Forgiveness: A Lenten Study
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Forgiving others and humbly asking for forgiveness are central disciplines for all Christian believers. Lent, a time to reflect on our Christian journey, is an appropriate time to deepen our understanding and practice of forgiveness. Marjorie J. Thompson, author of the best-selling book Soul Feast, takes a close look at our understanding of forgiveness in this encouraging study. In six brief chapters, Thompson addresses such questions as the following:
- Is forgiveness a Christian duty under all circumstances? Or are there situations when Christians do not need to forgive?
- Is forgiveness a matter between individuals, or is it meaningful only in the context of communities?
- Is forgiving the best route to healing for the injured?
- How do we get past emotional barriers to real forgiveness?
Using biblical examples and real-life situations, Thompson illustrates each chapter's theme in an informative and engaging way. A study guide is also included at the back of the book that is appropriate for either individual reflection or group discussion. With clarity, insight, and sensitivity, this book is the perfect resource for examining both our ability to forgive and our own need for forgiveness.
Marjorie J. Thompson
Marjorie J. Thompson is an ordained minister of the Presbyterian Church USA. She received her Bachelor of Arts in religious studies from Swarthmore College, and her Master of Divinity degree from McCormick Theological Seminary. Following a post-graduate pastoral internship, she became a Research Fellow at Yale Divinity School where she studied Christian spirituality with Henri Nouwen and did independent research in ecumenical traditions of prayer. Marjorie has served as adjunct faculty for several seminaries, including McCormick, Auburn, Wesley, and Vanderbilt Divinity School. She has taught in The Upper Room s Academy for Spiritual Formation, and directed the foundational program for Stillpoint. In 1996, Marjorie joined The Upper Room as Director of the Pathways Center for Spiritual Leadership, now called Pathways for Congregational Spirituality, and has served as chief architect of Companions in Christ. She is the author of Family, The Forming Center and Soul Fea
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Forgiveness - Marjorie J. Thompson
FORGIVENESS
Also by Marjorie J. Thompson
from Westminster John Knox Press
Soul Feast: An Invitation to the Christian Spiritual Life
FORGIVENESS
A Lenten Study
MARJORIE J. THOMPSON
© 2014 Westminster John Knox Press
Portions of this book were previously published as a downloadable study titled Learning Forgiveness: A Lenten Study,
The Thoughtful Christian, January 13, 2010, www.TheThoughtfulChristian.com.
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CONTENTS
Introduction
1. Beginnings: A Kinship Appeal
2. Self-Examination: Prelude to Forgiveness
3. Honesty: Engaging the Inner Struggle
4. Repentance: Getting a New Mind
5. Forgiving: Embracing Freedom
6. Beginning Again: Reconciliation and Restoration
Study Guide
Introduction
Session 1: Beginnings
Session 2: Self-Examination
Session 3: Honesty
Session 4: Repentance
Session 5: Forgiving
Session 6: Beginning Again
Notes
INTRODUCTION
THERE IS NO FUTURE WITHOUT FORGIVENESS,
ARCHBISHOP Desmond Tutu argues compellingly in his book by that title. Raised in a culture that values a rich sense of community, Tutu brings our deep human yearning for communal harmony to bear on the aftermath of Black oppression under the systemic injustices of Apartheid in South Africa. At the least, we can say that without forgiveness there is no future worthy of human life and community as God surely intended them to be in the originating vision of Creation. Moreover, we now have a better sense than we did half a century ago that no future
in the human community invariably implicates the future of the planet and all its life forms. We are inextricably connected. If we cannot find our way to healthy human communities, we will inevitably damage the earth and likely perish together.
There is also no Christianity without forgiveness. It is impossible to conceive of any expression of Christian discipleship that ignores or excludes a virtue so central to the good news. The entire message of Jesus’ life, death, and resurrection would be lost without it. Forgiveness is the healing stream flowing out from the crucified Christ over a world that does not know how desperately it needs the healing. Yet divine forgiveness—what Christ on the cross represents—is precisely what makes a realistic future possible within a human community still largely wading around in the muck of emotional and spiritual immaturity.
If we imagine humanity as evolving toward higher levels of consciousness, we could say that perhaps on balance we have entered early adolescence. In most parts of the world, the ethic of retaliation and revenge is hugely popular, supported even by holy writ. We are captive to the ego-centered perceptions and reactions of our reptilian brain,
the brain stem governing our instincts for survival and security. Inside this primitive cognitive center—alive and well in all of us—empathy with others does not exist. When we are deeply fearful or traumatized, we revert unconsciously to our instinctual brain. Consequently, the more conflict we experience, the more likely we are to participate in and create further conflict. Violence begets violence, trauma thrusts us away from the higher cognitive functions that allow a more civil society to be nurtured and sustained.
A particularly significant word here is unconscious.
When Jesus is crucified, he offers God a rationale for divine forgiveness: They don’t know what they are doing.
This could still be said of most people on the planet today. We have little idea of what we are actually doing. We judge others and ourselves based on outward words and actions, but we don’t comprehend the deeper reaches of mind and heart from which they arise. So much of what we see, do, and say is rooted in unconscious wounds and unmet needs. Our insecurity and anxiety shape how we perceive others—as rivals or allies, objects of envy or objects to be despised, enemies out to get us or people like us
—and therefore how we react to them in speech and behavior.
Unconscious ego manipulations, at both personal and corporate levels, wreak enormous damage in human relationships. But if these operations are largely unconscious, we need to stop judging our egos so harshly! The defenses and ploys of the ego have been nurtured from infancy to defend our security and bolster our sense of control in a world full of pain, incomprehension, and chaos. The program we need to undertake, in order to move a skittish ego out of the driver’s seat of our lives, is to understand its felt needs and exercise compassion for its anxieties and compulsions. As we come to recognize the way ego functions, we can gradually let go of its demands, releasing the immature sense of self and welcoming our more mature identity. That more mature identity finds its full expression in Christ, the image of the invisible God
(Col. 1:15). We, too, are made in the divine image, but it is deeply hidden under the creaky structures of security and control we have tried to fashion for ourselves.
God’s forgiveness offers us a way to move forward: to challenge the assumed supremacy of our small ego-kingdoms; to discover our common humanity with others of all backgrounds; to wake up to the deeper reality of our identity in Christ. In him, we can grow up into the full maturity of mind, heart, and spirit that is our true human inheritance.