A 2020 Vision in a Christian Marriage: A Past, Present, and Future Perspective
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This marriage series is focused on a 2020 vision of the past, present and future ramifications of marriage and family in Christian living. Faith is emphasized in order to help the readers gain a greater understanding of the precepts that lead to a stronger marriage. The principles used in this outline are applied to make it real as it relates to the husband and wife, siblings, parents and children and how they all relate. The authors bring nearly 50 years of experience living and participating in an active role of Christian development in marriage.
There are many discussions, questions and activities which may or may not be gender specific that relate to scripture. This series may lead to questions with contrasting viewpoints that will contribute to a broader, more insightful way of thinking of how we view ourselves as Christians in marriage. The entire series is written with the understanding that prayer in all topics and issues presented is all encompassing and is the first and last option to the success of all elements of marriage and family.
Dr. Henry L. Townsend
The authors met at a small land grant college in West Virginia. She was a freshman and he was a “super senior.” At a homecoming dance, they met and danced the night away. Because of the military draft and because the Vietnam War was escalating, Henry joined the United States Air Force. Four years separated the two until an inquiring phone call to Susan brought them back together. The authors are blessed to be celebrating forty-nine years of marriage. From the beginning of their marital union, which was sanctioned in the pastor’s study, they have served the Lord by working in the church. They have served as teachers in the department of Christian education in every church they have been members of. After they raised their children, the church leadership approached them and asked them to develop and implement an Hour of Enrichment for married couples during the Enrichment Hour of the church’s Sunday School. Currently, the couple is actively involved as part of the 2R1 Marriage Ministry at the church of their current affiliation. They help to coordinate and present workshops for married couples.
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A 2020 Vision in a Christian Marriage - Dr. Henry L. Townsend
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CONTENTS
Introduction
Chapter 1 God’s Original Purpose in Marriage
Chapter 2 Creation of Marriage by God
Chapter 3 Understanding the Differences between Spouses in Marriage
Chapter 4 What Love Has to Do with It
Chapter 5 Expectations of Marriage (Maslow’s Levels of Needs)
Chapter 6 Stages of Marriage
Chapter 7 Fulfilling the Needs of Marriage
Chapter 8 Gender Roles and Responsibilities in Marriage
Chapter 9 Communication in Marriage
Chapter 10 Decision-Making in Marriage
Chapter 11 Commitment
Chapter 12 Covetousness in Marriage
Chapter 13 Conflict Resolution in Marriage
Chapter 14 Financial Assets and Liabilities in Marriage
Chapter 15 The Impact of Social Media on Marriage
Chapter 16 Health and Wellness
Appendix
References
Acknowledgments
And the Lord God said, "It is not good that the man should be alone;
I will make him and help meet for him."
—Genesis 2:18 (KJV)
INTRODUCTION
This marriage series is focused on a 2020 vision of the past, present, and future ramifications of marriage and family in Christian living. Faith is emphasized in order to help the readers gain a greater understanding of the precepts that lead to a stronger marriage. The principles used in this outline are applied to make it real as it relates to the husband and wife, siblings, parents and children, and how they all relate. The authors bring nearly fifty years of experience living and participating in an active role of Christian development in marriage.
There are many discussions, questions, and activities that may or may not be gender specific that relate to scripture. This series may lead to questions with contrasting viewpoints that will contribute to a broader, more insightful way of thinking of how we view ourselves as Christians in marriage. The entire series is written with the understanding that prayer in all topics and issues presented is all encompassing and is the first and last option to the success of all elements of marriage and family.
Chapter 1 Outline
God’s Original Purpose in Marriage
A. Creation
1. Man
2. Woman
B. Garden of Eden
1. Alignment with God
2. Misalignment (The Fall)
3. Marriage
References
Genesis 2:18; Matthew 19:5; Hebrews 13:4; Mark 10:7, 8; Ephesians 5:3; 1 Corinthians 7:1–40
Discussion
This chapter introduces a greater insight into God’s reasons for placing a man in His earthly kingdom. God adds a woman to His design and invokes the presence of marriage for Adam and Eve, the first man and first woman on the planet. Then comes the first sin, which will be investigated from a marital point of view.
Objectives
Upon review of this chapter, the participants will achieve the following objectives:
1. Have a better understanding of God’s original intention for marriage
2. Reflect on God’s purpose for the creation of Adam and Eve in the garden of Eden
3. Compare Eden to marriage (the honeymoon)
4. Discuss living in alignment or misalignment in marriage
Questions
1. Is your marriage currently an Eden? If not, how can you make it so?
2. How was misalignment created in the garden of Eden?
3. List the misalignments that can be seen in marriages.
4. What makes your marriage more harmonious?
5. What takes away from the harmony?
CHAPTER 1
God’s Original Purpose in Marriage
39546.pngThe book of Genesis draws a beautiful example of the first man and woman placed on earth by God. He created them as one in marriage. The setting is in the garden of Eden, where sin does not exist.
In the framework of a creation without sin, this paradise was created by God with the understanding that harmony with God must first be established among all who exist in His kingdom.
The correlation that exists with modern Christian marriages is that couples must first believe in God and Christ. Sharing a belief system enables couples to be of one accord and yoked together in Christ. The result of this union in marriage is manifested in the initial alignment with God, as it was with Adam and Eve (Gen. 2:18, 21–25).
In the Bethel Bible Study series, alignment or harmony is portrayed as fourfold in nature in the garden of Eden. First there must be harmony with God, then harmony with self, harmony with others, and harmony with nature. In order for a marriage to be in complete harmony, all the above must be in alignment. You must be obedient to God to have perfect harmony with Him; then you will have harmony with self. There is a sense of satisfaction in always being in the presence of God.
Harmony with others means being in harmony with your spouse—that is, the other person to whom you have given your life. If you understand that in marriage, spouses are as one, then one becomes self (Gen. 2:23–24). Harmony with others also includes family members and other people in general.
Please note that in marriage, self
is man and wife. You have individual qualities, likes and dislikes, but you compromise and maintain harmony as one.
Metaphorically speaking, in nature, harmony with God creates a serene and peaceful condition, illustrated by a beautiful lake scene or mountain view. This may be in the home,