The Apple Tree Wish: Made by a Fatherless Girl
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This memoir describes the emotional pain of growing up fatherless and reveals Gods amazing love at work to heal childhood hurts, even through circumstances of rejection.
When author Maria Martinez was just three years old, she heard the word illegitimate for the fi rst time. Though she was too young to understanding its meaning as it applied to her, she knew it made her feel different and ashamed.
In The Apple Tree Wish, Martinez discusses her lifes events being branded an illegitimate child. She also shows the healing and wholeness she received through Christs love and reconciliation with her father later in life.
A two-part presentation, the first half delivers a transcript of a talk Martinez gave for a womens group in 1992. In it, she narrates the events leading up to meeting her father in 1985, when she was forty-five years old. The second half contains a journal of the letters she wrote to and later shared with her father. In the journal she provides pertinent details of her life and shares her many emotions as she dealt with her unique situation.
The Apple Tree Wish shows the emotional scars created by being a fatherless child, but also communicates that Gods love has the power to heal the classic types of childhood hurts.
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The Apple Tree Wish - Maria Martinez
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Contents
Acknowledgments
Preface
Part One
The Label
Middle Child
Guilt
Rejection
A Sleepless Child
My Grieving Place
The Second Rejection
On My Own
My Conversion
California Doorstep
Inner Healing
My Mother’s Dream
Two Phone Calls
The Letter
The Mailbox
The Second Letter
Surprise in the Mailbox
The First Meeting
A Sweet Couple
A Square Rod In a Round Hole
The Good-bye
An Anxious Husband
The Third Rejection
One Harp String
God the Conductor
A Turning Point
Better Now
Night Wrestling
God In My Pantry
The Last Pantry Item
Next Step of Faith
The Backstory
The Confession
Part Two
Existence
Loneliness
A Greater Need
A Disappointment
Belonging
Cuddling
An Inner Controversy
What’s In a Name?
What Is Time?
A Daughter’s Dilemma
Precious Moments of God’s Timing
Just Because
A Different Kind of Love
Bullfrogs in My Pond
A Gunshot and a Cupid’s Arrow
The Hurt Shirt
Does Love Come in Half Sizes?
God Is Love
To my loving husband, Al Martinez
Acknowledgments
T o Dorene Walth, wife of Reverend Clarence Walth, who in 1985 encouraged me to start keeping a journal.
To my many friends and family members who encouraged me to publish my story and journal.
To Elizabeth Pam Dyer, an English teacher for forty-two years, for proofreading my manuscript.
Preface
I first heard the word illegitimate describing me when I was about three years old; this was when I also first heard the name of my father, Thomas Emmanuel. And that was the beginning of my longing for a father’s love. The lack of a biological father in my life affected me in so many ways. Not until many years later did I put pen to paper to describe my inner struggles.
From December 1985 through October 1986, I wrote a journal of intensely personal letters to my father. The letters touched many heart issues I had as an unwanted child, such as loneliness, rejection, abandonment, guilt, and low self-esteem, to name just a few. In writing the journal, I gained spiritual insight into what the love of a father means, especially to a daughter.
About seven years later, my sister-in-law, Joyce Rivera, suggested I tell my story about finding and meeting my father to other women at her church. So on February 8, 1992, I spoke to the women’s group at Bell Road Baptist Church of Auburn, California. My talk was recorded on cassette, the transcription of which is the foundation of this book and the earlier-written journal.
Over the past twenty-five years, many of my friends have listened to the audio recording and have read a copy of my journal. It still surprises me to learn (even from recent readers) how God spoke to them regarding the various emotional issues of which I wrote. God ministered to them through my journal, and they encouraged me to combine the audio recording and the journal into book form.
In the summer of 1985, when I was forty-five years old, I found my father, Thomas Emmanuel, and gave him the journal as a gift for his birthday on November 16, 1986. This gift had a profound effect on him because through it I was able to tell him about God’s love for him.
This book begins with the transcript of my talk. The end of the transcript may seem like a rosy finale of the events leading up to finding my father, but it is not the end of the story. The journal continues with the details of the forming of this new and fragile father-daughter relationship, and delves into and reveals the power God has to heal a full range of emotions.
As I was finishing the journal, God stunned and taught me a new dimension of faith and love, leaving me with one big unanswered question to this day. I truly believe Romans 11:33, O the depth of the riches both of the wisdom and knowledge of God! How unsearchable are his judgments and his ways past finding out!
I hope you will allow my God of love to work in your life also.
Maria Martinez
Irvine, California
June 2012
Part One
Bell Road Baptist Church Transcript
February 8, 1992
The Label
I grew up with an invisible label on me, one I wore like a nametag. I knew when people saw this label, by the way they looked at me. It was an examining stare, usually followed by whispers, She’s the one …
or Her mother …
The label meant I was different from everyone else in my small town in New Jersey where I was born in 1940. The stares and whispers shamed me about being different,
and the more I learned about the label, the more painful it became. The label read, Illegitimate.
I first heard this word describing me when I was about three years old.
Middle Child
M y mother was married to a man named Girard, and their firstborn was my older sister. Theirs was not a happy marriage, and I was conceived after my mother separated from him. My father was a widower who had a son about twelve years old. After I was born, he took off with his son to California. My mother then reconciled with Girard and later gave birth to my younger brother and sister.
I was the middle child and looked very different from my sisters and brother. I stood out like a sore thumb. People often asked, Who does she look like?
That question always provoked a very painful memory of what took place when I was about three years old.
Late one night, I was awakened and heard my mother, Girard, and my maternal grandfather talking about me. It was then that I heard my father’s name, Thomas Emmanuel. They agreed to not tell me I was illegitimate or that Thomas was my father. Illegitimate was a really hard word for a three-year-old to understand. I thought it meant something was wrong inside of me. The only part of the word I did understand was the first syllable, ill, so I thought I had some sort of disease.
Back then, in 1940, it was scandalous to be pregnant and unmarried and even worse yet to be married and pregnant with another man’s child. Divorce was rare, as it was looked upon with scorn and shame. That night, my grandfather was attempting to reconcile my mother and Girard to save the family name and my mother from the stigma of divorce.
Guilt
M y relationship with my mother was not a good one. She suffered from long and frequent periods of depression, during which she would often say, You are the biggest mistake of my life. I wish I never had you. I should have died rather than have you.
Those words always created a new wound in my soul. Even though I did not fully understand the reasons behind her statements, I knew I was the cause of her unhappiness, and there was nothing I could do about it. I felt enormously sad for her and carried a heavy burden of guilt. Had I known about suicide back then, I may have been tempted to consider it as a way out of my dilemma.
My stepfather, Girard, was not mean to me, but there was no father-daughter bonding. Often, he would relax in