40 Days to Tantric Ecstasy for Lovers

By Jane Rae

This programme is for lovers who are all-in when it comes to ramping up their lives! The 40 Days to Tantric Ecstasy for Lovers will guide you, step by step, deeper and deeper into trust, vulnerability, personal awareness, and sexual expansion through modern-day approach of Tantric Sex.
Learn how to go beyond what you thought was possible and into the world that you only imagined.
Through this exploration, you will learn how:
To use lovemaking as a meditation. How to bring your version of sacredness into your sexual union.
Sensational, exquisite Tantric Rituals, anointing Rituals, Erotic Play Rituals to increase your pulse rate!
Identify the hidden agendas youre playing out with your lover. Identify the patterns in your life. Learn compassionate responsibility.
Unite your inner healing abilities with your inner lover prowess to become the most potent loverever. Give to your beloved in ways theyve never experienced before.
Learn erotic Tantric Breast Massage, Tantric Yoni Massage, Tantric Lingam Massage, Sacred Milking the Prostate, and Pleasure Mapping, using loving touch to open, heal, and ignite to increase self-awareness, sexual confidence, and to get pulses racing.
Learn how to safely share your dark side so that it brings spice, a sense of newness and deeper intimacy into your relationship.
G-Spot, U-Spot, and A-Spot massage for her. Learn how to service your Goddess like a master.
Learn a nine-thousand-year-old erotic ceremony that unlocks the deepest secret in every mans heart.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris AU
• Release date: Jan 29, 2018
• ISBN: 9781543404883

Jane Rae

Jane Rae is a first-generation spiritualist-tantric-corporate woman. She lives by the 80/20 rule, meaning she mostly lives a spiritual, conscious life, except when shes eating ice cream for breakfast and binging on chocolate. Shes raw. Very real. Jane is known by her clients as an unwavering source of love. She believes in people and humanity. For decades, Jane has been delving deep into the nature of consciousness, humanity, love, and sex. She is a talented tantric sex coach, a warm workshop mentor, and teacher who makes a difference in peoples lives where it really matters. Shes a part-time shaman, a creative genius, a lazy yogi, a sometimes fit person, a medical intuitive, an insightful author, accomplished and driven corporate woman, a mentor, property investor, nature lover, a bit introverted and awkward and clumsy in social settings. At all times, you can count on Jane to offer a true, non-polished version, of what it takes to bring real, sensual sacredness into your everyday life. Author of 40 Days to Tantric Ecstasy for Women. www.learntantricsex.com.au For learn-at-home, Tantric Sex online education courses. Beginners and advanced courses. For singles and couples.

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Copyright © 2018 by Jane Rae.

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The content of this book is to enhance what is already good. It is not designed to replace individual or couples therapy or counselling. Nor is it designed to assist couples move through relationship problems. You are required to choose for yourself the level and depth you wish to go to while participating in the exercises outlined in this book.

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Contents

Acknowledgements

Introduction

(The top three critical components you need to turn your dreams into a reality.)

Starting Point

(Check in with yourself. What’s your ‘starting point’?)

Guidelines for Using 40 Days to Tantric Ecstasy for Lovers

Tantric Words and Their Definitions

(Before you start making space for—and inviting in—more erotic, sensuous energy into your home, here are daily warm-up exercises. These are activities to do every time before you start the daily activities. These will help you release tension, get present, and open your heart. It is critical that you are responsible for your state before you join your partner in a loving union.)

Daily Practice 1

(Holding eye contact, Tantric melting hugs,

and naked talk for supercharged intimacy.)

Daily Practice 2: Harmonising Breaths

(For extra intimacy and extra connection.)

Daily Practice 3: Exercising Boundaries

(Learn how to say yes and no with compassion.

Learn how yes and no feels in your body.)

Day 1     Exercising Conscious Touch

(Giving pleasure through touch.)

Absorbing Touch

(Receiving pleasure by touching.)

Day 2     Sensational, Exquisite Night of Tantric Kissing

(Intentionally giving, intentionally receiving.)

Bonus Section: Naked Talk

Day 4     Tantric Foreplay

(And no, it’s definitely not what you think! It’s better!)

Bonus Section: Naked Talk

Day 5     Learn the Fine Art of Disrobing Your Lover

Day 7     Honouring Your Past

(Meditation for the man and all men before him. Meditation for the woman and all women before her.)

Day 8     Daily Devotion

(The most exquisite form of connecting.)

Bonus Section: Naked Talk

Day 10   Solo Night

(Fill up your own romance bucket.)

Day 13   Solo Practice

(Identify the hidden agendas you’re playing out

with your lover.)

Day 14   Secret Garden Ceremony

Introduction to Tantra Massage

Awakening the Kundalini Energy

Bonus Section: Naked Talk

Day 15   Fire Breath Orgasm

(You are about to enter the world of ecstatic bliss.)

Day 17   Creating Sex Magic using Ecstatic Breath

Day 18   Tantric Breast Massage

(Using loving touch to open her heart.)

Bonus Section: Naked Talk

Day 19   Healing Your Woman with Tantric Yoni Massage

Bonus Section: Naked Talk

Day 20   Tantric Lingam Massage

(Connecting his heart to his sexuality.)

Bonus Section: Naked Talk

Day 22   Pleasure Mapping for Her

Bonus Section: Naked Talk

Day 23   Adding Risk into Your Relationship

Bonus Section: Naked Talk

Day 24   Identify Your Addiction to Approval

(Not sure if that relates to you?)

Day 25   G-Spot, U-Spot, and A-Spot Massage

Bonus Section: Naked Talk

Day 27   Khajarough Meditation

(A nine-thousand-year-old erotic ceremony.)

Bonus Section: Naked Talk

Day 28   Full-Moon, Menstrual-Blood Ritual

(Anointing the goddess. Anointing the god.

Killing off old paradigms, inviting in the new.)

Bonus Section: Naked Talk

Day 30   Extending Orgasms

(Using the three-breath technique. Become a multi-orgasmic couple.)

Solo Practice

Bonus Section: Solo Naked Talk

Day 31   Extending Orgasms

(Using the three breath-PC squeeze technique. Become a multi-orgasmic couple. Practice together.)

Bonus Section: Naked Talk

Day 33   The Five Love Languages

(Unlocking the secret code to your partner.)

Bonus Section: Naked Talk

Day 34   Mother-Child

(Returning to the womb.)

Bonus Section: Naked Talk

Day 35   Using Sex Magic to Manifest Your Future

(A process to unite the finite with the infinite.)

Bonus Section: Sex Magic during Lovemaking

and Self-Pleasuring

Bonus Section: Naked Talk

Day 36   Anal Play for Her

Bonus Section: Naked Talk

Day 37   Milking the Prostate

Bonus Section: Naked Talk

Day 38   The Forgotten Lands

(Surprising and awakening the sleeping parts of you.)

Bonus Section: Naked Talk

Day 39   Anointing Ritual

Bonus Section: Naked Talk

Day 40   Introducing Erotic Play into Your Repertoire

(To keep the energy fresh and new between you.)

Bonus Section: Naked Talk

DEDICATION

Seriously. This is for all those who want more. Those who trust they can grow and expand to have yummier, juicier expansion in all areas of their lives. I’m with you!

Acknowledgements

Thank you to the many clients who have personally journeyed with me through my workshops, my one-on-one coaching, and my online programmes. The gift of being with you—the personal growth it’s demanded of me—has been profound.

Loved ones I shut myself away to produce this book, thank you for putting up with me during my reclusive time. I know I missed many movie nights, many days out, lots of beach-and-nature exploration days, workshops and connection times, and about a million café sessions. I was uber-focused. But you know that about me already.

Ann, thank you for being my cheer squad. I’m grateful for your support even when you have no idea of what the heck I’m going on about.

Thank you to Landmark Education Coaches—specifically Joy, Jay, Olga, Nick, and Kylie—for your unwavering belief in me. I’ve hated your demand on me to become the better version of myself. And I’ve loved your demand on me to become the better version of myself.

This work is the continuation of the seed you helped me germinate.

Introduction

The top three critical components to you creating exactly what you dreamt about—delicious connection.

1. Mindset

We all say that we want to give to and fully receive from our loved ones. And yet our mindset is the valve through which the universe sends love and intimacy and connects to us. Allowing in is the way we can (or cannot) get our deepest needs met.

40 Days to Tantric Ecstasy for Lovers embraces the concept of fully owning yourself (your light and your shadow) and allowing your lover to see both sides while at the same time not making your lover responsible for either. It embraces the concept of fully surrendering and allowing your lover to see you at your most vulnerable.

Just because we say we want this doesn’t mean that we allow this to happen.

If you are silently resisting the concept of completely giving yourself over to no longer withholding part of yourself, you will not be able to get the fullest experience possible from the exercises set out in this playbook.

2. Emotional well-being

Taking care of your emotional needs so that you do not come to your lover depleted will ensure you get the most out of this programme.

3. Physical well-being

Making sure that you keep stimulants (coffee and sugar) to a minimum will assist you to get the most out of this programme.

Starting Point

Check in with yourself. What’s your starting point?

Do you agree with the concept: ‘You are responsible for everything you think, feel, and say’?

If you’re human, you were probably brought up by parents who said things like ‘If you loved me, you would …’

‘Good girls/boys clean up their rooms …’

‘Good girls/boys eat their vegetables …’

If you’re human, things said in early romantic relationships might have been like ‘If you lost weight, I’d find you sexier’.

‘Why can’t you be more agreeable? Why can’t you fit in with my friends?’

If you’re human, then concepts like ‘I just can’t seem to fit in’ may have plagued you at school, in your university days, and work environments.

Does any of this seem familiar to you?

Being willing to take total responsibility for what you have (the results) in your life is the cornerstone to self-awareness (personal development) movement, right? You’re no stranger to this concept.

And you probably would like to consider that you’re highly developed in this area. Are you ready to consider that in some areas of your life, you are shut down, resigned, cynical, and heartbroken? Are you willing to consider that in some areas of your life, you’re in denial, victimised, and powerless to change the outcome?

The willingness to see that this exists for you is the critical aspect to opening the valve which allows the universe to pour in more love, connection, and intimacy into your life.

Being stuck and insisting ‘No, that’s not me. I’ve got it all together’ is the best way to continue to miss out on what’s really available to you.

All I ask at this moment is for you to have the willingness to consider that yes, there are areas in your life where you default to feeling that there is nothing that you can do to change the outcome in an area of your life. It’s a default way of being; it’s an automatic mindset you have.

Sometimes, these areas of our lives are so ingrained that we don’t even know anymore that we have them.

Let’s find those areas.

Find out who you blame for not having the sex life, the romance, and the intimacy and connection you really want.

Write down the names of three people you blame, hold responsible, and are resentful of for demanding too much of your time (e.g., so you don’t get enough time for yourself). And write down why you are resentful of that person. Then third, if you were courageous and brave, what would you do? What would you say to them? How would you put a stop to them taking over your time?

Person 1

Why you are resentful of that person?

The impact this has on my life is profound. It stops me from having/experiencing

If you were totally courageous and brave, what would you ask them to do? What would you tell them you were no longer willing to do?

Person 2

Why you are resentful of that person?

The impact this has on my life is profound. It stops me from having/experiencing

If you were totally courageous and brave, what would you ask them to do? What would you tell them you were no longer willing to do?

Person 3

Why you are resentful of that person?

The impact this has on my life is profound. It stops me from having/experiencing

If you were totally courageous and brave, what would you ask them to do? What would you tell them you were no longer willing to do?

In your love life, what areas are you resisting taking responsibility for? Complete the following sentences:

I’d be able to have more romance in my life if only my partner would

The impact this has on my life is profound. Not having enough romance in my life stops me from

If I was totally courageous and brave, I would

I’d be able to have more experimental lovemaking if only my partner would

The impact this has on my life is profound. Not having enough experimental lovemaking in my life stops me from

If I was totally courageous and brave, I would

I’d be able to reach higher levels of ecstasy if only my lover would

The impact this has on my life is profound. Not having high levels of ecstasy in my life stops me from

If I was totally courageous and brave, I would

Take action and take control back in those areas of your life. Next steps:

Isn’t it wonderful how our minds already know what we need to do or change in order to have different results in our lives?

The question is, are you willing to take action? What’s at stake if you don’t take action?

The best way to get changes in these areas of your life is to:

1. Find a committed listener. This person is not your lover. This person loves you and is committed to your growth. They don’t buy into your ‘poor me’ bullshit, and they want you to have your best life ever.

• Invite your committed listener to support you make changes in your life.

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