Nourish: Encouragement for Parents Homeschooling Through High School
()
About this ebook
"You will never regret spending time with the people you love."
Homeschooling is not for the faint at heart. However, it can be a journey with beautiful rewards. Whether you wholeheartedly choose to homeschool in the high schoo
Related to Nourish
Related ebooks
How to Survive Homeschooling - A Self-Care Guide for Moms Who Lovingly Do Way Too Much Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsTake Heart: 26 Steps to a Healthy Home School Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsThe Four-Hour School Day: How You and Your Kids Can Thrive in the Homeschool Life Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5You Can Homeschool: Answers, Methods, and Resources with Real-Life Stories Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsHomeschooling the Challenging Child: A Practical Guide Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Homeschooling Handbook: How to Make Homeschooling Simple, Affordable, Fun, and Effective Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Eww.... You Homeschool? Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsGiving Your Children Wings Without Losing Yours Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratings7 P’S in a Pod: A Purposeful System for Home Schooling Success Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsHomeschooling 101: The Essential Handbook Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Inspirational Homeschooling: The Christian Homeschooling Guide to Balancing Academics and Family Life Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsParenting with Scripture: A Topical Guide for Teachable Moments Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5The Core: Teaching Your Child the Foundations of Classical Education Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5The Lifegiving Parent: Giving Your Child a Life Worth Living for Christ Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Abundant Motherhood: Let Go of Perfection, Discover Life in Christ, Establish a Legacy of Faith Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsPlan Your Year: Homeschool Planning for Purpose and Peace Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Homeschool Adventures, Learning Through the Power of Field Trips Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5No-Sweat Home Schooling: The Cheap, Free, and Low-Stress Way to Teach Your Kids Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Productive Homeschooling: Our Unconventional, Accelerated, Debt-free, Values-centered Journey Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsLove in a Time of Homeschooling: A Mother and Daughter's Uncommon Year Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Better Together: Strengthen Your Family, Simplify Your Homeschool, and Savor the Subjects that Matter Most Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/58 Great Smarts for Homeschoolers: A Guide to Teaching Based on Your Child's Unique Strengths Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Homeschooling - A Beginner´s Guide Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsHomeschooling at the Speed of Life: Balancing Home, School, and Family in the Real World Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Healing Rhythms of Home: 30 Days of Devotion for the Homeschool Mom Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsThe Ultimate Guide to Homeschooling: Year 2001 Edition: Book and CD Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Homeschooling From A to Z Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Homeschooling Boys to Men: Adventures in Homeschooling Book #1, #2 Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsCreate a Great Homeschool Experience: Learn to teach in your home for your child's success Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5
Teaching Methods & Materials For You
The Three Bears Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5How to Take Smart Notes. One Simple Technique to Boost Writing, Learning and Thinking Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5From 150 to 179 on the LSAT Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Jack Reacher Reading Order: The Complete Lee Child’s Reading List Of Jack Reacher Series Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Speed Reading: How to Read a Book a Day - Simple Tricks to Explode Your Reading Speed and Comprehension Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters--And How to Get It Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Speed Reading: Learn to Read a 200+ Page Book in 1 Hour: Mind Hack, #1 Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Personal Finance for Beginners - A Simple Guide to Take Control of Your Financial Situation Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5How to Think Like a Lawyer--and Why: A Common-Sense Guide to Everyday Dilemmas Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5Fluent in 3 Months: How Anyone at Any Age Can Learn to Speak Any Language from Anywhere in the World Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5How To Be Hilarious and Quick-Witted in Everyday Conversation Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Financial Feminist: Overcome the Patriarchy's Bullsh*t to Master Your Money and Build a Life You Love Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5The Chicago Guide to Grammar, Usage, and Punctuation Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap...And Others Don't Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Principles: Life and Work Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Art of Self-Directed Learning: 23 Tips for Giving Yourself an Unconventional Education Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5The 5 Love Languages of Children: The Secret to Loving Children Effectively Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Lies My Teacher Told Me: Everything Your American History Textbook Got Wrong Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Who Gets In and Why: A Year Inside College Admissions Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers: The Secret to Loving Teens Effectively Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Weapons of Mass Instruction: A Schoolteacher's Journey Through the Dark World of Compulsory Schooling Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Closing of the American Mind Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Why Are You Still Sending Your Kids to School? Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Excellent Sheep: The Miseducation of the American Elite and the Way to a Meaningful Life Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5How To Do Motivational Interviewing: A guidebook for beginners Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5
Reviews for Nourish
0 ratings0 reviews
Book preview
Nourish - Cara McLauchlan
Nourish
Encouragement for Parents Homeschooling Through High School
Cara McLauchlan
Copyright © 2021 by Cara McLauchlan
All rights reserved.
No part of this book may be reproduced in any form or by any electronic or mechanical means, including information storage and retrieval systems, without written permission from the author, except for the use of brief quotations in a book review.
Unless otherwise indicated, Scripture quotations are taken from the Life Application Bible New International Version published jointly by Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. and Zondervan Publishing House.
Life Application Bible New International Version copyright 1988, 1989, 1990, 1991 by Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, IL 60189. All rights reserved.
Emphasis in Scripture quotations is from the author.
Cover by Courtney Sanford Design, www.courtneysanford.net
Nourish - Encouragement for Parents
Homeschooling Through High School
Copyright 2021 by Cara McLauchlan
Published by Vellum and IngramSpark
ISBN 978-1-7360439-0-5 (pbk.)
ISBN 978-1-7360439-1-2 (eBook)
The Library of Congress has cataloged the edition as follows:
McLauchlan, Cara
Nourish, encouragement for parents homeschooling through high school/Cara McLauchlan.
ISBN 978-1-7360439-0-5 (pbk.)
Names and identities have been changed for privacy.
Printed in the United States of America.
For Russ, the catalyst in the great adventure.
Contents
Why the World Needs You to Stay Fierce
1. Starting
Beginning
The Homeschooling Secret
What’s Your Why?
My Big Fat Homeschool
Think Biggish
Tools of the Trade
Heartsongs
Start as You Mean to Continue
Make It Yours
Starting Slow
Homeschooling Like Jesus
Do It Yourself
A Beautiful Ecosystem
The Power of Stories
No Homeschool Is an Island
The Saving Grace of Humor
Mix It Up
Trusting Yourself to Homeschool Well
2. The Daily Walk
What is Your First?
Loving Traditions
Walking It Out
The Golden Hour
Worth It
Holding Things Loosely
The Secret Sauce of Road Trips
Thinking Small
Savoring
Upgrading
The Power of Our Words
Showing Up Anyway
The Little Things
Becoming
Bolder
Unproductivity
Embracing the Grind
Navigating Changes
3. Mindset
Bring What You Have
This One Day
Elevator Speech
It’s Not About You
Good Enough
Prejudice
Tough Goings
Worth
Not Working Ahead
The Pause
Seeing More of God
The Perfect Christian Homeschooler
Cultivating Relationship
Represent
Getting Out of God’s Way
Mindshifting
Disappointment
4. Overcoming
Unexpected Light
Fears
Stay in Your Lane
Stay Curious
Persevering
The Alien Who Sleeps Upstairs
Sick Days
Be Here Now
Comparison
Funk
Seasons
The Authenticity of Winter
Letting the Difficulties Transform You
Laying Down Perfection
Change Your Mind
Finding Strength in the Waiting
Sanctification
Making Friends with Defeat
Finding Hope in Sleepless Nights
Blooming in Secret
Move Past Your Emotions
Transcripts Are Not the Boss of Me
5. Renewal
Resting as You Go
Right Now Joy
Treasuring Community
Behold
Playing the Cool Parent Card
Sabbath
Blooming Anyway
Hidden Places
Easier
Hiving Off
Pauses
Legacy Thinking
Pockets of Rest
Coming Alive
Sing
Listening to Your Life
Designing the Future You
Waking Up
Move It
In Search of Fun
Radical
Refresh
6. Finishing Strong
Finishing Strong
Missing It
Strawberry Season
God Academics
Yes, Homeschoolers Do Go to Prom
Summertime Rs
Relish
The Sacred Art of Parenting
Now What?
Not the End
Love the Change
Chapter 7
End Notes
About Cara McLauchlan
Why the World Needs You to Stay Fierce
Introduction
Homeschooling is a worthy path. Whether you choose it purposefully or circumstances dictate it, there is beauty in it.
Some reading this may have homeschooled since birth and are looking for encouragement. Others have never homeschooled or even want to homeschool. Take heart. Whether you find yourself here happily or not, I promise there is goodness in this season. I believe every parent has the ability to homeschool. It’s about trusting yourself to do it. With God’s help, you absolutely can.
Most of us would do anything for our kids. If your child was sick, you would traverse the Grand Canyon and back to get care for your child. With deep love, you would walk through burning coals for your kid. Homeschooling is about harnessing the same passion to pour into your child’s heart and mind.
Many of us don’t feel equipped to do this. Perhaps you don’t feel you can handle hard classes. Remember, all of it isn’t entirely up to you. You are designing a feast of ideas for your student, but you don’t have to cook every course. There never will be a teacher more dedicated to managing their education than you. You are the exact right person to do this.
I wrote this companion to offer encouragement for the journey through the high school years. With love, dedication, prayer, and effort, this season will equip your family beyond measure. You’ve done it for years, whether you have homeschooled formally or not. You’ve taught them how to walk, talk, appreciate manners, and honor values. You’ve nourished and nurtured them their entire life. You know their hearts. You are dedicated to bringing out God’s best in them. No one will ever take this task as seriously as you will. This alone is what makes you the absolute best teacher for them.
Please know my opinions are only one idea. Also, I only homeschooled one child, which has blessings and difficulties all its own. Families homeschooling multiple children have their own unique set of blessings and difficulties. My journey may not look like yours, but we all have similar ambitions.
Most everyone sets off to homeschool based on love. Sometimes we come from places of brokenness, desperation, heartache, or longing. However we arrive here, we can all agree that homeschooling is our chance to let God direct our days to foster greatness in our kids. This is no easy task, but it is a lovely one and worthy of our time.
This book is to remind you to stay fierce for this calling. The world needs your family to be an example of doing hard things for God. He will equip you if you trust Him; there is no greater work than to pour out love for your family. Homeschooling is a way to encourage our families to see God at the heart of it all. It is a worthy path.
Stay Fierce in Him,
Cara McLauchlan
2021
1
Starting
Chapter One
Ideas and equipping to begin your homeschool journey.
Do not despise small beginnings, for the Lord rejoices to see the work begin.
Zechariah 4:10 (NLT)
Beginning
Look to the Lord and his strength; seek his face always.
Psalm 105:4
Homeschooling isn’t for the faint of heart. Do yourself a favor and if you decide to homeschool this season, be all in. Starting out wishy-washy makes for a tough time for everyone.
As you begin, first make sure homeschooling is for you and your child. Maybe you don’t have a choice, maybe you do. Talk to God. Look for His nudges and direction. If you think it is the path God is leading you down, know with certainty that you and your child are on the same path. I have met plenty of parents who decided for their students without any input. It is painfully obvious their kids hate every minute of every day. They battle with their parents constantly. Invite your child into the decision by praying and discussing it thoroughly as a family.
We all have doubts in everything. We all want an absolute guarantee with homeschooling to deliver a Harvard-bound, full-ride scholar, grounded in faith and motivated to save the world. However, the results can never be known for sure. There are no guarantees that homeschooling means perfection or success. As with any form of education -- public, private, charter or homeschool -- there is no absolute certainty your child will thrive and succeed.
Certainly, do all the things you know beforehand to have confidence in your decision. Do your research. Know what all your school options are, evaluate your resources and talents, pray about it, and look to God for direction and confirmation.
The high school years are particularly hard for doubters like me. It feels like a high stakes game when you think your child’s future success in life depends on you. Yet is that really true?
Is it true high school was the complete and ultimate thing shaping your success in life? Maybe. Most likely not. High school absolutely gives you tools in your toolbox. I look back on my high school years and the most memorable equipping I received was from a typing class and working for a fast-food restaurant.
Yes, high school is important and we want to give our kids as many resources as possible. However, this season is not the only one giving them what they need to launch into the world. This is simply the season your family is in and there will be many more equipping seasons to come.
As you begin, decide you will do this for one year. When it’s over, then evaluate. Or if you are like my friend Anne, decide you are staying on this path until God taps you on the shoulder and tells you otherwise. Think about the kind of year that makes your child’s soul come alive. Gather input from your child for emotional investment in their education, too. This is your child’s practice for taking ownership of their future.
Most importantly as you begin, be all in for the year. The greatest torture is the parents who second guess every move they make and constantly want you to know how much they are struggling. They are the obvious ones because their kids see their doubts and begin to reflect those, making everyone miserable.
Remember, nothing pursued out of love is ever lost. As you commit to the beginning of a school year, decide this will be a year of love no matter what. Even when it is hard, drama-filled, accomplished, or beautiful, this time spent with loved ones will be yours to keep. All of the golden memories -- good, bad, or otherwise -- will never be lost. Be all in.
Think
Ask God to direct your path for the year. What is He whispering in your heart about His plans for your family?
The Homeschooling Secret
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
1 Corinthians 13:13
I began homeschooling after my son finished third grade. On the last day of school, he was like a little old man. He wasn’t sleeping. He was anxious and stressed all the time. It was no way to live for a nine-year-old.
Veteran homeschoolers told me sometimes kids need a year to heal from life in a traditional school setting. With that idea as my inspiration, I kept things simple. We read armloads of good books. We took field trips every week. We cooked and baked and painted. We used a simple math curriculum. We visited every museum in our town on a regular basis. Homeschooling was like a beautiful season flowing over my family all year long.
Watching my son bloom that year was like someone handing me gold every day. Certainly, there were days I cried and days he cried. There were days I didn’t think I could handle math or the daily grind of it all. However, the Lord was faithful to see us through that sweet first year. We all learned so much and grew closer as a family. Witnessing the growth, love, and confidence in my son spurred us on to continue.
Now many years later, here I am homeschooling high school. With fear and trembling I ask myself, Why do I homeschool again?
Suddenly things become serious when I’m counting on this education to get my son into college or pursue whatever his future plans hold. I pray the equipping will allow my child to pursue his dreams. When I began the high school years, my days started with the question, Will it be good enough?
Later as the high school years continued, God began to shift my prayers from, Is it good enough?
to God can You make it enough?
I asked God to fill in where I fell short. I prayed God would show our family no matter how inadequate we are, Jesus is more than adequate. I asked God to show my child how to be a passionate and engaging learner. Even though my efforts would never be enough, I trusted we serve a God who is enough in everything.
Whether you homeschooled since birth or you are beginning homeschooling, I believe there is something special about families making this commitment. Regardless of the education style and curriculums, we are all bound together out of a vast love. Because homeschooling is a process of the heart, it can’t help but change everyone in the process.
I am grateful we chose this path. It entrenched me deep into a life example of walking by faith and trusting in Him. I will never regret a single day of homeschooling. It has blessed me beyond my wildest imaginations. It has taught me so much about myself. The honor and privilege to homeschool alongside some amazing parents enriched my life beyond measure. Having a front row seat for my son’s moments of discovery and learning has been a blessing beyond compare.
The secret about homeschooling is that it’s not about education. Homeschooling is about love. It’s lavishing and nurturing your family in such a way that you are showing them the love of the Creator. It’s exploring the world with the idea that everything points to Him. It’s demonstrating to our kids that having faith and walking in it is the very best thing. The fruit of homeschooling is an equipping in how to be strong, courageous, curious, Christian young men and women. If we can get the most important thing right, loving God first, then all the other things will fall into place.
The secret about homeschooling is it’s not about school at all. It’s about love.
Think
How can you make your homeschooling about loving God first?
What’s Your Why?
…Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect...
1 Peter 3:15
Everyone comes to homeschooling from a different place. Regardless, it is absolutely essential to be clear on your why.
Make your homeschooling why worthy of the task. Most importantly, be ready to share it with others.
How you speak about your why will dictate your heart and attitude. Make your why for homeschooling something that inspires. Saying homeschooling was your destination of last resort won’t cut it. Let your daily words fuel your mindset.
At the start of a school year with gorgeous fall days, it was easy to know my why.
New schedules, classes, and experiences are vibrant and interesting during the beginning weeks of school. My why came easily in those fresh days. It was not so easy to know my why in January when I was sick with a cold and facing eye rolls from a moody teenager.
Your why isn’t only for your equipping, it’s also about the ordinary conversations. These casual chats can be your undoing if you aren’t careful. Well-meaning people can sneak attack you about homeschooling when you least expect it. I remember being all dressed up and happy about getting out of the house with my husband for a company dinner. Everything was going along in a lovely way until the casual discussion with my husband’s colleague turned into an all-out debate over homeschooling.
I found myself fumbling over my words as I tried to recall all my smart data points about homeschooling to sound intelligent. All the diligence I dedicated to finding quality classes, excellent plans and experiences was forgotten in the moment. In the end, I convinced no one and ended up doubting and criticizing myself for not having a better answer. I didn’t have my why
ready. I was ambushed by others who were speaking out of assumptions and biases not founded in truth. I didn’t tell my story well, even though I had a good story to tell.
If our hope comes from Christ, then all we do is an extension of that, including homeschooling. We need to be prepared to share the hope we have, with gentleness and respect.
In the early days of homeschooling, when people asked me why, I launched into a monologue of facts, figures, success rates, and statistics, immediately generating instant eye-glazing and face-melting boredom.
Later, when people asked me why, I began asking what they wanted to know. People always responded with the big thing they had already made up their mind about. Typically, this meant concerns about my child having friends or how I could teach hard subjects like physics. Ultimately, what they wanted to know is how a homeschooler could ever get into a college, especially a good one.
I found the more I let people talk about their thoughts on homeschooling, the easier it was to share my why with gentleness and respect. When I let them explain homeschooling to me, they sounded increasingly ridiculous, even to themselves. Ask a lot of questions from people who question you. Listen thoroughly first. Deeply listen longer than you want. Keep listening some more. Then share with gentleness and respect.
Remember, not everyone is going to think you are building up the kingdom through homeschooling. Some people will never get it. Forget about them. Your critical relatives may never understand your choice, even though they can plainly see what a fantastic child you have. Love those critical relatives anyway.
One of the most important things you can do to support confidence in homeschooling is to be ready with your why. It looks and feels much like defending your faith because that’s where it starts. It is knowing why you are walking this path with Christ. It is giving an answer for the hope you have with gentleness and respect. You have a beautiful story to tell. Be prepared to tell it well.
Think
What is your why? How can you tell it well?
My Big Fat Homeschool
…And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord's holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge--that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.
Ephesian 3:17-19
Start your homeschool season with a big fat vision for your year. Give yourself and your student permission to imagine something grand. Ask your family, What would the school of our dreams look like?
When I first considered homeschooling, my husband and I were on a road trip as we brainstormed our ideal school. We dreamed boldly about our child’s education including hands-on learning, excellent books, real world experiences, travel, sports, foreign language tied to family history, time with grandparents, outdoor time, learning that was an ecosystem,