Nwanyibuife

By Reginald Nwabinwe

The book Nwanyibuife: Our daughters, Their Struggles and How to Raise Them takes a second look at the cardinal roles of the girl child in a developing world and her almost obliterated historical footprints in history albeit her ignored untapped potentials. In the process, it reveals the story of the dogged strides of the African woman struggling to make her mark and create awareness to her numerous challenges while pointing out solutions on how to raise the girl child who will not stumble like her mother did, but be all she was born to be.
A clarion call of sorts to humanity, especially the Third World, Nwanyibuife seeks to raise the next generation of amazons to spearhead a more productive and wholesome womanhood by first laying bare the inequalities against women in the society, and emancipating them from their cultural, mental and psychological shackles.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Reginald Nwabinwe
• Release date: Jan 14, 2021
• ISBN: 9789789865703

Reginald Nwabinwe

Reginald Ogochukwu Nwabinwe is a blessed father of three children, a pastor and a devoted girl child peak performance enthusiast. He is passionate about human capital capitalism, Pan-Africanism and Afrikology.

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NWANYIBUIFE

OUR DAUGHTERS, THEIR STRUGGLES AND HOW WE SHOULD RAISE THEM

BY

REGINALD OGOCHUKWU NWABINWE

NWANYIBUIFE

Copyright © 2020 Reginald Nwabinwe

DECEMBER 2020

A catalogue copy of this book is available at the National Library of Nigeria.

ISBN (Paperback): 978-978-986-570-3

Genre: Africology

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DEDICATION

To my beloved mother, Emily Nwadiobunma Ijomah.

I owe you a lot!

ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

Writing, for me, is not a hobby the way it is to some people. Writing is the means to express my convictions, and sometimes my way of protest when I am dissatisfied with what I see. But these convictions represent both my dream for a better Africa, having grown up in the African setting, and the lessons I have learnt on my journey to becoming who I am. And since it takes a village to raise a child, I must state that I have truly been assisted by many people in different ways while growing up; a few I would like to mention here.

My wife, Regina Uzoka, and our kids have been my unshakable support throughout the period I worked on this project. My cousin, Chioma Ofili, who is always ready to help in the best possible way – your support has been from way back. People like Emmanuel Azowue, Ukela Nwafor and G. M. Porokie are among my friends that capture the true definition of friendship. Others include Regina Moses, Pamela MacPherson, Chinyere Okoroafor (for the publicity you gave my work even having not met me) and Isi Ejiro who has been there since way back. I cannot forget Lt. (Pst.) Umeokwochi Sunday Joshua, who took pleasure in reading my first book and decided to make his daughters read me. Thank you for believing in me.

Special thanks to my friend, Frank Imafidon, for offering to fund the cost of this project. May the good Lord bless you richly.

Datroko Harry edited the book.

CONTENTS

DEDICATION

ACKNOWLEDGEMENT

FOREWORD

INTRODUCTION

CHAPTER ONE: WOMEN FOR SALE

CHAPTER TWO: HAVE YOU CONSIDERED WHY WOMEN'S EDUCATION IS TRIVIALISED?

CHAPTER THREE: WHAT EXPERTS NEED TO KNOW ABOUT CONFLICT RESOLUTION AND WOMEN

CHAPTER FOUR: COULD OUT OF SCHOOL GIRLS BE PART OF THE REASONS FOR NIGERIA'S POVERTY?

CHAPTER FIVE: MORE THAN A MOTHER

CHAPTER SIX: SEXUAL OBJECTIFICATION: THE WOMAN'S BODY FOR SALE

CHAPTER SEVEN: WHAT I WISH TO TEACH MY DAUGHTERS

EPILOGUE

REFERENCES

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

FOREWORD

Throughout the world, and throughout history, the place of the woman as the giver and protector of life is recognized. It is a divinely bestowed role which underlines the hallowed place of womanhood in the scheme of human affairs. It is, therefore, a paradox of monumental proportions that while we revere women as our mothers, cherish them as our wives, pamper them as our sisters and adore them as our daughters, we yet abuse them in our homes, on the streets, during conflicts, and even commodify them.

Nwabinwe, in his inimitable style using eye-opening examples, explores the place of the woman in the society. He reveals the contradictions that define societies' treatment of women from the boardroom to the classroom, in the Arts and other areas. In a subtle yet powerful way, Nwabinwe rebukes the society for its duplicity in acknowledging the all-important role of women and yet deprecating them in the same breath.

Nwabinwe has done a yeoman’s job in dealing masterfully with a subject that is evergreen. In exposing the many areas in which society has and continues to place hurdles in the path of the woman, he makes an important contribution to the discourse on the need to deal a death blow to the archaic and misogynistic norms that hamstring women daily.

NWANYIBUIFE: Our Daughters, their Struggles and How We Should Treat Them is an important addition to growing literature that seeks to ensure that the woman is hoisted to her rightful place of honour in society.

Prof. P.L.O Lumumba

LL.D, D. Litt (hc), D.Sc (hc) FCPS (K), FKIM, FAAS (hon) Director, Kenya School of Law.

INTRODUCTION

In the world where I was born, gender was and is a big issue. My mother became the only surviving child of her father after all her siblings mysteriously died. Being a woman, that became a very big disadvantage, as it affected her ability to get an education. I observed that gender came before anything else – even competence or capacity. The measurement was not about what one could do or what they were in worth, character and capabilities, but about whether they were male or female. It was and still is also not about whether you are human, but first about the prolongation of the family name.

The girl child is considered the economic messiah of the family in many cases: the family depends on her femininity to make money for her parents. Yes, many families may deny this. Nonetheless it is a fact, especially in northern Nigeria where it is normal for a pre-teen to be married off to the highest bidder, without considering whether she is even mature or not. In the south, the high financial burden placed on her would-be husband likens her to an item for sale, with