Retiring?: Your Next Chapter Is about Much More Than Money
By Ted Kaufman and Bruce Hiland
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Retirement has changed dramatically since our parents' generation. People are living far longer, with far better health than ever before—both mentally and physically.
Instead of slowing down, people are leaving their jobs feeling ready to take on the world. They're financially independent, active, and capable.
And then, suddenly, they have nothing to do.
Business friends drift away, the sense of purpose that comes with solving problems day in and day out fades into memory, and you start looking ahead to the next thirty or forty years wondering what on earth you're going to do with all that time.
Retiring? takes a profound look at twenty-first-century retirement, helping you plan all the nonfinancial aspects of what comes next.
Drawing on the experience of today's modern, vibrant retirees, Retiring? offers a concise, practical, and conversational guide to the best chapter of your life.
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Retiring? - Ted Kaufman
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Copyright © 2021 Ted Kaufman & Bruce Hiland
All rights reserved.
ISBN: 978-1-5445-1684-4
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To Ginny and Lynne and our wonderful families.
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Contents
I. What’s the Problem?
II. Retirement Has Changed…What to Expect
III. Getting Started
IV. What Do You Want To Do?
V. Where Do You Want To Live?
VI. Maintaining Your Body
VII. Maintaining Your Brain
VIII. Maintaining Your Heart
IX. Maintaining Your Soul
X. Pulling It Together
XI. Looking Further Ahead
A. Chapter Resources
B. Further Resources Worth Your Attention
C. Potential Retirement Activities
Acknowledgments
About the Authors
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100 percent of the profits from this book will be donated to charity.
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1. What’s the Problem?
It is better to live rich than to die rich.
—Samuel Johnson
Why this book? We both had satisfying careers working alongside accomplished professionals, officials, executives, and entrepreneurs, and we’re fortunate today to be enjoying happy, fulfilling retirements. Four years ago, we were comparing experiences and discovered how many friends, acquaintances, and former colleagues were unhappy in their retirements. As we shared observations and anecdotes, we were surprised at the problems many of them experienced. They didn’t seem to be financial problems; instead, it appeared that their unhappiness stemmed from other issues.
We explored further and discovered that while they had all done the financial planning for a materially secure retirement, they had paid scant, if any, attention to the major life changes that come with retirement. Intrigued by this, we listened to and talked with dozens of retirees about their experiences moving from their careers into the terra incognita of retirement. They all agreed financial planning was a prerequisite but also agreed—many emphatically—that realizing a successful retirement requires equal if not more attention to nonfinancial issues.
As we reflected on what we’d learned, two messages came through loud and clear:
First, retirement has changed enormously in the last few decades in its duration, the circumstances giving rise to it, and decisions the individual has to make.
Second, most of those we spoke to were unprepared for the profound personal and life changes retirement brings. Addressing these nonfinancial issues seemed to hold the key to a satisfying and fulfillingretirement, but only financial matters had gotten the necessary attention.
We were curious about what was going on, and we both agreed we wanted to try to help. And then Ted said, You know, we ought to write a book.
So we did.
We’ve put together this concise and, we hope, practical guide for the individual approaching retirement or perhaps for the recent retiree now confronting the challenges we describe. We hope to help you by framing the important questions and pointing you in helpful directions. Clearly, our perspective is shaped by the scope of our careers, our retired lives, and, importantly, by our age and gender. We’ll readily acknowledge that, try as we might, we can’t fully appreciate how different a woman’s experience may be nor how someone twenty years younger than us may see their choices and the challenges. We certainly don’t present ourselves as authorities. Indeed, you are the authority for creating your retirement.
Now let’s get to work.
For too many people approaching retirement, only financial planning has gotten the necessary attention. Whether they’ve overlooked, ignored, or avoided the nonfinancial challenges, they risk being unprepared for the profound personal and life changes that retirement brings. A few real-life examples make the point:
A financial-services executive had been retired for a year. She had done little preparation other than financial planning and was repeatedly waking in the middle of the night worrying, What am I going to do? What can I do? This is a disaster! Maybe I should go back to work.
A public employee said, My best friends for years have been the people I worked with every day. Once I retired, I found we didn’t have much to talk about beyond business. After several lunches without the business issues to talk about, we drifted apart.
An attorney was consumed by his career and had no other interests, hobbies, or plans. He fought his firm’s mandatory retirement policy right up to his last day at the office.
At a cocktail party, a recently retired hospital CEO complained ceaselessly about his first six months in retirement. He was bored. He had nothing to do. His complaints went on and on.
A corporate executive who’d retired at sixty-five planned on spending his days playing golf and poker with the guys at the country club. At age seventy, he developed several physical problems that inhibited his golf game. He could still play but knew his game was deteriorating, and he was no longer competitive with his friends. He decided to give up the game.
How does this happen? People approaching retirement tend to get their financial planning done for several reasons: the benefits are obvious, so much help is readily available, and the wealth-management industry spends tens of millions on advertising. As well, hundreds of books, workshops, and seminars are available. Why haven’t these same smart, successful people paid serious attention to the nonfinancial dimensions of retirement?
Perhaps because most approaching retirement have practically no real-world experience with what people actually do after they retire, not to mention how their lives change. Their parents’ retirement experience is outdated for several reasons we’ll explore. They know little about how retirees actually live day-to-day or what issues they face other than the general fact of aging. They don’t have much to go on.
As they approach retirement, they may still be so consumed by their job that they have little time or energy to really think about it. Often their most intense, demanding work years are the three to five years leading up to retirement, which leaves little time, space, or energy to contemplate retirement’s realities.
According to one prominent wealth manager and seconded by an experienced psychotherapist, denial is a more likely explanation. Denial is that unconscious psychological defense mechanism people have for avoiding a problem or issue. Why would otherwise thoughtful, prudent individuals not address these important nonfinancial issues? Because paying attention to fears, feelings, and relationships can be uncomfortable. And planning what