Pure Energy: The Busy Woman's Energy Guide to Thrive

By Alicia Dumais Temmerman

ARE YOU YEARNING FOR MORE IN THIS BUSY MODERN WORLD?

You are a busy woman. Are you juggling many demands on your time? Are you feeling tired or overwhelmed by the mental load? Are you yearning for more meaning and connection? Or, are you thriving, but would love even more energy?

We have grown up to believe we can ha

• Language: English
• Publisher: Soul Centre Books
• Release date: Oct 7, 2019
• ISBN: 9780648493211

Alicia Dumais Temmerman

Alicia Dumais Temmerman lives in Melbourne, Australia with her husband, Mark Temmerman, and their four children. She is a lawyer of 17-plus years. She runs three businesses around her family, namely a workplace mediation and conflict resolution business, a marriage coaching business and an online health and wellness business. In 2012, she had an incredible experience hanging out the washing. She is on a mission to teach women how to have more energy and enjoy life more. She shares how she transformed from being an exhausted working mum to a thriving business woman and mum, living a deeply satisfying and fun life. Alicia is a Qi Gong Master and has studied Reiki, Emotional Freedom Technique, Kinesiology and the Circle Way. To find out more about Alicia go to www.aliciatemmerman.com

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INTRODUCTION

WE ARE PURE ENERGY

We are everything.

We are love.

We are light.

We are all powerful and all knowing.

We are indestructible.

We are the now, the then, the will be.

We are in between the spaces.

We are life unfolding in all its glory.

In all its beauty and its harshness.

In all its richness and sorrow.

We are the ocean and the drops of the ocean.

We are the grass and the blades of grass.

We are the sand and the grains of sand.

We are the earth, the sun, the stars and the moon.

We are here to remember we are PURE LIFE.

We are PURE ENERGY.

Hello beautiful, I wrote this book for you, the real you. I am calling to the ‘you’ who dwells within the depths of your soul and the ‘you’ who is full of magic and wonder and unlimited power.

You are a magnificent life force.

Before we start, stop and take a moment for yourself. Put your hand on your chest and feel the rhythm of your heart beating in your body.

Take a big deep breath in and breathe right down into your tummy then gently and slowly breathe out. Feel how good it is to connect in with yourself through your breath.

Now, hold your hands out in front of you with your palms facing each other about 10 cm apart. Put your attention on to the space between your hands and gently move your hands out and in.

Can you feel anything between your hands? If you can, this is your energy, your life force, and you may feel a magnetic pull between your hands. This is the magic within you that this book will help you explore. If you cannot feel anything, do not worry. Your energy is there and you may start to feel it over time.

Would you love more energy to do more of the things you love with the people you love?

Do you feel there could be another way to live?

Would you love to feel fully alive with an abundance of energy for your life?

When is the last time you felt alive and you were buzzing with energy?

I am excited to share with you how you can harness your life-energy to thrive.

There is magic in you. Let’s find it.

You are made up of energy. Your physical body is made up of energy and we also have an energetic body, a light body that exists around our physical body, which we can also access.

Our energy is our gold. It is the most precious commodity on Earth that one can possess but yet, as humans, very little attention and focus is given to teaching us how to restore, preserve, and protect our own energy. I want to show you how to optimise your energy to optimise your health and fulfilment of your life.

I want to show you how to connect with your magnificence and tap into infinite energy. I want to help you to help yourself by getting in touch with who you really are.

Much attention is given to our physical health and our mental health but the most important aspect of our overall health, from what I have been told from beyond our Earth, is the health of our energetic body or light body.

If our energetic body is healthy then it will be more difficult for our physical body to become unhealthy, as our energy will be flowing freely without those energetic blockages, which can encourage disease and sickness.

In this book, I hope to show you and teach you how to charge your energy, protect your energy, nourish your energy, and clear and clean your energy.

My aim in this book is to invite you, a busy woman, to understand the ‘Laws of Energy’ so you can use these laws to your benefit. I will show you a series of basic, yet powerful, ‘Energy Habits’ you can easily integrate into your daily life to help you thrive. I invite you to have a deeper relationship with your soul and your energy.

Like me, you may have tried meditating daily and doing affirmations, visualisations, and/or journaling. I have gone through stints of being disciplined with these things, but in my busy life as a working mum, I have not been able to be consistent with these practices.

However, I have been able to be consistent with the Energy Habits that I will show you. These Energy Habits fit into the nooks and crannies of a busy life. Over a whole day, they take less than 10-15 minutes in total with no individual one taking longer than two minutes. You can pick and choose which ones resonate with you. They are outlined for you in Chapter 15.

These Energy Habits have had a significant impact on my health and the quality and enjoyment of my life.

These small changes in your daily habits can have a momentous impact on the quality of your day and then your weeks and then your months with compounding positive impacts towards you consciously creating your optimum life.

Once you are able to work with your energetic field and increase your energy frequency, this will assist you to access limitless energy. My hope is that you will thrive and live on purpose.

Once you master your energy and live with clear intention, you will be amazed at the additional time you have to spend doing the things you love, and to spend with people you love.

I want to show you how to remove stress and worry, and start to really deeply enjoy your life and this experience you have been given on Earth.

I hope the guidance included in this book gives you greater courage each day to fall in love with your true self, not to worry about things you cannot control, to focus more on what it is in life you want to experience and less on what others expect of you and less on what others may think of you.

If you feel you are just surviving and treading water, I would love to help you to start to thrive. Or, if you are already thriving, I would love to help you get to the next level to find even more inner peace and ease within your life.

This book is designed to give you more energy to go out there and share your gifts with the world, and to have the energy to be more conscious of how you and your loved ones are travelling in their lives.

I hope this book gives you a sense of knowing that, in the end, everything will be fine and your soul is deeply loved, is protected and eternal and that no matter what happens in your Earthly life, it all has meaning (even if we cannot always understand the meaning at the time).

"You are the universe

expressing itself as a human

for a little while."

~Eckhart Tolle

CHAPTER 1

UNIVERSAL MAGIC

"The world is full of magic things, patiently waiting

for our senses to grow sharper."

~W.B. Yeats

We live in a universe that contains intelligence beyond our wildest imagination.

When was the last time you stopped to reflect on the magical nature of the universe we live in?

We live on planet Earth, which is a ball that is spinning on its axis circling the sun and being circled by the moon. Earth is tiny compared to the rest of the universe, and the sun is 1.3 million times its size.

The Earth is around 4.54 billion years old while the universe is around 13.5 billion years old. Our planet is part of the Milky Way and it is estimated that there are around 100 billion other planets and around 200-400 billion stars in the Milky Way.

Scientists calculate that the universe contains up to 100 billion galaxies. Even when we are standing still, our planet is spinning at a rate of 1,675 kilometres per hour. This incredible force called gravity holds us to the Earth’s surface, so that we do not go flying into the atmosphere. How incredible is this?

The tides and waves in our oceans are connected by the gravitational forces of the moon and the sun. Arcs of colours appear in our skies all over the Earth with the colours in the exact same sequence, which we call rainbows. To me, rainbows are a reminder to us of the magic that exists in the universe.

We live amidst daily wonder.

Carl Sagan, an American astronomer, said, The nitrogen in our DNA, the calcium in our teeth, the iron in our blood, the carbon in our apple pies were made in the interiors of collapsing stars. We are made of starstuff.

We come from stardust and we are part of the magical tapestry of this incredible universe. Yet, so many people are so caught up in the day-to-day digital and material world we live in that we have forgotten how to tap into our magical natures.

I want to bring these worlds together to show you how to have a solid and calm inner life amongst the busyness of life and to help you connect with your inner-wisdom whilst living in this fast-paced world.

There is incredible intelligence in our world. It is important to note the natural order of how things grow in this amazing world. Once a seed is planted for a tree to grow then the tree will grow naturally and this will involve a long process, but it just naturally grows and the tiny seed progressively turns into an enormous tree with its strong trunk, its protective bark and the branches which spread outwards and reach into the world to provide oxygen – a critical part of the natural order of things. We are just as natural as the tree. We effectively start as a tiny seed and we grow naturally; we grow our strong trunks – our legs and our arms are like the branches in which we are able to reach out and embrace the world. In many ways we are no different to a tree or any other growing and living organism in the world. Our growth is a natural process that once started, nature takes over and develops from tiny cells into an entire human being. The miracle in this process is undeniable.

There is stunning beauty all around us. From the intricacy and colours of flowers, fruits and vegetables and the details of leaves and the patterns of a butterfly’s wings, there is stunning beauty and divine intelligence everywhere.

Butterflies are the ultimate symbol for transformation and joy. I deliberately chose to include a yellow butterfly on the cover of this book, as they symbolise hope and guidance.

I also love the concept of the ‘Butterfly Effect’; coined by Edward Lorenz, a meteorologist and mathematician, it is about the interconnectedness of everything. According to chaos theory, the Butterfly Effect is the sensitive interdependence of a butterfly flapping its wings in the Amazonian jungle on a subsequent storm in Europe.

If you choose to go on this energy exploration with me, you will go on a journey of transformation as you learn, or understand more fully, what you really are and how best to care for yourself in this busy and modern world.

Like a beautiful butterfly, I would love for you to start flying in your life. I would love for you to feel an abundance of energy in your life.

"We delight in the beauty of the butterfly,

but rarely admit the changes it has gone through

to achieve that beauty."

~Maya Angelou

CHAPTER 2

BUSY WOMAN IN A BUSY WORLD

"Are you yearning for more in this

modern and busy world?"

So, gorgeous, you are a ‘busy’ woman. You have a lot going on. You may feel like you are constantly juggling lots of things. Maybe you feel like you are trying to be the best friend, daughter, mother, sister, wife, but there is not much left for you.

We have grown up to believe we can have it all, yet in this modern world, we are burning ourselves out. We often keep pushing through, overriding the messages from our body and our souls.

We are all so busy. However, there are two types of ‘busy’ as I see it.

UNCONSCIOUS BUSY

The first type of busy is that your days are filled, but you are filling your time with things for others or things you think you ought to be doing. Or, you are keeping yourself busy with lots of things to unconsciously distract you from facing any fears/pain you may have, or to distract you from any dreams you may be denying.

You might be living on autopilot and worn down with the mental load of life and the relentless ‘to do’ list.

You may feel mildly or deeply dissatisfied, and there must be another way to live. You may think things like, Is this really it?, Is this all there is? or Is this how my life is supposed to be? You may feel guilt for feeling dissatisfied given all you have in your life, which you are not able to fully appreciate.

You may be looking at other people’s lives and thinking they seem to have it sorted out. When people ask you how you are, you may say something like, Oh, I am so busy, or I am so crazy busy or I am insanely busy in a tone, and with a deep sigh, which indicates this busyness is not serving you, and that you are feeling worn down by life.

CONSCIOUS BUSY

The second type of busy is that your days are filled, but you are intentional with your time and you are consciously living a rich and full and active life. You fill your hours with interactions that are helping you grow and learn and you are deeply driving the life of your dreams. You do less of the things you don’t love.

Conscious busy is about learning how to ‘do’ whilst still being able to ‘be’, to be in touch with you and the present. You are moving forward with your dreams and goals in a deliberate way and you are able to appreciate and be grateful for all that you have.

Busy does not need to mean exhausted. Busy can be thriving. Busy can also include scheduling time for slowness, reflection, and self-care.

In this type of ‘busy’ life, you are intentional, conscious, emotionally self-aware and deliberate.

This second type of busy is my preference for you.

MODERN LIFE IS BUSY

Unless you choose to take yourself off the grid and go live in a cave, the reality of our modern world is that it is busy.

Back in 2010, the then CEO of Google, Eric Schmidt, said that in two days we create more information than we did from the dawn of civilization to 2003. Now, in 2018, I cannot even imagine how much information we are producing and exposed to on a daily basis.

We are all trying our best to process the onslaught of information and to balance so many competing interests and needs that are operating on a daily basis.

If you are a woman without kids trying to juggle life, I have been there too. If you are a woman with kids, trying to juggle life, I am there now.

I have been a ‘stay-at-home’ mum, a part-time corporate working mum, a full-time government working mum, and a mum working my own businesses around our children. I understand how demanding and overwhelming life can feel at times.

If you are a single mum, I lay down at your feet with adulation. Single parents are absolute heroes.

If you are a man reading this book, I am seriously impressed.

Wherever you are in your life, I am compelled to write this book for you because, in the past, I have been overwhelmed and exhausted and depleted but I have found a way to thrive and I want to share it with you. I had an incredible experience in 2012, when I was 35, which I call the ‘Washing Line Experience’, which I will share with you.

My external life is full and jam-packed, but my internal life is still and steady and secure. If your internal life is not like this, I want to help you as I have found that the more solid my internal life has become the more fun my external life has become.

I am married to my rock in life, Mark, who is from Northern England. We met in a bar when I was a 23-year-old law student on holidays in Byron Bay, Australia. It is a pretty cool love story that I share in the postscript.

Mark and I share the care of our four delicious, spirited and energetic children. Two of our children are at school and two are pre-schoolers. Mark and I usually split the week to share the care of our children and the responsibilities of the drop-offs and pick-ups from kinder/occasional care or my mum’s, where they are some of the week. We have periods when one of us is responsible for the majority of the household and the children when the other one of us has more work on or is travelling for work or to recharge.

I run three part-time businesses helping people in different ways.

For one business, I put on my ‘employment lawyer hat’ and I help people in workplaces in strained working relationships through mediation and conflict resolution. For my second business, I also use my mediation and conflict resolution skills to assist couples to thrive in their marriage/relationship. For my third business, I own an online business helping people look and feel their best with clean, plant-based health and wellness products and I mentor others to start their own business.

Three businesses may sound like a lot. But, they are all part-time hours and I choose how much time to spend in each business, around my family. Some people question why I choose to do different businesses and not just focus on one business. I love the variety. I love helping people in these different arenas.

On top of these businesses, Mark is an exceptional builder and he runs his own boutique building business.

I have lots going on but I am pumping with energy and excited about life. Sometimes people may look in on my life from their perspective and perhaps feel it is too busy or I am trying to do too much. Perhaps, my life might look exhausting to them, as they could not imagine doing or wanting to do so many things.

But, if you felt an abundance of energy, you might find that you want to follow other passions of yours and do even more in your life.

I rarely feel exhausted because of the information I am going to share with you. Also, I am getting better at getting help.

This is not about being that perfect super person who can juggle everything with ease. I am definitely not perfect, as my close friends and family all know. Balls get dropped often. Even though I have amazing energy tools, life is not all rainbows and unicorns every day.

This book will not give you a perfect life and I want you to know that my life is not perfect. I like to embrace the imperfections.

Without beating myself up, I try to be the best mum, wife and daughter I can be whilst still seeking to do things in life that meet my inner needs. I still get frustrated and feel overwhelmed sometimes when things do not go to plan but, the vast majority of the time, I feel deeply happy and at ease with life.

I want to show you how to navigate through each day knowing there is a much greater meaning to everything we experience every day and knowing that, ultimately, you are deeply loved and safe and protected and that you have the inner power to get through whatever life brings. When you are able to tap into your personal power and the real you, you can live authentically in this modern world without being drained and depleted.

I thrive on life being full and rich. I have been able to learn how to suck the most out of life each day without the day sucking the life out of me. I want to show you what I have learned.

Are you ready to come on a ride with me? Let’s do it.

YOU ARE MY LIFE-PURPOSE

My life-purpose was revealed to me in 2009 and reconfirmed in 2012 as I will share with you in