Elevation of Two

By Ma’at Latham

Are you in a relationship that cycles through the same conflict over and over again?  You've tried moving away from the anger, hurt & resentment the relationship causes you, only to find yourself rehashing those feelings because that other person keeps doing the same thing that triggers your pain. You talked to them about it. You've fought with them. You love the person, you don't want to leave them. You just want them to change or stop doing whatever it is that's putting a rift in between the two of you.

This cycle is keeping the both of you reduced to a basic level of operating in life.  There is super power within positive partnerships that transforms lives for the better and frees your spirit. You two haven't tapped into this power. You are not reaching your full love, professional and positive emotional potential.  

It's time for a change and the force to make this happen lies within you.  Stop burying yourself and start planting the seeds that will grow you and your relationship. This book will show you why you are in this negative space, how your mindset is impacting your relationship and how to apply growth mindset to create the successful relationship you're yearning for.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Ma’at Latham
• Release date: Jan 13, 2020
• ISBN: 9781513658896

Ma’at Latham

Ma'at Latham is a former school principal whose professional experince spans from coaching and developing future leaders to writing curriculum. She's the daughter of two phenominal educators and the mother of one amazing son. She does her best writing while traveling.  She believes that the people she meets as she globe trots are angels who remind her to keep being creative and living free.

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Chapter One

The What, How & Why of Mindset

What is Mindset?

We live with a set of beliefs that govern our attitudes and thoughts to life, and sometimes, in rare soul-searching moments, we may wonder where these beliefs come from and why they hold so much power over our very existence.

Your mindset, in a way, is the way you think. It is the natural disposition of your mind to different topics, views, and events. In short, your mindset is your frame of mind. Your mindset is not an innate one, i.e., something you are born with; there is no genetic marker set aside for the creation of the mindset for human beings and, as such, cannot be inherited or passed down from parents to children.

Your mindset is the collection of your thoughts and beliefs that eventually shape your thought patterns and habits. In turn, these patterns and habits will influence the way you feel, act, and think. So your mindset is everything, as it helps you see, interpret, and understand the world.

Everything you had ever done from when you were a kid, every thought that has ever passed through your mind, every emotion that you have felt, and every action you have taken are responsible for where you are at the moment. Every decision you have made since you were young, and still making as an adult will direct you towards a result – towards one thing – which is your future.

Your mindset takes shape based on your life experiences, your environment, education, and the beliefs and ideologies that you have picked up from these places and the people we have interacted with the most.

Whether you are aware of it when it happens or not, your brain is continuously taking stock of everything that happens to you and keep it filed away. So, you have this compartmentalized cabinet that is filled with running accounts and self-talk of everything that happens to you, what they mean, and the way you should act towards it.

When anything happens, that looks like you have experienced it before, your brain goes back to that cabinet and opens the file to tell you how things turned out the other time you acted that way and if the best action would be to stay the course or move differently. All of this is like an inner conversation that takes place inside your head, strictly formed from your previous experiences, fears, thoughts, and beliefs.

Your mind will continuously monitor and interpret events, trying to find meaning to them so that it can either reinforce or modify the way we have come to think about ourselves and the world in general.

Whether or not your inner voice that directs your life is founded on a positively empowering mindset or a negatively limiting one, will play a significant role in determining how you would interpret criticisms, challenges, and setbacks in life – as well as contributing majorly to the results you would create after.

These eight principles can be used to describe and better understand the core attributes of mindsets.

·  Mindsets are routines of the mind: Mindset was first used to describe the habits of mind formed through past experiences. In short, mindsets are deeply rooted beliefs, assumptions, and attitudes we create about who you are and how the world, as a whole, works.

·  Mindsets are formed through experiences: The peculiarities you can make of your experiences help to shape your mindset. The more we experience things, the newer distinctions you make, and from these distinctions, you form new mindsets.

·  Mindsets produce blind-spots: You see the world in a skewed manner – you don't have the complete picture of the world, just what you have experienced and been exposed to. You only see fragments of the world. Your mindset acts as a camera lens through which you see, and so, some parts will be filtered off, and you won't see others at all.

·  Mindsets are self-deceptive: Because you are what you see, believe, hear, experience, and your mindsets act as a filter to these things, it is a given that you will only see things that reinforce your mindset. As a result, even if you try to shift your mindset, you will always be challenged by confirmation bias – the search and recall for information that reconfirms your previous beliefs.

·  Mindsets shape our everyday lives: Just as much as you are the sole creator of your mindset, your mindset also makes you – shapes you. Every waking thought that you have, every word that you speak and action that you take stems from your mindset, branching out like the natural leaves usually do from its stem. Before you can make any changes in your life, say be more trusting and open in your relationships, you would have to first begin by shifting your mindset, else, all will be for naught!

·  Mindsets create our shared world: Everyone has been harping on about systemic and cultural change. A massive shift in mindset globally will be of advantageous benefit to this change. To more consciously create the desired world we want to live in, we have to unanimously agree on the things we need to