Bread Milk and Love Have Expiration Dates: Ýtil Temptation Do Us Part

By M. Wilson

All the good men are not yet taken, though it may seem that way from the forty-one lies being told to achieve the ultimate sex from another relationship in Bread, Milk and Love Have Expiration Dates. One could easily say that love thrives on flattery, and even without an erection, sex is still on their brains.

But understand that men think of sex every 53 seconds, while women think of it one to four times a day. So what does a woman need to know? Love does not expire with time, so consider taking the mystery to the next level, so that your partner cannot get enough of you. Do fun things together and put the sizzle back into your marriage or relationship to avoid the enticement of: 'Til Temptation Do Us Part.

God created you in love. He did not create you to live loveless and in misery. Life is meant to be shared and to experience love together. You need to search him out, find out what he enjoys and stimulate his needs. Become a child-like nature and spice up your life live and love the moment be smart, get out of your comfort zone once in a while; try new directions and go for the life you want. That could be the key to having your partner around for a lifetime without him sneaking out to get the extra gravy from someone else.

• Language: English
• Publisher: iUniverse
• Release date: Aug 2, 2007
• ISBN: 9780595906161

M. Wilson

Michael Wilson is Professor of Microbiology at UCL Eastman Dental Institute, University College London and Honorary Clinical Microbiologist at the Eastman Dental Hospital, London, UK. He has published widely on antibiotic resistance, biofilms, bacterial virulence factors, and the development of new antimicrobial strategies.

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Copyright © 2007 by M. M. WILSON

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The views expressed in this work are solely those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the views of the publisher, and the publisher hereby disclaims any responsibility for them.

I have rendered the events as truthfully as I recalled them from persons or from e-mail chat logs. Names and descriptions of individuals have been changed and sequences of events and places have been slightly altered in order to protect and respect their privacy. While circumstances and conversations depicted came from my keen recollection of them, they are not meant to represent precise time lines or exact word-for-word re-enactments of characters’ lives. Except for those minor changes, the events in this book were written as I saw them or as they were told to me.

The author’s voice, My Take On This, after each story shared in the second half of this book, under Lying for Love, is solely the opinion of the author and should not be used as professional counselling or therapy.

Editor: Joyce Standish

Proofreading: Odette Hyatt

Contents

Acknowledgments

Dedication

About This Book

Preface

Foreword

Section I

Awaken Your Dream

1

Margaret and Errol

2

Margaret and Errol

3

Margaret and Errol

4

Margaret and Errol

5

Margaret and Errol

6

Margaret and Errol

7

Margaret and Errol

8

Margaret and Errol

9

Margaret and Errol

Section II Lying for Love

10

Jennifer and Fred

11

Mia and Fitz

12

Cherry and Tony

13

Anita and Garth

14

Danny and Janet

15

Dayrie and Sean

16

Ann and Lionel

17

Hyatt and Jennifer

18

Sabrina and Ken

19

Christine and Terrence

20

Susan and Todd

21

Jody and Alan

22

Sophie and Rev. Leighton

23

Frances and David

24

George and Irene

25

Kate and Ian

26

Esther and Lewis

27

Charlene and Devon

28

Yvonne and Carl

29

Marie and Deacon Godfrey

30

Hilary and Tim

31

Dorothy and Dr. Eastone

32

James and Nancy

33

Gladys and Paul

34

Phil and Kristine

35

Kim and Stephen

36

Marcia and Tom

37

Lucy and Aaron

38

Emily and Nathan

39

Bob and Trudy

40

Shelby and Keith

41

Victor and Natalie

42

Lori and Jason

43

Kelly and Mark

44

Sue and Thomas

45

Glenda and Stephen

46

Danielle and Rojo

47

Wendi and Chris

48

Patrice and Samuel

49

Sonia and Greg

50

Having My Say

51

Postscript

My Latest Publication

Acknowledgments

I give thanks to God for the strength, energy and motivation as I continued to feel connected to my writing. Bread, Milk and Love Have Expiration Dates is dear to my heart, because I’ve experienced divorce, too. A friend once said to me soon after my divorce in the early 2001, Divorce has never looked so good.

I in turn smiled and said, I’m happy to share that I’ve blissfully negotiated with my inner spirit that life goes on for each of us. There’s no reason to break life down if the other person isn’t willing to grow in the relationship to experience a spiritual partnership growth. Through all this I’ve learned to love people and not things, use things and not people. Life is such a precious gift and since then I never took life for granted.

Without a doubt, to my children and grandchildren, I truly thank you for your support as I continue to write with great enthusiasm. I’m truly grateful for their hands and hearts that surrounded me while I write this book. You’ve inspired me to write each and every day!

My sincere thanks go to Odette Hyatt, whose caring generosity; one big heart and two hands are on every page of this book. Once my editor gave me back the manuscript she offered to reread and sifted through all the pages to make sure every T’s crossed and I’s dotted. Her priceless volunteerism is greatly appreciated. Thank you, Odette.

I sincerely thank Joyce Standish, my editor, who has edited these pages in the manuscript. Joyce is very experienced and has edited many journal articles, research reports, scientific papers, book manuscripts, Master’s and doctorial theses and television scripts for over fifty years and has fine-tuned the pages. I refer to Joyce as from the old school, and her brilliance helped to shape this book. I thank you, Joyce.

There’re so many of you who shared your stories with me, in person or e-mail chat logs, a special thanks to you. I’ll keep my promise to protect your privacy, inside and outside the pages of this book. Without a doubt, your stories should bring a breath of fresh air to others who may be struggling in their relationship, at this present time. I hope they’ll learn the skills of how to mend or cast off.

To conclude, my publisher, iUniverse has been helpful in bringing such fine craftsmanship to the readers.

Dedication

This book is dedicated to a friend of my friend Margaret. I am proud to know when life handed you heartbreak you chose heart-mend. I hope this story will help others in similar situations to get up from where they are and follow their dreams. In other words, you may need to bury the past to enable you to move into the future.

You, Margaret have allowed me to spell my name as W-O-M-A-N and helped me come to realize that women have come a long way from being the woman to get married, have babies, keep the house clean and take care of the entire family, meanwhile, forgetting about YOU. You have for decades held jobs and made decisions in the boardroom, tasks once considered only a man’s job. I say you all can dream dreams, but not everyone knows how to awake their dreams to come alive. Like Margaret, sometimes you need to change position, as you will clearly see in this story. And to the women who have their dreams locked up inside, it is time to step out of the box and follow those dreams! For you alone have the power to make it happen!

When life hands you a rock, look it over carefully where you want to chip away at it to get gravel for building blocks. My friend’s friend had a dream to wake up and get out of her emotional and abusive relationship. To make such changes meant meeting some setbacks, but she was determined to demand nothing less than respect. She valued herself and her beliefs and came to the realization that she did not have to have a partner in her life to feel fulfilled.

In saluting Margaret’s intriguing story, I say do not surrender. Be smart, get out of your comfort zone, try new directions, go for it. Like Margaret, when she did not receive the respect she deserved, she let go of the past and her feeling-sorry-for-herself syndrome and moved on for good.

The New Friend

About This Book

It seem that every time I look around, something about love is expiring. As I began to see the many marriages end, including mine, I could not help writing the title with ease. For it appears as if love has a shelf life, like other items in the supermarket. Today, the number of divorces has by far replaced long marriages. In America more than half of marriages end in a divorce, and many countries have experienced that trend. This book is just one of the areas that will show you why.

This is a two-part non-fictional work in one book, the first being Awaken Your Dream and the second Lying for Love. Each title however, has unity or commonality, in telling their stories. Both subtitles by the work of the author complement each section. The first section deals with an individual falling in love and later discovering that she and her partner did not have the same dreams and aspiration after marriage. The second section shares all the stories of lies that the author, friends or associates have heard and shared with her over two decades. These lies are echoed throughout this book.

After having read this book, I hope you will live your life, making sure you are always prepared to have something that you enjoy doing on which to fall back in time of heartbreaks. For life throws many curves, and you never know which one you will bump into and fall. I have often said: Flattery is the toy to a man’s expressive thoughts and the virus to a woman’s infatuation syndrome, where a woman begins to feel singleness is the act of her biological clocking ticking down and she must fall in love. Thus, she gets herself caught up in a web of flattery, which is often not always about love if one cares to look deeper than bare words themselves.

Ladies and gentlemen, the best justice you can do to your relationship is to be honest with each other. Relationships take work, and if someone is not pulling their weight, tell that to the person’s face. And remember, everyone needs a variety in life, but not necessarily with different people. Do not go looking for a new love to full an empty void. If you find that you have tried everything and failed, politely move on to your own ways. Regardless of what decision you have made or end to which you have come, remember what you have learned along the way. This time, do it the best way; your way.

Good luck!

Preface

Every one of us has the power to turn things around. How? One solution is to focus on the positive things life has to offer.

If only you can look at misfortune as an opportunity to move forward to the next level, you will not feel sorry for yourself. This book encourages you to take the next step of reinventing a passion for something that you love, to help motivate the inner ill feelings that you may be experiencing.

When hopes are lost, dreams are shattered and rock bottom hits your surface’s edge, you will surely think there is nowhere else to go but down. There are the times to begin to dream dreams. Think, think of your dreams and do not play dead. Write down your dreams. Write every dream on a list, where they will be more visible. List the dreams one by one, two by two and three by three. Begin to look over each dream. The one to which you gravitate the most should be the dream that you need to bring alive. Anything that you enjoy will take little effort, because your energy will simply maneuver you to give your dreams the life it needs. Soon you will no longer need to be pushed or reminded about your dreams; they will begin to burst like the seeds from the soil and will now see life and grow. Now it is up to you to take your dreams where you want them to go!

Margaret was alone in the empty bachelor’s apartment she occupied since her marriage breakup and she placed her furnishings in storage when suddenly she felt a hunger for some ice cream. With only a couple of remaining days to stay in the apartment, the refrigerator was empty. She searched every purse she had to find enough money to purchase an ice cream cone. Ice cream? Why am I feeling a need for ice cream today? were her inner questions. She found three cents in one purse, one dollar and twenty-eights cents in another and a five-dollar bill in one she had not used since last year. All the change was enough to purchase her ice cream.

But before walking or driving the two blocks to get the ice cream, she craved, she had an urge to watch Oprah at four. The television was still plugged into the wall, still untouched for the move, so she sat down to watch her favorite show. As soon as Oprah announced her guests, Margaret thought that the show was about her. This show’s about me. How did she know this? her inquiring mind asked?

Angry with herself, Margaret got up and spun around. Is there a camera on the wall? she asked aloud, looking up, to view the walls.

Her anger having dissipated, and she was eager to watch the show. She curled up, legs crossed, on the carpet, forgetting about the ice cream she had craved for earlier.

Almost immediately the show began to deeply touch her. The woman who had everything, like her, and lost it, got most of her attention. Her only home she had to stay in was a one cheap motel room at an Econ Lodge. Suddenly she hollered: These tears I’m shedding at this moment aren’t for pain I carry inside but to assure myself that I’m willing to accept the things I can’t change and ask for tolerance to cope. Margaret thought: From having wealth on which we put value to having nothing much left of my possessions is certainly a hard job to take on. Those tears I shed will become something else than just another tear. You may call them my pain tears, but I call them my dreams that will anchor me for a brighter future.

At this point Margaret did not know what to make of her situation or what went wrong for her to be punished this way. Everything for which she had worked so hard was taken away so soon. … it’s okay, this time will be different because my dreams and good health will be mine. Mine to savor to the end. My dreams will come alive.

When the program broke for commercial, like an instant flash she was reminded she was still alone. She began to sob. She moved closer to the television screen, the one she substituted for a mirror and looked closely at—her face. An identical image stared back at her, one she did not like. Thinking that it was an illusion, she took a second look and, of course, the image resembled her in a pitiful state. She took a box of tissues and began to pull on the sheets until she emptied the whole box; with a handful she wiped her tears and spoke to the image that looked back at her from the television screen. Get up and begin to use your dreams. Success is yours if you can bury the pain. Only you can allow your dreams to manifest and grow.

What next?

Foreword

This book is written to remind you that in life there are STRANGE circumstances that all of us will encounter. When circumstances happen in our lives, we see them as more difficult in us than in others. In reality, however, the circumstances we bear are what our tolerance level can endure. To rise above problems will take some work—work that is up to you, to accomplish.

Like so many of us, Margaret’s life was going well, until one day something happened. She wasn’t expecting it, but it just happened, is often said. The signs that were there she failed to see, a failure that was the result of an infatuation syndrome. Do people live their lives expecting that one day a mate will tell them that they do not love you anymore? No!

According to Margaret her husband had loved her. But when she really looks back now, she realizes that all the signs were there; she missed them because she chose to wear blinders, and eventually her life collapsed. Life with her husband did not buckle at a moment’s notice. Something was happening along the way that she was afraid to admit. And that is the way for so many of us. We only accept the truth when the mate walks out, but in truth, the separation has been a long time coming.

The story shows signs by Margaret’s husband’s actions. Still, one woman had everything and lost it, except her hope in a dream that laid dormant inside her. That dream of many years was suddenly renewed, a dream that simply made her step out of the box and once again believe in herself.

Sometimes to make the change could be as simple as watching a television show like Oprah. Others could find a way to change in a book they read, an event attended, getting counseling, a positive conversation with someone or simply accept self-realization. Whatever it takes to make your dream come alive, find it and follow it!

Section I

Awaken Your Dream

1

Margaret and Errol

Chapter one begun with a remarkable love story. Margaret and Errol grew up in Chicago. They were high school sweethearts; attended the same high school and college. In their yearbook, Errol said: In my heart I know that I’ve already found my wife-to-be, so I need to succeed at college to take care of her. Margaret wrote: My best friend’s the one who knows my every little secret. The two were entwined and inseparable from early years.

The first year after the two graduated from university, they took the summer off to travel to Europe for four months, landing in the United Kingdom the middle of May, 1992. From England, they travel to Scotland, Wales and Ireland, then Italy, France, Belgium, Switzerland and into Germany. They toured for the first two months. While in Germany, Margaret found a job in a hotel as a housekeeper and Errol was employed in a restaurant as a dishwasher. They worked for six weeks, earning enough to keep them going until the end of the trip two weeks later.

When Margaret and Errol came back to the United States, each returned home to their parents. But this time they would not be living close beside each other as they did as children, teenagers or now young adults. Margarets’ parents had moved away from Chicago while she was in Europe. Her father was transferred to a new position with the a company in Connecticut, and they were now living in Freeport, CT. Errol returned to Chicago alone. But it was not for long. He missed Margaret so much that he had to do something about filling this void. He hardly ever had a full night’s sleep for a whole month, knowing that Margaret was so far away.

One night after he spoke with Margaret, he got on the Internet and began to surf for jobs in and around the Tri-States. He applied online for a job with an accounting firm in New York City. A couple of weeks later he did a telephone interview with the company and then was invited to come to New York a couple of weeks later for a person-to-person interview at the Manhattan head office.

Errol was successful, and achieved the standard ofstarting out as a junior accountant.

Margaret, on the other hand, found a financial service job with a bank in Connecticut. She decided not to return to the telecommunications company for whom she had worked part-time during college. When she learned that Errol found a job in New