You Are Not What You Weigh: End Your War With Food and Discover Your True Value
By Lisa Bevere
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Lisa Bevere’s authentic and passionate teachings weave profound biblical truths with practical application. A New York Times best-selling author, her books are in the hands of millions worldwide. Lisa and her husband John, who’s also a best-selling author and teacher, are the founders of Messenger International.
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You Are Not What You Weigh - Lisa Bevere
For the last fifteen years, I have been treating eating disorders as a part of practicing family medicine. The frequency, intensity, and scope of these disorders have progressively increased. Many modalities of treatment have been suggested through time, but the results have not been very encouraging. Many of these treatments focused on the symptoms that the patients present, but dealt very little with the pain, anger, and sensation of hopelessness these precious people feel.
In You Are Not What You Weigh, Lisa precisely deals with those feelings that are the root of the problem. She unveils the lies we choose to live and gives alternatives for change. She presents this information in a very nonthreatening way. At the same time, she is very concrete, effective, and powerful. Her testimony is a window through which to look, learn, and follow as a role model.
Those that are hurting, for any reason, will find an oasis in the middle of their wilderness when they read this book. I challenge you to change and come to the knowledge of the truth and be free!
I include this book as an essential part of the treatment of eating disorders in my practice. If you are dealing with the pains, anger, and frustration, if you are tired of failing, I challenge you to be different and walk toward your healing. This book is a great tool that will direct you to success.
—LUIS E. MORALES, MD
DIPLOMATE AMERICAN BOARD OF FAMILY PRACTICE
FELLOW AMERICAN ACADEMY FAMILY MEDICINE
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YOU ARE NOT WHAT YOU WEIGH by Lisa Bevere
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Bevere, Lisa.
You are not what you weigh / Lisa Bevere.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN-13: 978-1-59979-075-6 (trade paper) 1. Body image in women. 2. Overweight women--Psychology. 3. Obesity in women--Psychological aspects. 4. Obesity--Religious aspects-Christianity. 5. Self-esteem in women. I. Title.
BF697.5.B63B48 2007
248.8’43--dc22
2006030086
E-book ISBN: 978-1-59979-638-3
Every year more than a thousand women die senseless, hopeless deaths. They die trying to win approval that will never be granted. These are determined and strong women with wills of iron. Yet their very wills are used against them and honed into weapons of self-destruction. Perhaps you know someone with an eating disorder. Perhaps even now she is holding this book.
This book is dedicated to every woman who has ever struggled with her physical image. It is penned to each of you who found yourself encumbered and entangled inwardly to your outward physical self. This is a book of truth to dispel the lies that have held you captive for far too long. It is a sword placed in your hand to cut the tethers and ties that bind you. I have fought on this battleground and won. I will be a true friend and share with you the Truth that set me free.
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
To my husband, John—you have never reduced me to what you saw or what I weighed, and I love you for it. I am so blessed to have a husband like you to support me and remind me of God’s unconditional love for me. You are my best friend.
To my four precious sons—Addison, Austin, Alexander, and Arden—thanks for all your help. I love you all more than words can say. May you always know true beauty. Stay strong and free!
To Tina—you are one of the most beautiful women I know.
To my heavenly Father—Your Son has been the truth that set me free. You delivered me from a dungeon of sin and darkness and set my feet on the pathway of light. Forever I will praise Your name.
CONTENTS
Introduction
1 The Tyranny of the Lie
2 The Truth
3 The Image of the Lie
4 The Image of Self
5 The Root of Image
6 The Reordering of Disorder
7 The Idol Tumbles
8 Dieting vs. Fasting
9 God’s Fast
10 Tearing Down Idols and Building Altars
11 If I’m Not What I Weigh… What Am I?
Appendix A: No Weigh!
Appendix B: More Testimonials
Notes
This book has radically changed my life! About ten days ago, I was talking to God and crying about my weight, and God told me to work through Lisa’s book with Him! The more I worked through the book, the more I felt myself changing. Working through this book was like having coffee with Lisa and being counseled by her. I prayed all the prayers that she gave, and I found myself realizing deep down that there was a lie going on that was keeping me fat—but I didn’t know what that lie was. I asked God to reveal it to me, and a couple of days after finishing the book, He did! Thank you, Lisa, for revealing the truth to me. I am now free at last!
—KIM—
INTRODUCTION
This book is not about information;
you’ve had enough of that.
It’s about transformation.
Why would I feel drawn to write a book on the subject of weight? Because I have experienced both ends of the spectrum: I’ve been overly thin, and I’ve been overweight. I remember and can keenly identify with the frustration and pain of those who suffer from eating disorders. I will share an in-depth account of my struggle. But first let me introduce myself.
I do not come to you as an expert on diet, nutrition, or exercise. I’m sure you have already amassed enough knowledge in these three areas. Nor do I address you from the vantage point of an aerobics instructor, beauty queen, or critic. I’m sure you have had encounters with all of these. I come just as a friend.
I fought this battle alone. It was my secret struggle for years. I waged a silent inner war, afraid to tell others . . . afraid they might mock me if they knew. I never realized how many others wrestled with the same fears and failures until I had already come out on the other side.
If only there had been someone in my life with whom I could identify, one who not only understood but who had also waged her own battle—and won—it would have been easier for me. But there was no one.
It was never a lack of knowledge that held me bound. I knew the caloric count of practically everything I ate. I also knew the amount of calories each aerobic and anaerobic exercise burned. I pored over health manuals and periodicals; I took classes and purchased magazines, devouring any information that promised me a new body by summer or in time for the Christmas holidays.
I was afraid. I didn’t believe I could succeed, so why should anyone else believe in me? I imagined I was surrounded by people who expected failure from me. Though I know now my assessment was not true, I believed it nonetheless. All the while, I was my own worst critic and believed in my self the least of all. There seemed to be two of me—one I protected, the other I projected. I protected my self not out of love, but out of fear. What if everyone knew the truth?
I pretended to be confident when actually I was afraid. I pretended to be angry when actually I was hurt. I pretended to be strong when actually I was weak. I projected an image I thought would be accepted because I was certain the real me would be rejected. I decided it was OK if people rejected the fake me, but not the real me. She would remain hidden.
Over the years I have learned something about images or facades. They use up entirely too much energy in their maintenance, leaving us drained and void of the power to change or develop the real. Soon we are confused about who we really are. Stepping out from behind these illusions leaves us vulnerable, but there is no reason to fear, for we will only be vulnerable with each other and, of course, with God.
God will not hurt you, and so I cannot. Through these pages you hear my words, in private and in the tone and time of your own choosing. I am not there to argue with you or to criticize you. I am only there to support you and lead you to Him.
I promise to be open, honest, and transparent with you. I can willingly share my failures because He has turned them