The Nature and Embodiment of Church Conflict
By Robert Lewis
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Church conflict is not a pleasant subject, yet leadership in churches understands firsthand how real and intense it can be. This book is an re-edit of the first edition, Barnacle Busters. This book covers the reality of church conflict, the importance of correctly handling conflict, the nuances of conflict, and the Bible's stance on conflict.
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By Robert Lewis
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Table of Contents
Preface
Chapter 1 Controversy
Controversies Seen as Church Sins, Distresses, and Problems
The Hurt and Pain of Controversy
The Calling to Be Peace Makers
The Challenge of Church Stereotypes
A Look at the Damage from Controversy
The Measure of a Healthy Local Congregation: The 80% Rule
Who Should Confront Controversy?
Conclusion
Case Study: How Mary Was Blindsided by a Church Controversy
Group Discussion Questions
Chapter 2 Controversy’s Breeding Ground: Carnal Christianity
The Controversy’s Effect on Christians: The Flesh
Dying with Jesus
Living with Jesus
The Spirit-Filled Life
Conclusion
Case Study: Sam Gets Saved and Filled with the Spirit
Group Discussion Questions
Chapter 3 Controversia Maximus: The Whopper
The Seduction of Early Christian Congregations
God Still Works in the Church
What the Early Church Lost that We Need
How Koinonia Works
Emperor Constantine’s Sleight-of-Hand: Replacing Fellowship with Worship
What Was the Pattern for House Churches?
What is Wrong with Worship? Nothing!
Case Study: Delbert Goes to a House Church
Group Discussion Questions
Notes
Chapter 4 What a Oblivious Origin of Controversy!
What Do We Mean by the Word Drag?
The Result of Unconfessed Corporate Sin
The Result of Unconfessed Private Sin
The Result of Groupthink
The Result of Dysfunction
Ridding a Congregation of Drag Starts and is Sustained by Corporate Prayer
Addictive Church Organization
Dealing with Groupthink #1
Dealing with Groupthink #2
Dealing with Groupthink #3
Conclusion
Case Study: Pastor Fred Boxleitner’s Alice-in-Wonderland Experience at Church
Group Discussion Questions
Notes
Chapter 5 Tough Love’s Deed: The Removal of Controversy
The Seeming Dilemma of a Confronting Ungodly Controversy
False Guilt Clobbered by Clarity
A Pastor’s Unspoken Fear
A Layperson’s Unspoken Fear
Three Principles Undergirding Tough Shepherding
The Principle of Tough Love
The Principle of Corporate Primacy
The Principle of Role Fidelity
Real Sheep Need a Tough Shepherd, Too
Tough Love and Justice
Conclusion
Case Study: Pastor Jerry’s Experience at The Chapel by the Sea
Group Discussion Questions
Notes
Chapter 6 Politics: One Vicious Source of Controversy
The Primary Characteristics of a Political Church
Majoring on the Minors
Dividing into Parties
Producing Members Who Are Sick Emotionally and Spiritually
Producing Double-Minded Members
The Secondary Characteristics of a Political Church
Manipulation
Anger
Repressed Pain
How Churches Become Political
Conclusion
Case Study: Dirty Politics in Sarasota
Group Discussion Questions
Chapter 7 Yes, It’s a Spiritual Task
The Spiritual Facet of Confronting Controversy
Figurative Language, but Not Fictitious!
Confronting Controversy Involves Busting Satan
Satan’s Relationship to Busting Up Controversy
What Makes a Controversy Buster-Upper Tough?
Every Buster-Upper of Controversy Needs Armor
Finally, Take the Helmet and Sword
Bulk Up with Muscle
Conclusion
Case Study: A Pastor Busts a Controversy From the Church in One Blow
Group Discussion Questions
Notes
Chapter 8 Crowned King the Second Time
Commotion Could Be a Sign of Blessing
Becoming an Established Buster of Controversy
Move Out of Camelot
Solomon Had to be Made King a Second Time
Tough Shepherding Rears its Beautiful Head
King David’s Wife/Nurse Becomes a Political Pawn
An Immutable Principle of Leadership
Proactive Controversy Busting
Solomon Won with a Good Offense
A Note About Church Discipline of Members
Respect for Pastors, Elders, and Other Peacemakers
Give Godly Church Members a Little Time
Conclusion: The Birth of Unity
Case Study: Watch the Movie Classic, High Noon
Group Discussion Questions
Chapter 9 The Controversy Called Adversarius
Et Tu Brute? (You too, Brutus?)
Nehemiah’s Controversy Adversarius: Tobias and His Comrades
Characteristics of Controversy Adversarius
Common Tactics of Controversy Adversarius
Busting Controversy Adversarius
Conclusion
Case Study: The Case of the Wishy-Washy Pastor
Group Discussion Questions
Notes
Chapter 10 Creating an Unfriendly Climate for Controversy
The Temperature of Healthy Conflict
The Barometric Pressure of Power
The Dew Point of Trust
The Whirling Wind Vane of Fellowship
Conclusion
Case Study: Associate Pastor Ricky Senses a Climate of Suppressed Conflict
Group Discussion Questions
Notes
Chapter 11 Leadership Traits of a Controversy Buster
Assertive
Intentional
Organized
Persuasive
Vulnerable
Compassionate
Conclusion
Case Study: Brookhaven’s Screwup
Group Discussion Questions
Notes
Chapter 12 Harmonizing Controversy Busting and Servanthood
The Popular Notion of Servanthood
Servanthood Has Priorities
First, servanthood bows to God
Second, the family has a claim on servanthood
Third, the church has a claim on servanthood
Fourth, people at large take the claim of servanthood
Servanthood Has Self-Esteem
When Antagonists Don’t Come to Their Senses You Call the Controversy Buster
Controversy Busting and 1 Corinthians 13
Long is Not Forever
Kind Means Useful
Controversy Busting is Not Jealous
Controversy Busting Does Not Brag
Controversy Busting is Humble
Controversy Busting Suits Action to Circumstance
Controversy Busting is Characterized by Unselfishness
Controversy Busting is Not Goaded
Controversy Busting Doesn’t Keep Score
Controversy Busting is in Love with Righteousness
Controversy Busting Also Demonstrates the Proactive Side of Love
Controversy Busting Bears All Things
Servanthood and Power
Power is Related to Purpose
Power Without Purpose Brings Division
Power Comes from Pursuing Purpose
Conclusion
Case Study: Helping the Church Accounts Payable Clerk
Group Discussion Questions
Notes
Chapter 13 Controversy Pathogenesis
Pathogenic Churches
Psychosomatic Illness Transmitted Through Groups
Church Depression
Pneumo-Psychological Illness
Symptoms of a Pathogenic Church
High-Level Conflict
Hooked on Crises
Sick Church Members
Prognosis of a Pathogenic Church
Case Study: The Pathogenic Environment of First Well-Known-Denomination Church
Group Discussion Questions
Notes
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Preface
Having spent my life in the church world, I know something of discord and conflict in church. As I sat to write this preface, I received an email from a friend asking for prayer for a church involved in a conflict. The following message was quoted by my friend followed by her comment:
"The fight continues …
What a difficult enemy has touched me. Sometimes I see him as small and sometimes I’m afraid he’s going to bite me. It’s amazing how he fights, how he moves above all Biblical order, always thinking about winning, no matter who should or could get hurt.’ These are some of the words of a friend who wrote us yesterday about a person in his church who has launched a campaign to remove his pastor."
These kinds of stories are common, and that’s why churches need a rationale for addressing conflict. Most churches are never taught about church conflict. Churches usually view conflict as a failure and embarrassment to be buried. But buried conflict won’t stay buried. Sooner or later it will erupt. When it does, pastors and laymen will not remember the reasons for the conflict. In this disconnected state, it will seem bizarre and mystical.
I understand why people hide conflict. Church fights are humiliating. They make all of us want to run and hide. They are complex and they don’t fit the church stereotype.
When I became a pastor, I was inexperienced in life, but not in going to school. I knew church from growing up in a Christian family, in a nice neighborhood, and by attending worship services, Sunday School classes, and Vacation Bible School. In those days, children were not involved in church politics or church fights, so I was doubly naïve. The first conflict I experienced in a church would have been a non-event to a veteran pastor or a seasoned working man, but to me, it was a shock. I had no idea Christians would act in such a fashion, especially in a church setting. I suppose it was that sense of surprise and disappointment that gave me an interest in the subject of church conflict.
This book is also the result of a career in ministry. The lessons learned were learned while serving churches as a youth minister and then as a pastor. I also directed an association of churches, which landed me in the middle of many church conflict situations. In other words, these lessons were learned in the laboratory of experience. Don’t get me wrong. Many wonderful things happened during this time. Sometimes the great things happened as a result of successfully dealing with church problems. But I expected the good things to happen. I had been surprised by the bad. Writing about it might be my therapy.
I hope this book will be a motivator for church leaders to confront and not run from conflict. The only failure is the failure to address the conflict. Churches have always had issues to solve, doctrinal disputes to confront, and irrational and belligerent members (or pastors) to rebuke. These are not uncommon happenings in a church
Many times, the effort to solve the issue becomes an issue because of the mistake of solving the symptom rather than the root cause. Church issues need to be rightly defined so an appropriate plan can be developed. Execution of the plan needs to be skillful and effective. And Christians need to be taught about church conflict and given a rationale for dealing with it.
Bring the subject of church conflict to the attention of your church. Use this book as the textbook for a class on the rationale of confronting church conflict. Case studies are included with group discussion questions. My hope is that this book will give you the rationale for being a Controversy Buster as well as the resolve to implement tough love (tough shepherding).
— Robert Lewis
Chapter 1
Controversy
But shun foolish controversies and genealogies and strife and disputes about the Law, for they are unprofitable and worthless. Reject a factious man after a first and second warning, knowing that such a man is perverted and is sinning, being self-condemned, (The Apostle Paul to Titus, Titus 3:9-11, NASB).
The Apostle Paul took stands against ungodly and harmful behavior in the churches. A controversy ‘buster’ or conciliator follows Paul’s example. The skillful busting-up of controversy nurtures Christian maturity.
— Robert Lewis
A controversy in a church is like a sea creature like a barnacle that attaches itself to ships. Sailors get rid of barnacles. Christians should get rid of problems attached to the church.
This book is a rationale for confronting controversy in a church, which can be categorized into overarching groupings:
Doctrinal (heresy, dissent, deviation, profanation, etc.)
Group Behavior or Fellowship (disorder, confusion, turmoil, chaos, etc.)
Individual Behavior (insubordinate, profane, disrespectful, irreverent, etc.)
Here is a definition of controversy from Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary: (https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/controversy):
1: a discussion marked especially by the expression of opposing views : DISPUTE "The decision aroused a controversy among the students."
2: QUARREL, STRIFE
Controversy Seen as Church Sins, Distresses, and Problems
Controversy or controversies in a church, as used in this book, are the acts of partisanship and power grabs in the church that do not take into account the leadership of the Holy Spirit and the consensus of the fellowship. Some of these unholy activities, processes, or attitudes will appear in the form of false doctrine, conflicts, fights, sinful behavior, organizational politics, and any intrusion of the flesh into the life of the church. We lump all these things into the category of church conflict or church problems.
These controversies slow forward progress and can destroy the purpose, biblical form, and spiritual health of a congregation. Any existing controversy needs to be removed and a regimen of prevention developed. The Church is a spiritual organization led by the Holy Spirit and Jesus Christ. Controversies come from interjecting the will of man into the mix.
Over time congregations and their leadership may become accustomed to controversy. They may come to believe that they must endure these afflictions as part of the Christian calling. Young pastors might be taught by veteran pastors that some of controversy is a normal idiosyncrasy that must be endured as a good soldier of the Cross. Deacons and church members often develop coping mechanisms for the common controversies found in churches to their own detriment.
For example, a man served as pastor of many congregations during the early Twentieth Century and into the 1960’s. Every church he served as pastor developed a career-limiting dispute one to two years into his term as pastor. He talked with other pastors who had served that church prior to him. They confirmed the pattern had been there when they were the pastor of that church. They had learned to cope by putting out the small fires of controversy quickly. However, when they saw a huge conflagration starting that they feared would engulf their administrations, they would move to new congregations. He and other pastors had accepted this as normal. In that denomination, the average tenure of a pastor in a church during this period was one-and-a-half years.
Some pastors and laymen may blame themselves for these bonfires of conflict, thinking the symptoms are of their making. They hear only the congregational cries of blame. They view themselves with self-blame. They might think they did not pray enough, serve well enough, or preach well enough. These pastors and laymen leave believing they failed, and so they did, but not because they were the cause of the bonfires of conflict. They failed by not rightly discerning the problem behind those bonfires. They failed to become peacemakers. They failed to address the problem or problems. They failed to see them not only as dysfunctional patterns of behavior, but as spiritual strongholds that needed to be busted apart and removed.
The Hurt and Pain of Controversy
Pastors need to know that laymen suffer when their church is in conflict. Sometimes laymen are unjustly blamed. Sometimes they step up to help the pastor deal with the controversy and, then, the pastor is fired, leaving these laymen out on a limb. Sometimes laymen become victims of friendly fire and are fired on by the pastor and other church leaders.
Laymen need to know that pastors and elders suffer, too, often being directly under attack from the antagonists in the churches, the hidden reefs in the Love Feast,
as the book of Jude shares (Jude, verse 12). Furthermore, pastors must bide their time; they must wait for the right moment. The whole congregation, in most churches, and surely the key church leadership, needs to see what the pastor sees, otherwise the good people of the church misunderstand. In a mega-church the pastoral staff, board of directors, and all the principle players need to see the same conflict and controversy that the senior pastor sees. If the congregation doesn’t see what the pastor sees, the congregation can mistakenly see the troublemakers, who are members acting in the flesh, as the victims being picked on by the big bully pastor. Pastors in smaller congregations should wait until enough key people and groups see what the pastor sees before making big moves to remove certain controversy. Do exceptions exist to this rule? Rare situations will arise that require immediate attention.
Pastors need wisdom when engaging a controversy for the sake of the common good. Controversy hurts everyone in the average church because everyone is in the same boat. Even though many in the church may suffer, at first they suffer separately, unaware of the suffering of others until the cloak of invisibility is removed off the controversy. One might say that for a time the controversy becomes that elephant — the proverbial elephant in the room
that no one can or wants to see. The first step of the pastor is to correctly identify the controversy and bring it to light so the whole group can see it.
Have you noticed that most church leaders try to cover up church troubles and disputes? One can understand one reason — church fights and disputes are bad for business. However, in the long run, burying conflict is even worse.
The consequence of a congregation burying conflict is the same as when an individual buries his or her pain rather than facing it. Eventually, buried pain is worked out in strange behavior or as sickness and disease. The individual with buried pain from conflict will act out in uncharacteristic ways, attacking people or exhibiting bizarre or harmful behavior or the pain-ridden person will act in
and get sick — physically sick — even with rare diseases.
The same thing happens to the group. The congregation with buried pain also acts out in a bizarre or dysfunctional way manifesting itself in physical outbursts or subversive behavior. The congregational pain that is not publicly confronted sometimes will act its way inside the congregation and make church members physically or psychologically ill.
Therefore, handling aggressive and disruptive church members with kid gloves
is the wrong approach. Sweeping things under the rug doesn’t work and is not modeled in Scripture. Handling antagonists gently never works as a long-term strategy for resolving conflict. It may not work in the short-term, either. It’s like waving that famous red cape in front of a stomping, snorting bull. That’s why the Apostle Paul often had to resort to dealing with antagonists aggressively.
The Calling to Be Peacemakers
The local assembly of Christians has the high calling to be holy and ready for every good work. Part of that effort to be holy involves dealing with the issues that prevent or hinder holiness and righteousness whether expressed individually or corporately.
As a corporate body, the church is hindered when sin resides in the body, whether open or secret sin. This side of Resurrection Day a permanent state of holiness doesn’t exist. Every day is a new opportunity for sin while we are in these bodies. Our holiness requires a daily recommitment as well as ongoing vigilance and discipline. And it requires confronting sin and evil when it rears its head.
Paul told the elders at Ephesus: Be on guard for yourselves and for all the flock, among which the Holy Spirit has made you overseers, to shepherd the church of God which He purchased with His own blood, (Acts 20:28, NASB).
Here’s another warning, from Jesus, this time about false prophets, those who claim to be speaking the word of God but are not:
Beware of the false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly are ravenous wolves. You will know them by their fruits. Grapes are not gathered from thorn bushes nor figs from thistles, are they? So every good tree bears good fruit, but the bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot produce bad fruit, nor can a bad tree produce good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. So then, you will know them by their fruits, (Matthew 7:15-20, NASB).
When the world thinks of the Church they should think of it as a loving fellowship that puts into practice the teachings of Christ. By and large, this is true, truer than the world could possibly comprehend. And aren’t we thankful for that fact? Unhappily, what is sometimes found in the church is the opposite of a loving fellowship — it’s a church where the members have brought their unconfessed sin and anger into the church. This sin and pain exhibit themselves in the interaction between brothers and sisters in the congregation. And, also, the church is a perfect place to hide for pathologically evil people.
It’s true what Billy Graham said in some of his evangelistic events, that the church is a hospital for sinners and not a place for perfect people. However, to extend the analogy, sometimes patients in a hospital need to be restrained for their own good as well as that of other patients; contagious patients need to be quarantined; sometimes visitors need to be kept out of the hospital ward.
In voicing this truth, this book is not encouraging or condoning a squad of enforcers like Hitler’s Gestapo. The objective in a church is redemption and holiness, not elimination, even though in many cases elimination is necessary to protect and serve. This book presents a rationale for why and in what manner to protect the local assembly from discord, heresy, sin, and antagonists; it makes the case for being proactive in dealing with serious issues in the church.
In that context, we will discuss the following:
--The appropriateness of discipline related to Christian behavior.
--The necessity of protecting the doctrine once for all
given to the saints.
--The sorts of issues the elders and servants of Christ might encounter.
--The characteristics of numerous fellowships inflicted with evil and conflict.
--The characteristics of a servant of Christ confronting church troublemakers.
The Challenge of Church Stereotypes
Confronting a church problem can be tense. The implementation of corrective action, which involves confrontation, is disturbing.
One cry often heard when leadership must confront a problem member is this: We’re supposed to love each other and being mean to them is not an act of love!
This book challenges those declarations that see love as always a pleasant, uplifting encounter. When a person is opposing Christ, destroying the faith of His followers, or being disruptive of Christian fellowship, and that person refuses to respond to admonition and rebuke, removing the offending person from fellowship is an act of love. It is the only act of love that is appropriate. Perhaps that person will repent.
Collateral damage can happen when a church applies discipline and corrective action. Those not directly involved may misunderstand and take offense. If arguments at church spill over into the congregation, it cannot help but confuse some church members. Those who grew up in an abusive situation could possibly be reminded of their childhood and associate legitimate discipline with abusive behavior. People who are being abused at home or work may not be able to be objective either. Some will leave the church when discipline is administered to others. This tests not only the resolve of those who lead and take care of the people of God, it also challenges their wisdom in applying discipline. Some matters can and should be private. Some by their nature cannot be private. Some require the church to deal with the matter as a body.
The amount of consistency and the wisdom of judgment in applying discipline vary greatly, too. Some congregations exercise church discipline habitually; others use a baseball bat when a fly swatter is needed; some use public action when private counselling is appropriate; others don’t do it at all.
Discipline is for the protection of the Gospel, the holiness of the church, and the salvation of those who receive it. Discipline is to be exercised wisely. Discipline stemming from anger and control issues does harm. On the other hand, lax discipline hurts the fellowship of God. One needs wisdom, understanding, and good technique to be a confronter of hidden reefs in the love feast.
Many great books have been written about procedures and techniques for confronting controversy, conflict, and antagonists and they need to be read. This book is a rationale.
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