Born This Way: Real Stories of Growing Up Gay
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Reviews for Born This Way
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- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5A short cute book about people who've grown up to be gay. The book features a photo from the childhood of a person, some celebrities mostly just ordinary folk, and on the opposite page is a sentence, upto a few paragraphs, of reminiscing about the photo and their early lives knowing they were different at an early age. Some had no words to describe who they were, and some still reject labeling, which is fair enough. But all people featured have accepted who they truly are, and are happy succesful adults, and this book is very affirming and encouraging for any young person who is worried there's no one like them or no one grows up happily gay. My only critique is that I'd have like to have seen just a couple of photos from present day, would have made the book even more powerful but the, sometimes camp, pictures of kids and young adults were still great.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5This book is a cute, affirming book. Each page has a picture accompanied by a paragraph or two about that person's childhood. Nearly everyone knew that they were gay at an early age (which made me super envious, since I didn't even know what a lesbian was until the age of 17). I just wish that the author had included more stories from lesbians. The book jacket states that this book has 100 stories of growing up gay (I didn't count), but only about ten of them feature lesbians. Nothing against guys, but I would like to see the book's stories a little more balanced.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5This is an enjoyable and uplifting book. It's not intended to be on the deep, soul-searching level of coming out literature, and I found this lighter, photography-based book to be a good counterbalance in what can often be a harrowing body of writing.This is not a book that is intended to be academic: as the title indicates, it's an oral history-- "stories"-- and the individual author's personalities shine through, even in the brief blurbs.There is a lack of balance in the narratives included, with stories by gay males predominating. I feel that this reflects the dominance of gay male voices in the queer community (literary and otherwise), and I would happily read a volume II, if it was more inclusive.Over all, though, I'm happy to have this book on my shelf and enjoy rereading a story or two from time to time. It's the kind of book that's good to revisit.
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Born This Way - Paul Vitagliano
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introduction
I am one of millions of out, proud gay people who didn’t choose to be gay—I was born this way! I knew by age five that I felt a certain attraction to other boys, but I couldn’t describe my feelings. Like many of my generation in the 1970s, I dated girls through high school to fit in, but it never felt natural. I came out to myself at nineteen. At thirty, when I sat my mother down for the Mom, I have something to tell you
speech, she didn’t blink and said, Are you going to tell me you’re gay?
I don’t think I ever hugged her harder than I did that day. The truth is, our moms always know, even if they don’t admit it right away. For me, the hardest part of growing up was feeling like I was the only gay person on the planet and had no one to talk to about it.
I started the Born This Way project to show young gay kids that they’re not alone: many others have gone through everything they’re experiencing now. We must share our stories and pay it forward for future generations. Being gay is as normal and natural as being straight. It is not a choice or a phase, it’s not something you learn, and it’s certainly not something that can or should be cured
or fixed.
All children need love and nurturing and support. And there are so many great resources now for both children and adults, such as PFLAG, GLSEN, The Trevor Project, and It Gets Better. Use those tools and information to talk, communicate, and listen.
Inside this book, you’ll find stories and photos about growing up gay in all kinds of families, everywhere from London to Mexico City. You’ll find every shade of masculine and feminine, and yes, even some stereotypes. What you won’t find is the shame that society places on those traits, only self-pride and self-acceptance. Not every boy who plays with dolls or every girl who plays with trucks—or exhibits gender-opposite behavior—is gay. But you will see that most of the kids in this book knew they were gay at an early age. These children have grown up to be doctors, lawyers, musicians, makeup artists, painters, and poets. They’re now mothers, fathers, and loving partners. And they’ve all made invaluable contributions to the fabric of society.
In the six decades represented in this book, many have gone on to achieve great levels of success in their respective fields. I’ve included some of these famous faces of the LGBTQ community to help inspire today’s gay youth to strive for their own greatness. Representative Barney Frank (1953) is the first openly gay member of the U.S. Congress and a progressive champion for human rights. Michael Musto (1964) is a television personality and writer known for his column in The Village Voice. Marc Shaiman (1967) is a Tony, Grammy, and Emmy Award winning composer. Actor/comedian Patrick Bristow (1968) has appeared on Ellen, Seinfeld, and Curb Your Enthusiasm. Photographer Mike Ruiz (1968) has shot for Vanity Fair, Elle, and Vogue. Steven Kirkham (1969) is Miss Perfidia, whose wig styling is seen everywhere from Strangers with Candy to The Pee Wee Herman Show on Broadway for HBO. Actor/comedian Frank DeCaro (1969) hosts The Frank DeCaro Show
on Sirius XM Satellite Radio’s OutQ 108l. Billy Brasfield (1970), aka Billy B, is one of the world’s most sought-after makeup artists and a featured judge on Ru Paul’s Drag Race.
Musician Andy Bell (1970) is lead singer of Erasure and an ambassador for New York’s Hetrick-Martin Institute, which provides resources for LGBTQ youth. Kent Fuher (1971) is drag superstar Jackie Beat and a featured columnist for Frontiers magazine. Jeffrey Schwarz (1977) is an acclaimed producer and filmmaker. Sia Furler (1978) is a Grammy nominated singer-songwriter. Bill Coleman (1979) is a club DJ, writer, and music supervisor whose record label features LGBTQ recording artists Cazwell, Amanda Lepore, and the Ones. Clinton Leupp (1979) is activist and drag performer Miss Coco Peru, whose films include To Wong Foo, Thanks for Everything! Julie Newmar. The Lane Twins, Gary and Larry (1980), created the award-winning documentary Hollywood to Dollywood, which chronicles their coming-out story and meeting their idol, Dolly Parton. Sutan Amrull (1982), aka Raja Gemini, is a renowned makeup artist, drag performer, and the Season 3 winner of Ru Paul’s Drag Race. Perez Hilton (1983) is a world-famous celebrity blogger. Writer Noah Michelson (1985) is the editor of Gay Voices at the Huffington Post. Journalist Matt Baume (1987) documents the fight for marriage equality at Stop8.org. And Kevin Farrell (1990) cofounded the popular Unicorn Booty website to keep the LGBTQ community connected with pop culture and gay activism. I am thrilled and honored to have all of them included here.