What I Wish My White Friends Understood

By Elaina Stuart

a CLEAR, CUT, DIRECT, & practical approach on how, 

 

 

for those who dare to understand, to help with this fight against systemic oppression, & racism.

 

 

In this study i uncover a host of things "I Wish MY White Friends Understood", like becoming an ally, learning to understand black issues, dismantling racism, and how powerful we all can become as a unified front! 

 

 

an over 80 page book, filled with a very insightful preface I welcome you to understanding like no other.

 

 

that of which you will NOT find on your legacy media and conventional learning. 

 

 

 

with love 

 

E.Stuart

 

 

 

 

• Language: English
• Publisher: Elaina Stuart
• Release date: Jun 22, 2020
• ISBN: 9781393925972

Book preview

PREFACE:

So I wanted to write this and expound upon about, white people feeling an influx of guilt and embarrasment.

 a very informative reading so that your black friends & colleagues don't have to talk to you about this.

My only exception to that is if your best friend or spouse is black and they are in a space, where they are willing to have this conversation with you, then you guys know your relationship. but in general, the feeling of embarrassment and shame and guilt are feelings that you, should be addressing with yourself and your race and non-black community, but not with us.

what I will like to share is that I think the embarrassment and the guilt and the shame, is connected to, and (experiencing and seeing it personally from my white friends) which is that your identity has been rooted in your kindness and your generosity and your lovingness.

I imagine that this is how you see yourself. This is what you pride yourself on,  that you are kind and you are in tune and you're empathetic. But if those things are true, then how could you have gone this long without understanding, how could you have gone this long without seeing your black friends and colleagues and your black neighbors in pain like this? How could you have gone this long without being plugged into the plight and the trauma and the war that your black friends and colleagues have been in?

 So now your identity is being challenged and uprooted

 perhaps it means that somewhere inside of you, you 

have absorbed racism and have responded and reacted at some point, in ways that are racist and oppressive. 

maybe unconsciously, but you've still done it and a kind, generous, loving person would never do anything racist, right? And so there comes the guilt!

so the shame ensues. There comes the fear, that you are a bad person. It is not my responsibility to make you feel like a good person. But nonetheless no one told you being an ally would be easy. in fact it's messy and it's complicated. 

You have every right to feel those things you feel and those feelings will continue to come up. But what's important is how you call those feelings into action , connect with your white counterparts and talk about it. Talk about how the hell did it take this long to see the people wholistically, the people that you interact with each and every day. 

How did it take so long to recognize and address the pain they've been so accustomed to? I would not recommend you to abruptly unload this onto your black friends. We are wrestling and managing enough already and we don't need to also manage your emotions and how you're feeling in this moment. WITH ALL DUE RESPECT

if you didn't produce these feelings, then I would say you were not doing the work, and truly down for the cause of understanding. If you weren't feeling this way, then I would say you were not looking at yourself hard enough in the mirror. So go ahead and feel it freely. Go allow yourself, continue to push through these uncomfortable moments. 

remember, and correct out all the times that you may have responding and reacted in questionably racist ways. perhaps the times you would cross the street, & held your purse too tight in reaction of seeing a black person. You said she was pretty for being black. All of those things, allow them to surface out in your private space, in your private white space, but not on us, and then work to improve yourself. Thank You

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WHAT I WISH MY WHITE FRIENDS UNDERSTOOD by Elaina Stuart

Book Blurb:

For the purposes of education and honest