H&H: Him to Her: Her to Him

By Ricky S. Sanderson

According to a Single Parent Statistics study, who is the "Average" Single Parent? In fact, many Americans would be surprised to learn just how much they have in common with the average single parent. According to Custodial Mothers and Fathers and Their Child Support: 2007, released by the U.S. Census Bureau in November, 2009, there are approximately 13.7 million single parents in the United States today, and those parents are responsible for raising 21.8 million children (approximately 26% of children under 21 in the U.S. today). There are ethnic differences in the prevalence of single-parent families. In 1999 the rate of single-parent families among Black families was 56 percent; among Hispanic families, 32 percent; and among White families, 20 percent.

whether you are in a department store or in a crowded bar; Relationships usually began once eye contact has been made, and hearts starts to beat a little faster. In this book I have shown some real and very useful principles that can be found in the Bible. This is by no means a religious book; it just uses The Word to bring couples closer together. If you are in a relationship, if you are thinking about jumping into a relationship, if you have been in a relationship for some time this book can be a big help to you and your partner. Thank you for the support. Enjoy: Thank you Holy Spirit for your inspiration.

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse
• Release date: Feb 25, 2011
• ISBN: 9781456721695

Ricky S. Sanderson

I was born in a little town called Holly Springs, in Mississippi. I was adopted by Wilson and Olivia Sanderson, who were my Aunt and Uncle. I want dedicate my work to my Parents, I wish they were here to enjoy this time. A little about my parents. My mom was a Nurse, Hairdresser, mid-wife, and caregiver; She was the best mother any child could have. I never understood many of the lessons she taught me. Until I left home to joined the NAVY, and later started my own family. She was a strong individual that help bring kids in to this world and sat with the elderly as they left this world. She once told me that in everyone life there will be a time that they could use a helping hand, and if you refuse to lend a hand; than what is your worth? She was an in creditable lady. I LOVE YOU MOMMY. My dad was a rock, he believed in family. I watch him take care of his father, and his sister until their passing. One Memorial Day weekend I was home at his request, to help him around the house. He had gotten up in aged and couldn’t do much. One evening as we sat talking, he leaned over and said, “How do you see me?” I said, “You are my dad, you’re the only father I’ve ever known and I’m proud to be called your son. I love you.” He looked at me and said, I love you too Then he said, if you ever tell anyone I said that I’ll deny it. That was the only time he ever said he loved me, that fall he pasted. I’m glad I got the chance to have him as my father, and if I can be just a bit of the man he was than he did a great job with me, Thank you Daddy.. I live in Cape Cod Ma. With my fiancée, she’s a great lady. She is my strength, my rib. I want to thank my beautiful partner, my friend, my lady June for giving me the opportunity to live in her life. Living in Cape Cod has been an interesting one. I know it was God’s plan that I move here to learn and understand him better. I have met some wonderful friends here on the Cape and since living here I have reunited with my brother. Who has been a missing part of my life? I love him dearly. To My Brother Robin, I also dedicate this book and thank you for your input. I don’t call myself a relationship expert, but after counseling friends on relationship they were involved in. One of them said your advice ids pretty good; you should put it on paper. So I start writing, and just maybe these words will help others as they did my friends. Writing this book has even helped me understand things that I had taken for granted in my own relationship... I am the father of three great kids. Ricky, an aspiring Musician. I can't wait to hear and see him in a music video one day soon. Rachel, my beautiful daughter and a Mother herself of my precious granddaughter Taniyah, and last my baby boy Ryan. I have experienced the ups and downs of life but have learn through my faith in God I am able to do all things through Christ. My motto in Life is I can do all, No weapon formed, that I may have Life and that more abundantly.

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Contents

We are not meant to be alone

Shopping

Release and Renew

Investment

Making it Last

Source Reference

Acknowledgements

Sitting at home one night I watched the movie 10,000 BC, about early man and his life in the wilderness. It was a really good movie. The main characters in the movie are D’Leh an outcast because of his father’s past; Evolet, a woman in the village; and Tic’-Tic, the village leader. D’Leh and the other men of his tribe have to compete for the chance to take Evolet as their mate and also for the opportunity to become the village leader. They have to kill a Mammoth in order to win her hand. In some strange way D’Leh ends up killing a Mammoth single-- handedly, and thus wins Evolet’s hand, and the staff of leadership from Tic’-Tic. One day, D’Leh and several others are away when horse-raiders called the Four Legged Demons attack the tribe. The horse raiders enslave Evolet and others in the tribe, so D’Leh and a few remaining male members of his tribe set out to track and free them from the Slaver.

Now this is where the movie gets interesting, As D’Leh and others track their enslaved tribe members; they come across other tribes that have encountered these very slavers. D’Leh meets up with Nakudu, leader of the Naku tribe. Nakudu explains that his loved ones and others in his village were taken by these same slavers in the Great Red Birds, or ships with large red sails, to the Mountains of the Gods, from which no one has ever returned. They then come together with other tribes, who agree to form a coalition to pursue the raiders.

Ok, this sounds like a great movie and it is up to the point where I noticed that D’Leh is a Dreadlock wearing White guy as are the other members of his tribe. D’Leh’s mate Evolet is also a Dreadlock wearing blue eyed White woman who throughout the movie the narrator continues to refer to as the legend of the Blue eyes. I was really into the movie until I saw Nakudu and his tribes men were stronger looking than D’Leh and his people. They are all Black and every tribe that unites with them is also Black and has these warriors who look like body builders, and show a lot of muscle throughout the movie.

Now if these Slavers have attacked these tribes in the past and enslaved their people why have they not united before to come against them? I know I am reading too much into it, beside it’s just a movie, which is supposes to entertain us. But in this movie I saw something that reflected on the condition of Black relationships.

We don’t have to go back to 10,000 BC, to see where the black relationship took a turn for the worse. Sometime during the 1600s a family is just retiring for the evening when there was a home invasion. The father was subdued first; he will cause the most problems; he was tied up and dragged from the house. (The Bible has a passage that talks about this. Mark 3:27 No man can enter into a strong man’s house, and spoil his goods, except he will first bind the strong man; and then he will spoil his house.) Then the wife was tied up and pulled from the home, then the kids, and as they are being taken they see their neighbors suffering the same fate being tied up, the men placed in one group, the women in another, and the kids another.

Wives cry out for their husbands and kids for their parents. These people are carted off to holding facilities where they are corralled with others from neighboring villages. A few men manage to free themselves and try to combat these invaders, but they are soon over powered and their rebellion is put down, some killed as an example to the others if they try to escape, or rebel. Throughout the night other villages are invaded and the people captured and bounded; by morning they are sorted and placed on ships. The husbands catch a glimpse of their wives being molested by these invaders and are powerless to do anything to save their families. They are shipped to faraway lands. See the similarity to the movie?

This is the beginning of the breakdown of Black relationships. Did you know close to two million slaves were brought to the American South from Africa and the West Indies during the centuries of the Atlantic slave trade? Now flash forward. These men, women, and kids are now in a new land. They are sold off, dividing the family even more. The transatlantic slave trade produced one of the largest forced migrations in history.

From the early 16th to the mid-19th centuries, between 10 million and 11 million Africans were taken from their homes, herded onto ships where they were sometimes so tightly packed that they could barely move, and sent to a strange land. The Men were given a new wife, and the wife a new husband.

No one cares that a lot of these individuals were a loving family at one time. Massachusetts was the first slave-holding colony in New England, though the exact beginning of Black slavery in what became Massachusetts cannot be dated exactly. Slavery there is said to have predated the settlement of Massachusetts Bay colony in 1629, and circumstantial evidence gives a date from 1624 to 1629 for the first slaves. "Samuel Maverick, apparently New England’s first slaveholder, arrived in Massachusetts in 1624 and, according to [John Gorham] Palfrey, owned two Negroes before John Winthrop, who later became governor of the colony, arrived in 1630. In the antebellum South, slavery provided the economic foundation that supported the dominant planter ruling class. Under slavery the structure of White supremacy was hierarchical and patriarchal, resting on male privilege, masculinity honor, entrenched economic power, and raw force.

Black people necessarily had to develop their sense of identity, family relations, communal values, religion, and, to an impressive extent their cultural autonomy by exploiting contradictions and opportunities within a complex fabric of paternalistic give-and-take, not to venture too much in to slavery. The Black Men were forced to work the land of his captives. But he keeps the image of his wife, his kids and his home in his mind while trying to figure out how to free them and reunite his family. These Black Men were beaten and tortured to break them. Not because they refuse to labor for their masters, but to break them from longing to be with their family.

Remember some of these slaves had loving families;

This is the beginning of the breakup of the Black relationship. How much torture do you think these families can take before they give in and accept the fact they will never see each other again? The men settles in to this new life with new women to be mated with as wives forced on them by his slave master and the same for the Black Women. They try to love, to build new families with their new mates, and just as they are convinced that they can be happy in their new life, POW!! disruption again!

The master is selling off his kids, his wife for