Things They Should Tell You About Parenthood But Don't : Pregnancy to the Toddler Years
By M. Nottage
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Things They Should Tell You About Parenthood But Don't - M. Nottage
Things They Should Tell You About Parenthood but Don’t: Pregnancy To The Toddler Years
M. Nottage
Copyright 2012 M. Nottage. All rights reserved.
ISBN 978-1-304-96242-3
Table of Contents
Introduction
Getting Prepared
Choosing a Health Care Professional
Doctors
Midwives
Doulas
Birth Locations
Hospital Births
What to Pack
Home Births
The Nursery
Cribs
CPR
Pregnancy
Eating
Foods to Avoid
Folic Acid
Morning Sickness
Possible Solutions
Back Pain
Suggestions to relieve Back Pain
Suggestions to Avoid Back Pain
Bellybutton
Bleeding Gums
Minimize the likelihood of these problems
Constipation
Flatulence
Frequent Urination
Hair and Nail Growth
Headaches
Some suggestions for relief
Heartburn
Hemorrhoids
Incontinence
How do you perform Kegel exercises?
Linea Nigra
Linea Alba
Miscarriage
Why does it occur?
What are the warning signs?
Are there ways to prevent a miscarriage?
Nutrition & Supplements
What happens after a miscarriage?
Books for Coping with a Miscarriage
What about the friends & family of someone grieving a miscarriage?
What if you are visiting someone who has just had a miscarriage?
What are the things you should do?
What if there are other children in the family?
Mommy Memory
Music
Stillbirth
What happens when death occurs before labour and delivery?
What are the causes of stillbirth?
What are the risk factors?
Are there ways to prevent a stillbirth?
How do you help a loved one cope with having a stillbirth?
Books on coping with a stillbirth
Stress
Stretch Marks
Swollen Feet
Cord Blood Banking
Labour & Delivery
Episiotomy
Perineal Massage
Pain Relief Options
Induced Labour
Why is labour induced?
How is labour induced?
Natural Ways of Inducing Labour
Internal (Vaginal) Exams
C-Sections (Caesarean Sections)
The After-Birth
Making Labour & Delivery easier on you
Recovery
Vaginal Bleeding (Lochia)
Stitches
Menstruation after Pregnancy
Breastfeeding Moms
Exclusively formula feeding Moms
Changes to your Menstrual Cycle
Ask for Help
Eating & Food
Breastfeeding Mothers
Exercise
Take time for yourself
It may take some time to lose the ‘baby weight’
Baby Blues
, Post-partum Depression & Post-partum Psychosis
Baby Blues
Symptoms
Post-partum Depression
Symptoms
Suggestions
Post-partum Psychosis
Symptoms
Suggestions
Schedules
Sleep is a luxury
When to call a doctor?
The Importance of Your Partner
Sex after your baby’s arrival
Suggestions
What if my partner only sees me as a mother?
The First Year
Your Partner
Fostering and Encouraging Help
Jealousy/Neglect
What you as the primary caregiver should keep in mind
What should your partner keep in mind
What should both partners keep in mind
Schedules
Sleep
Sleep is a luxury, treat it that way
Sleep requires training?
Sleep position shifts
Sleep monitoring
Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS)
What are the causes?
Methods of Prevention
Coping after a loss due to SIDS
Feeding
Breastfeeding
Latching
Unlatching
Low milk production
What to Eat
Breastfeeding Issues
Engorgement
Leaky Breasts
Storing Breast Milk
Prescriptions
Bottle Feeding
Formula Use
Advantages
Breastfeeding mothers and bottle feedings
Introducing Solid Foods
When to wean
Training cups
When to introduce solid foods
Disliking some foods
Spitting Up
Allergic Reactions
Intolerance
Picky Eaters
Refusal to Eat
Refusal to eat vegetables and/or fruit
Refusal to eat meat
Refusal to drink milk
It will be messy
Hiccups
Crying in Restaurants
Bowel Movements
Constipation
Diarrhea
Colic
Possible Solutions
Bottle Feeding Babies with Colic
Bath Time
Ailments & Illnesses
Cold & Flu
Cradle Cap
Diaper Rash
Discolouration
Dressing your baby
Ear Infections
Touching (the spreading of germs)
Teething
Signs of teething
Solutions for relief
Vaccinations
Giving Medications
Administering Ear Drops
Preparing to administer the drops
How to administer the drops
Administering Eye Drops
Method 1
Method 2
Method 3
Administering nasal (nose) drops
Mobility
Safety
Sitting Up
Creeping/Crawling
Standing
Walking
Learning
Reading
Repetition is essential
Be mindful of what you say and do
Temper Tantrums
How can you reinforce behavior?
Fostering Independence
Fostering Patience
Separation Anxiety
Suggestions
Child Care
Daycares
Nannies
The Toddler Years
Potty Training
Signs of Potty Readiness
What can you as a parent do to help?
What should you know before you begin potty training?
What are the steps in potty training?
Sleep
Refusal to Eat
Saying ‘No’
Thumb Sucking
Preschool Preparedness
What can you do to prepare your child to go to school?
How do you prepare yourself for your child starting school?
Things to Keep In Mind
Appendix A: Home Item Checklist
Appendix B: Diaper Bag Essentials
Appendix C: Medicine Cabinet Checklist
Appendix D: Some Sites with Free Baby Product Giveaways
References
Introduction
The reason that I chose to write this book was, as a first time mother I encountered many things for which I was not prepared. As a result I wanted to enlighten others before they began this journey into parenthood.
The truth is that parenthood, at times, can be extremely hard work. The best thing that you can do is to be as well prepared as possible.
Your baby’s life and development will consist of many stages. Each comes with its own joys and challenges. As your baby grows so will you in your role as a parent and it will change over time. The purpose of this book is to let you know that you are not alone in the challenges that you face and there are solutions so try not to feel overwhelmed. Parenting involves a lot of on the job training
and requires a great degree of patience. Once you withstand the rougher times the joys of parenting will vastly outweigh any negatives or challenges that you (may) encounter. With proper training (e.g. sleep training), disciplinary techniques and by starting these early, the types and frequency of the challenges should be minimal.
While I will not touch on every single topic and only cover up to and including the toddler years I have endeavoured to discuss all of the major ones. I wanted to ensure that these issues and their possible solutions were all in one place and in a concise and easy to find format.
The suggestions given come from various sources and trial and error. Any suggestions given in this book should be taken under the advice of your medical professional. Any products mentioned are mere suggestions and are not a personal endorsement.
My hope is that through this book you will learn:
1. To be patient with both your baby and yourself
2. Practice makes perfect
3. Having time to yourself ultimately makes you a better parent
4. Being prepared gives you an upper hand
5. You may need to redefine the current roles between you and your partner so that you can be both lovers and co-parents
If you are able to do all or only one of these and it helps you to better enjoy your parenthood then the purpose of this book has been fulfilled.
I wish you and your baby well on your life long journey together. God bless.
Note: When I use the term secondary parent in this book it is simply to indicate the parent who is not giving the majority of the baby care during maternity leave. It is not meant to offend in any way and is simply used as a shorthand term.
Getting Prepared
Choosing a Health Care Professional
This is a very important choice that you will make regarding the prenatal care and delivery of your baby. There are several types of health care professionals that you can choose from. The most popular choice is a doctor. However, there are also midwives (which used to be the only choice, especially in rural areas) and doulas.
No matter which type of professional you choose, research the professional whom you are considering. You should always remember that while they are professionals you are still paying them for a service and are entitled to know whether or not they are qualified and their standard practices. This will help you to determine whether or not they are right for you.
Doctors
All doctors must absolutely have a license in order to practise. You can check with your respective Medical Association to see if they are licensed and whether or not there are any disciplinary actions pending against them. Doctors have hospital resources available to them and can prescribe medications if necessary. If you have a specialist (like an Obstetrician) they received additional training to deal with any complications that may come with a pregnancy.
Midwives
In Canada, midwives have to be licensed in order to go into practise and must have a tertiary level of education (i.e. go to university). To find out if the midwife you are considering is indeed licensed check with the Canadian Midwives Organisation[i] (www.canadianmidwives.org ) and select your province or territory to search for them. In Canada, midwives have an association with a particular hospital and all the privileges that allows. In other words they can admit patients and have the hospital resources at their disposal.
In the United States, however, not all states require midwives to be licensed. You will need to check to see whether or not it is required in your state. The website http://narm.org/state-organizations/state-info/[ii] may help you and has links to each respective state’s midwife association (if applicable). If you live in a state whereby licensing is not required, midwives there may not have gone to school to become a midwife nor have any certification.
Even for midwives that are licensed or certified you should know that a midwife may still recommend or refer you to a medical doctor if you have any issues and/or complications that may require medical equipment and/or a specialist. These may include but are not limited to preeclampsia (hypertension due to pregnancy) and gestational diabetes.
Midwives may have an office, operate out of their home or meet with you at your home for appointments.
You should note that you have either a doctor or a midwife not both.
Doulas
Doulas provide support to the mother and her partner during childbirth (birth doulas) and/or after birth (postpartum doulas). They can be certified by Doulas of North America (DONA) International but do not necessarily have to be. They do not provide any herbal or pharmaceutical solutions for pain and act as an ‘assistant’ (for lack of a better term) during labour and delivery to ensure that the mother has the emotional support that she needs. Many women find the support they provide very helpful. Doulas act in conjunction with a medical professional. To find a doula in North America go to the website for the Doulas of North America (www.dona.org).[iii]
Birth Locations
Just as