Let’S Keep It Real

By Maxine Oliver

Lets keep it real is a womans no-nonsense, no-bullshit guide to achieving relationship happiness. It takes a holistic approach to managing relationships with emphasis on self-confidence and empowerment.
It takes a bold look at common pitfalls women make that destine them to being side chicks, booty calls, and second choices. Continue squirting him free milk and he will be in no hurry to buy the cow. For the married women: once he takes that cow home, you better continue producing good quality milk, or that bull will moo-zee on to greener pastures.
So enough with giving yourself away at the drop of a pin for nothing or wasting your years away; it is time to claim your worth!
You are deserving of all the goodness that life has to offer and together we will get you there.
Happiness: Envision it, believe it, live it!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Jan 14, 2014
• ISBN: 9781493158119

Maxine Oliver

Maxine Elizabeth Oliver is a national of the twin island Republic of Trinidad and Tobago. I am a qualified accountant and currently reside in the exotic British Virgin Islands with British husband, Craig, and daughter, Myah. If all goes to plan, there should be a baby on the horizon in the not-too-distant future . . . ssshhh. I am a free spirit. I love to laugh, let loose, and be happy. I enjoy family time, but I certainly know how to turn things up on the dance floor! It was a sheer pleasure scripting my thoughts and experiences. I hope the words help to inspire and provoke positivity into your life. Positive or negative, I welcome your feedback. Feel free to share your thoughts with me via [e-mail] Live, Laugh, Love. Dare to Achieve! Sincerely, Max.

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Copyright © 2014 by Maxine Oliver. 143812-OLIV

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Rev. date: 01/07/2014

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Contents

Synopsis

1. Thrill Of The Chase

2. You Have To Be This Tall To Get On This Ride

3. Love Yourself

4. Bitch Mode

5. Independence Is Sexy

6. Claim Your Power

7. Friends

8. A Cheater’s Delight

9.The Happily Ever After

SYNOPSIS

Let’s keep it real is a woman’s no-nonsense, no-bullshit guide to achieving relationship happiness. It takes a holistic approach to managing relationships with emphasis on self-confidence and empowerment.

It takes a bold look at common pitfalls women make that destine them to being side chicks, booty calls, and second choices. Continue squirting him free milk and he will be in no hurry to buy the cow. For the married women: once he takes that cow home, you better continue producing good quality milk, or that bull will moo-zee on to greener pastures.

So enough with giving yourself away at the drop of a pin for nothing or wasting your years away; it is time to claim your worth!

You are deserving of all the goodness that life has to offer and together we will get you there.

Happiness: Envision it, believe it, live it!

1. THRILL OF THE CHASE

Relationships are indeed complex, and, sadly, women help to make them unnecessarily even more complicated. Put hormones, love, jealousy, and anger in the mix and it is a disaster soup in the making. Keep reading, and, hopefully, we can make this disaster soup a bit more acceptable for any palate.

Some of the points are along the lines of a common sense approach; others are traits that can be learned. There just needs to be a willingness to understand your own actions and how they impact interactions within your relationship. Together we can achieve smooth, harmonious living, the way life is meant to be lived and enjoyed.

The Goal: To help you live your best life within your relationship today!

So where shall we begin? Ah yes, boy meets girl.

Men Are Hunters, Allow Them to Hunt!

Do not surrender yourself at the first sign of interest by a man. Believe that you are worth more and act like it. Allow a man to satisfy his predator instinct and enjoy the victory of the chase and conquest.

Simple example, a dear friend of mine, wonderful, beautiful, educated individual, Tia, she always finds herself in relationships where she gives herself away in the shortest possible time frame. Everything is hot and racy for a few months and then the guy loses interest and moves on.

Of course, there can be a lot more factors that cause things to go astray; however, with each of the relationships, there is the common factor, where Tia is the aggressor. Once the guy expresses a minor interest, she does not allow him to follow through. She takes the lead in every way and is quick to take the conversations and actions prematurely to sex.

A guy will jump at the opportunity to head in the sex direction; however, doing so prematurely jeopardizes the growth opportunity for the relationship.

Tia has a lot of great qualities; however, in relationships, she seems to equate her value to sex. As such, she puts it out there at the onset, in an attempt to win and secure the guy. Unfortunately, this has quite the opposite effect on men in pursuit of a serious relationship.

If you allow it to be about sex from the early stages then you will only be about sex. So, unless you are content with just being a booty call, then create a foundation first.

The key here is not to be a stick-in-the-mud and needlessly anal about everything; however, allow a man to charm you. Play along with the courting game. It may seem old school, but if this method isn’t broken then do not try to fix it. A man takes some pride in being able to impress you, so afford him the opportunity.

Allow him to pull out your chair, smile with a sweet thank-you. Some men tend to feel awkward performing gentlemen tasks: opening doors, pulling out chairs. So when he does it initially, be sure to acknowledge it with courtesy. It sets the right tone so that he understands what you expect.

In return, you will show him that you appreciate the gentlemanlike gestures. So say your thank-you, smile, twirl your hair, heck, curtsy if you feel like it, but simply show appreciation for the little things he does along the way. It opens the way for him to continue and to even enjoy performing these little tasks for his woman.

Allow Yourself to Be Conquered at the Right Time in Your Own Time

You may already be wounded prey for slaughter, but the trick is to allow the man to hunt. Resist the urge to be the aggressor. Retreat a little and watch as it has the opposite effect. He will shift gears and head into pursuit mode—puzzling but true. It will give him a sense of empowerment and accomplishment. You did not surrender easily. He earned his hunt, and you are the ultimate prize.

Do not be in a rush to put it all out there initially, hold some back. If you sleep with him on the first night, without knowing anything substantial about him—his surname, background, etc.—then do not be surprised when he only calls for late-at-night booty calls. You only have yourself to blame for not setting the right tone from inception.

Only when you are comfortable to take it to the intimate level then allow it to go there. There is no set time frame for this. Only you will be able to evaluate