is beyond our ability to even begin to comprehend entirely. Yet God has not left us in the darkness, but has come as Light among us, to bring clarity and peace and simplicity to our hurting hearts, and to draw us back together again, from the multiplicity of fragmentation, into the harmony and simplicity of unity. He has come to us as a living human being, a man, in the Person of Jesus Christ—the only-begotten Son of the Father made present at the heart of the world and history—in order to make a marriage of God and humanity, of the divine and the whole created order, and to make the latter new within the tender embrace of the former. The incarnate Christ is, as the felicitous expression puts it, the "Verbum abbreviatum, the abbreviated Word. He is God made short" for us, God made simple and humble and little. He is God meeting us in our littleness.

And yet this littleness and humility of God is in fact not some magic trick, some temporary taking on of our vulnerability, some encounter with us in our nakedness, so that then he can transform this into greatness and majesty and power. Rather, the true greatness of God is the littleness and humility of love. His true power is the vulnerability of his gift of self and his tender acceptance of us into the depth of his own compassionate heart. His majesty is nothing, nothing but the radiant beauty of his own Being as Love: a Being that is lived, for all eternity, in the form of the sheer and gratuitous Intimacy of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.

The words of this book will seek, however imperfectly, to open up the path for us to draw nearer to the unspeakable beauty of our amazing God, to come to know, love, and experience the beauty and goodness of the Trinity, and to embrace our call to participate in his inner life of love. For this is the source and fulfillment of human existence, and its true blessedness: to be loved totally in the whole of my being by eternal Love, and to fall in love with him in response. This experience of mutual love heals and renews my being, and draws me into the ceaseless circulation of self-giving that passes eternally between the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. In this circulation of love, I am caught up right into the heart of the Trinity’s embrace, and there, also, find myself most deeply united with all of my brothers and sisters, and with the beauty and goodness of the whole creation.

PART I

At the Point

of Convergence

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UNDERSTANDING AUTHENTIC COMMUNION

At the heart of human history occurred an amazing mystery. God became a human being. God the invisible, eternal, and infinite Creator of the universe—who is inaccessible in the depth of his mystery, beyond human vision or understanding—took to himself a human body and a human soul. He lived a human life in this world, in all the limitations that this implies in time and space, in historical circumstances, in the stages of human growth from infancy to maturity, in labor and play, in dialogue with human language and concepts, in suffering and death. This is a scandal to the very world that he came to save, a scandal because a God too close is a God threatening. It is much safer to have a God who is just a first cause or principle in the realm of ideas, or an anonymous force, or the impersonal summation of all goodness. A personal God who comes to seek us out, to take our very humanity to himself and to live in the midst of it, is a God who is dangerous. Right? On the contrary, perhaps God came to reveal something different to us, to reveal to us the true nature of his heart, of his inner life. He came to reveal that we need not be afraid of him, need not flee from him in fear as did our first parents at the dawn of history, and as so many hearts have since then.

The first chapters of the book of Genesis, at the very beginning of the Bible, present the drama to us. They present it in symbolical language that nonetheless preserves for us, and indeed interprets beautifully, the historical truth of our human beginnings. Adam and Eve, those many years ago, were constituted by God in a state of original innocence. They lived in the full joy of right relationship with God, with each other, and with the whole created universe. They experienced their whole existence pervaded in the beauty of God’s gratuitous gift, a gift which had bestowed this very existence upon them, and had called them into intimacy with the very Giver, and, in him, with one another. Adam and Eve stood at the heart of creation, in a garden of abundant beauty, in which God himself gladly walked with them in an unspeakable but real way. They were naked, but not ashamed of this nakedness, for they both knew and felt that this nakedness—this vulnerability of both body and heart—was not something to be feared, but simply the voice of their calling to intimacy with God and with one another. Yes, it was the voice of God’s own creative love written into the flesh of their bodies, speaking of their orientation towards mutual self-giving and the profound union of person and person that this made possible—and, indeed, of the abundant fruit that poured forth spontaneously from this union. Then God said, ‘Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. In the image of God he created him, male and female he created them, and he said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it’ ... For this reason a man leaves his father and mother and clings to his wife, and the two become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked, and were not ashamed (cf. Gen 1:26-27; 2:24-25).

Yes, even more fundamentally than their call to union with each other, Adam and Eve knew that they belonged to God—they were his gift, his children. And only in this primal belonging of total dependency upon God, whom they knew to be their loving Father (a dependency which was thus experienced as complete freedom), could they experience the joy of purity and radiant simplicity in their relationship with one another. And yet here, precisely here at the most sensitive place of their childlike relationship with God, evil sought to enter the world. Our first parents were tempted by a spirit of evil who, being of the angelic realm before the creation of the visible world, had rebelled against the goodness of God and, in pride, had sought to set himself up against all that was beautiful, good, and true, to twist it to his own terrible purposes. Through his pride he fell from intimacy with God, and lived (and continues to live) as a parasite on the good, a mockery of all that God has made.

But he knew how to lie, how to twist and distort. And this he did. He appeared in the garden and insinuated into the hearts of Adam and Eve a doubt in the goodness and love of God. He tempted them to take of the fruit of disobedience, to grasp for pleasure and power and possession apart from the all-sustaining generosity of their heavenly Father, telling them that only in this way could they be like God. And they fell for the trick, forgetting that they were already like God from the first moment of their creation—fashioned by him in his very image and likeness (Gen 1:27). Rather than abiding in the simplicity and nakedness of loving relationship—a relationship permeated by truth and honesty and receptivity—they turned away from their origin and fell into confusion, strife, and the pain of isolation.

As a result of their sin—not as some punitive punishment inflicted by God from the outside, but as the very harmful effect of their destructive choice—they experienced the fracture of all the good that God had given to them. And yet this good was not irretrievably lost, but was profoundly wounded, beyond their own innate capacity to repair. Their intimacy with God was torn asunder, and their union with one another as well, and their relation to all that God had created and offered to them as a gift. After eating of the fruit of disobedience, they immediately experienced their nakedness as a threat, as something to fear and from which to flee. So they clothed themselves to protect themselves from each other’s gaze, and, when they heard the sound of God drawing near to them in the garden, they hid from him too, among the very trees he had given to them in his love. I was afraid, because I was naked, so I hid myself, is Adam’s fearful reply. Who told you that you were naked? is the reply of God (Gen 3:10-11). And then God unfolds for them the terrible fruits of their sin, which has unleashed a trajectory of history filled with suffering and death, and has perpetuated a rift between God and humanity that has continued throughout the ages. But in the midst of his words to them, God also spoke a promise of hope. He turned to the evil spirit, who had appeared under the form of a serpent, and said to him, I will put warfare between you and the woman, between your seed and her seed; you will strike at his heel, but he will crush your head (Gen 3:15). Here, in the very place of human sin, God promises redemption; he promises healing. He promises a definitive victory over all the negative effects of human infidelity to God and his love, such that what was lost through sin is restored through the very graced intervention of God.

Pope Benedict XVI speaks eloquently of all of this, with his usual combination of succintness and depth, born of wisdom and love. We would perhaps benefit from his perspective here, before proceeding with our train of thought. He says:

The first man, according to God’s design, begins his existence in paradise, that is, in closeness to God, in fraternal friendship with all creatures, in perfect correspondence with the woman and thus in security unclouded by fear and in a wealth that depends, not on having great material possessions, but rather on the profound harmony of all creatures among themselves and with their Creator. This unlimited life ends and changes into a process leading to death at the moment when man tries to emancipate himself from divine love, to make himself independent of God through his own knowledge of the mysteries of being. We could say in a word: the first sin was the passage from love to covetousness; thus man passes from life to non-life, from true life to a life that is an advance toward death. Gone is the security offered by closeness to God, by fraternity with creatures; gone is the wealth bestowed in the harmony of creation; gone is the joy of love that, forgetting self, receives all the beauty of the world as a gift. Gone, therefore, is paradise, and now a world full of dangers and threats appears.

We know that we have passed out of death into life. Now we can answer the question raised by these words: What is life? When can someone say: I have found life? Where do we find it? Let us listen now to the whole verse by the apostle and we will have the answer: We know that we have passed out of death into life, because we love the brethren. Love is life. Love is synthesis; death is dissolution. Someone who has found love can say: I have found life. The inversion of the process of death in a passage to life occurs in the conversion from covetousness to love. Christianity is a conversion to divine love and, thus, to fraternal love and, hence, a passage from death to life.[1]

We will soon explore this passage from death to life more deeply and intimately, but for now let us pick up at the point where we left off: where man stands broken and fractured—torn in pieces and separated from all that God intented to be united—because of his own sin. As I said, God promises, immediately after man’s sin, his ultimate victory over all the forces of sin, selfishness, and death. And he does so by promising that the sin of Adam and Eve will be reversed by a new Adam and a new Eve, who will trample on the head of the tempter, and who will manifest definitive victory over the forces of evil and death in the world. But who is this woman, and who is this man, her child, her seed? God leads suffering humanity along the long paths of history, speaking to them in various ways and preparing them for the day, when, In the fullness of time, God sent forth his Son, born of a woman, born under the law, to deliver those who were under the law, so that we might receive adoption as children (Gal 4:4-5). Yes, this woman is a virgin who does not receive the seed of man, but rather is filled with the Holy Spirit of God, and conceives in her womb not just any man, but God himself!

Now the inner mystery of God’s own life, hidden from our eyes, begins to unfold itself, to make itself visible and tangible, in the heart of fallen history. The nature of God’s own being is expressed before us in the living experience of those who were witnesses of the amazing things that happened in those days, two thousand years ago in the land of Palestine. For God revealed himself to us, and in doing so, revealed to us that we, as creatures, were created not merely to be slaves or subjects (which was precisely the lie of the tempter), but rather to be beloved children. Yes, we were created and destined to share—on the basis of our nature fashioned in the image and likeness of God, a nature restored, elevated, and transfigured through grace—in the very supernatural life of God himself.

And what is this life? God has revealed it to us in Christ, his incarnate Son, and through the gift of the Holy Spirit poured out into the world. God’s life is a life of eternal love and intimacy, a life in which three Persons—Father, Son, and Holy Spirit—abide before one another in the complete nakedness of mutual self-disclosure, and, in this living mystery, experience perfect, everlasting, and life-giving communion. They give themselves to one another in total mutual surrender, and this pure vulnerability of their reciprocal gift is utterly secure, utterly safe. For the three Persons, abiding before one another in awe and wonder and gladness, know that they are seen with eyes of love, know that they are received each by the other with utmost tenderness. In other words, the very reality that Adam and Eve—in their nakedness without shame—were meant to live and manifest, is realized most perfectly in God himself! Yes, the everlasting life of the Trinity—before creation itself ever came to be, and yet which is the very origin and model of all that exists in creation—is the perfect intersection of Person and Intimacy, of I and Thou in the We of everlasting embrace.

This is what came to irradiate the darkness of our world in the fullness of time, when God knew it was the right moment to enter into the heart of world history, in order to renew it from within. The second Person of the Trinity, the Son, came forth from the bosom of the divine life—sent forth from the Father by the power of the Holy Spirit—and entered our world, wedding himself to our frail and weak humanity, and living a human life in our very flesh. In this way he became the making-visible of the invisible life of God. In this way he began to heal all the wounds that our sins had caused—from the first sin of Adam and Eve throughout all of history until its end—by drawing all of suffering humanity into his own all-enfolding embrace. Yes, and he did so in the midst of the utter littleness, humility, and apparent ordinariness that marks all of human life.

But he did so as God, and thus did so as the living Convergence Point in which all the diverse lines of human history, all the many sorrows, aspirations, and hopes of human hearts, are drawn together into a unity within his own reconciling embrace. Christ, the Son of God made man, is the center of the universe and of history. He is the Alpha and the Omega, the Beginning and the End. In him and through him all things were created in the beginning, and in him and through him they will all be lifted up into the life of God at the end of time. He has inaugurated this movement, has already pierced the darkness of this world with the redeeming and re-creating light of God’s love.

He has done so in his Incarnation (his making-flesh), which came to a climax in the giving of his very life in solidarity with all of suffering humanity—in solidarity with me where I need love and compassion the most! For at the end of his life, he was betrayed by a friend, was arrested, tortured, crowned with thorns, and crucified on a cross. He died the death of every man and woman; indeed, he died the death in which all the cries of sorrow and anguish, as well as all the prayers of hope and longing and desire for liberation, were drawn together and answered. As the Catechism of the Catholic Church says:

All the troubles, for all time, of humanity enslaved to sin and death, all the petitions and intercessions of salvation history are summed up in this cry of the Incarnate Word [on the Cross]. Here the Father accepts them and, beyond all hope, answers them by raising his Son. Thus is fulfilled and brought to completion the drama of prayer in the economy of creation and salvation. (par. 2606)

Thus Jesus Christ is the answer to the question that is human life, the answer that has also, in profound compassion, lived with us to the full the anguish of the question. He came as the answer to all of our questions for meaning, for truth, for love, and opened his being to us in heartfelt generosity, so that, in him, we can find what we seek. And we cannot help but ask this question. We have been created to ask it. For we have been created—whether we realize it or not—in the image and likeness of God. The very nature of the life of the Trinity—of God himself!—is inscribed into our bodies as man and woman. We all know, in the very heart of our experience of daily life, in both joy and sorrow, in the ordinary and extraordinary moments, that what we long for the most is love, and the fruit of love, intimacy. The great beauty of the message of the Gospel is that God himself is eternal love and intimacy, and that he has created us, redeemed us, and destined us to share in the life that he himself lives. Yes, we have been created, each one of us, to share, in the fullness of our created being, in the uncreated life of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, a life of ecstatic love and everlasting intimacy!

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John Paul II speaks in his Theology of the Body about the spousal meaning of the body as the body’s "power to express love: precisely that love in which the human person becomes a gift and—through this gift—fulfills the very meaning of his being and existence" (TOB 15:1).[*] Through an adequate realization of the reality to which he is referring—the spousal meaning of the body—we in fact enter into the heart of his thought and, yes, touch the core of reality itself. This may sound like an exaggeration. Many questions arise, and we need to clarify very precisely the reality to which he is referring. If we understand this term—spousal meaning of the body, or better, unitive meaning of the body—in all of its depth, it is a kind of key that unlocks so many beautiful mysteries. But if we misunderstand it, or understand it narrowly, it cannot but limit the true depth and expansiveness of our understanding of life and of the Gospel.

The questions that this term, and the above quote in particular, awakens: What about the spirit? Isn’t the spirit more important than the body? How, then, can the body be our avenue to the heart of human existence? Further, isn’t the spousal relationship between the sexes only one relationship among many, one kind of communion among many? How can we limit ourselves to calling the meaning of the body spousal, even if we grant this a pride of place, for wouldn’t this be equivalent to reducing all human desires in the end to the sexual desire? All of these questions reveal deep wounds and misconceptions that we suffer from in our broken humanity, the deep rifts that cut through our nature and our existence as a result of the original rift from God due to sin. John Paul does not intend to question the primacy of the spirit over the body, but simply to emphasize that, in God’s primordial design, the two are not separate, but united: the spirit living and expressing itself in the body, and the body joining in all that is lived by the spirit, two together a single and indivisible I. So too, to term the meaning of the body spousal does not aim to reduce all bodily relations to the conjugal relation in the narrow sense, but simply to recognize that the spousal relation properly speaking is illustrative in a particular way of the nature of all relationship. More on this in a moment. But to be properly understood, we need to emphasize at the start that, for John Paul, the true fulfillment of the meaning of the body is not spousal, but virginal; it is far, far beyond our understanding and experience of marriage, sex, or procreation. The meaning of the body—the donative and unitive and even fruitful meaning of the bod—is fulfilled, not on the basis of mere nature, though such nature is an educative lens created by God for this temporal life, and a normal path of maturation in love, a school of love for many during this stage of history. Rather, the body finds fulfillment in love and communion only when utterly transfigured in grace, utterly virginalized, to live and love in the likeness of the Virginal Trinity. The image and sacrament of such a love is not marriage, but the Cross and Resurrection of Jesus Christ. In his perfect Sacrifice and the Communion born of it, we see the true meaning of the body fulfilled in utmost transparency and completeness. Ever since those sacred days at the end of his life, such an event has been the measuring-stick, the model, and the goal of all love and human fulfillment, as well as the wellspring of ever-flowing grace by which alone we can hope to love as we ourselves have been loved, and, in this love, to find fulfillment.

Let us turn back now, however, to our prior questions. Why did John Paul II choose to speak so vividly of the body in a historical circumstance in which the body is idolized? It is because it is not only idolized, but misunderstood; for this idolatry is but the flip-side of blasphemy, and often turns into its very reverse: the rejection or degradation of the body. He sought, therefore, to illustrate the sacredness of the human body as the living dwelling-space of the spirit, and indeed as the temple of God through grace. Man and woman, spiritual beings that they are, nonetheless come to know themselves fully, and to express themselves, in and through their bodies (though always joined to and at the service of the spirit). One of the great intuitions of John Paul’s heart was that Christianity’s message will not become fully credible to the world again until adequate reverence and attention is given to the body, in all of its richness of meaning and multifaceted capacity to express love, relationship, and gift. and, Given the circumstances of the day and the profound idolatry of sex and gender that is a mark of the diabolical work in the world of our time, he spoke deeply of our call to intimacy as manifested in our being created as male and female. He understood this as a kind of primordial sacrament whereby we image God himself in the relationship between persons through love. It is a limited, partial, and imperfect image, but a basis on which so much can come to be understood, and which can project our gaze (though ultimately falling short as we press ever onward to the virginal core) to the heart of the life of God himself and the consummation that awaits all of humanity at the end of time.

As I have hinted at, the spousal meaning of the body is often understood in a much narrower way than the pope himself understood it—as merely the anatomical complementarity of male and female and their capacity for sexual union. This is due in part to the lack of specificity in the language, such that even though John Paul himself clarifies to the point of saying that the spousal meaning of the body is fulfilled in virginity, not in marriage, we tend to equate this term with the natural, marital meaning almost exclusively. But the significance of the human body, even its spousal significance, is much deeper than this, while also including this. It refers to the very essence of all reality as relationship, as the vocation of persons to enter into communion with one another, and ultimately with the Persons of the divine Trinity, through mutual self-giving. If we are to journey in this book, as we have said, to the heart of reality and of the Gospel itself, it is imperative that we understand this innately virginal, yes this Eucharistic and mystical, meaning of the term spousal. The body is for the Lord, and the Lord for the body, as Saint Paul says (1 Cor 6:13). Yes, the body is made for the Eucharist, for the adoration and glory of God, for eternal union with the ever-blessed Trinity. Nothing less can bring to fulfillment the innate capacities of our bodies—or rather of our whole person, body and spirit—for love and communion, and nothing less can make us truly live for the glory of God, as Paul further said: I appeal to you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that you may prove what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect (Rom 12:1-2).

All of this is not to neglect the importance of the literal spousal relation between husband and wife, nor their specific physical union becoming one flesh (Gen 2:24). This union is a starting place: it was John Paul II’s starting place because it is the Bible’s starting place. But it is not the ending place; the ending place is the universal, virginal marriage of Christ and the Church, of God and every human heart, at the consummation of history, as well as, in this, the virginal intersubjectivity of all human persons on the likeness of the Persons of the Trinity. But we start where God started: by meeting us in the potentialities and desires of our humanity. The spousal union, thus designed by him, is in this sense paradigmatic for all human relationships within this world—in the sense of being a particularly transparent image of what is manifested throughout the fabric of all being. It is a visceral expression of the mystery of the Trinity in visible creation (admitting, of course, the inadequacy of the created image before the uncreated and eternal Reality that infinitely surpasses it). In other words, in the one flesh union of man and woman we are given a glimpse of what all love and communion is meant to look like, and therefore come to understand more deeply what the very nature of reality consists in, since the essence of reality is precisely love and relationship.[*]

The spousal union, in sum, is like a key, or a lens, which begins to open our eyes to the nature of the entire universe, and, indeed, directs our hearts in loving contemplation towards the inner mystery of God himself as the eternal family of love: the Trinity. The pope himself acknowledges this when he says that the call of man and woman to become a gift in their bodies constitutes the fundamental component of human existence in this world (TOB 15:5), and that, through this "hermeneutics of the gift," in other words, through the interpretative key of understanding our incarnate existence as a gift, we approach the very essence of the person (TOB 13:2 and 14:2). For this "is the body: a witness to creation as a fundamental gift, and therefore a witness to Love as the source from which this same giving springs. Masculinity-femininity—namely, sex—is the original sign of...[God’s] creative donation" (TOB 14:4). Our call to become gift in the body is the fundamental component of our eixstence, and masculinity-femininity is the original sign of God’s gift to us, in which we too are called to become gift. We are a gift of Love called to become a gift of love to Love in return. From God’s awesome gift we are called to respond with a reciprocal love, a reciprocal gift, and thus to find the consummation of our being, its true maturity and fulfillment. Masculinity-femininity is the original sign of this gift and this call, but it is not the only sign; it is the sign that sets us on the journey that reaches fulfillment in the embrace of God himself beyond all creation, in whom, nonetheless, all of creation finds its everlasting fulfillment.

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In this light, and only in this light, we can affirm that the insights of John Paul are so rich and deep that they truly open up a path into the very heart of the Gospel, to the very core of reality itself, even deeper than he himself explicitly enunciated in his teaching. For the body is a gift in many ways besides the specifically sexual relationship; and yet in every way this gift-nature still follows along the trajectory of this spousal or nuptial meaning—in other words, along the trajectory of relationship, of receiving and giving, of communion. To do justice to the breadth and depth of this meaning, therefore, we could also call it the unitive meaning; though spousal should also be retained, as it expresses well how spousal love is a paradigm of all love and gift—including the inner nature of God’s own relationship with us, in which he makes us a Bride espoused to him as the divine Bridegroom in the covenant of total mutual belonging. Thus, all love is of its very nature unitive, ordained towards the coming-together of persons in unity, and thus spousal, nuptial, in the broad sense, of which the specific spousal relation between husband and wife is the most precise and paradigmatic expression in the limits of this world, but which points of its very nature towards the eternal virginal communion between God and humanity that awaits us in heaven. Adam Cooper expresses all of this very well, touching the pulse of reality as love and relationship. This will also be the trajectory of all the reflections contained in this book:

If it is true that the universe has been created and is sustained by God through love, then it must be affirmed that there is an intelligibility to the universe, and that love, and all that love implies—relation, mutuality, giving and receiving—is somehow constitutive of what it means to be. ... Anterior to every description of a being according to its nature and actions is its intrinsic relation to an active and personal God, its character as fruit of infinite divine generosity, coming from God, existing in God, and destined for God. From this perspective, by knowing what love is, we are afforded insight into what it means to be in the deepest sense possible. And because love, in the most perfect form, is interpersonal and relational, one may even say nuptial, then personhood and relationality, understood in the context of love, are the keys to the meaning of being. ... [O]ur understanding of love, personhood and relation can only be mediated bodily: through senses, affectivity, desire. Love is not just a rational choice, the considered fruit of a