He Heals The Brokenhearted: Living and Loving After Rejection

By Dr. Helen M. Kennedy

Have you experienced a broken heart? Endured years of soul pain? Can't seem to foster good relationships? Are you still carrying the wounds of your past? Find it hard to forgive the people who hurt you? You might be dealing with rejection. The good news is that you can be healed, you can forgive, and you can love. He Heals The Brokenhearted is the true story about a woman who was heartbroken many times, but whose heart was mended after recognizing the True Love of her life.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Helen Kennedy Ministries, Inc.
• Release date: Nov 17, 2017
• ISBN: 9781386850687

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Hebrews 4:15-16

For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin. Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.

DEDICATION

This book is dedicated to every man and woman who has experienced brokenness, the heart pain of rejection, and whose hopes and dreams have been destroyed.  My personal experiences have introduced me to depths of God’s love and the realization that broken hearts can be mended.

In writing He Heals the Brokenhearted: Living and Loving After Rejection, my desire is to inspire you to fully embrace the healing that’s been afforded, confident that you will live, love, hope and dream again.

ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

Of course, all the glory goes to my Heavenly Father!  This is His and my story. For I have set the LORD always before me: because he is at my right hand, I shall not be moved. Therefore my heart is glad, and my glory rejoiceth: my flesh also shall rest in hope, Psalm 16:8-9.

I would also like to thank my literary coach, Emily Claudette Freeman, who persuaded me to realize that my experience has value and should be shared for the benefit of others.  Thank you, Claudette, for inspiring my confidence.

I gleaned much wisdom and insight from my sessions with a compassionate psychologist, Priscilla. She showed me how to process my grief. The kindheartedness of my employer, Karen, allowed me the time to grieve my loss; I am grateful that you were there during one of the most tumultuous periods of my life.

To my dad, my wonderful children: Faith, Derek, Dennis, David, Reginald and Richard; my siblings: Wanda, Joyce, David, Daniel, and Dorothy; and special appreciation to my adjutant, Shandon, who was anointed to walk closely to me, and bear with me, the days of pain, but also the joy that comes from restoration.  All of you commended me to God’s loving care to see me through this very humbling event, yet remained close enough to embrace me just when I needed it the most. 

My church family is exceptional and loves with distinction.  SOLW, when you sent me to Washington State you aided me in completing the process of my healing, and you continued to encourage me until this work was birthed. Words cannot express how much you all mean to me as you held me up in prayer.  I love you very much!

And to the one who was used to break my heart – thank you for hurting me then in order that I may be free now from a life cycle of deception and pain. I couldn’t comprehend it then, but I do now.  You were right in this regard: I am strong! My strength is in HIM!  I can truly say, All Is Well! and I still love you.

FOREWARD

It has been said that one of life’s greatest tragedies is to have lived entirely only to discover it was all wrong. Many times we find ourselves in circumstances that ultimately lead us into our God-appointed place, sometimes going through the fire to get there, but in the end, coming out more refined in the process.

Helen Kennedy is proof of what is possible after a storm. Relationships are very difficult when you come from opposite walks of life, but I’ve discovered, that it can be more so between God’s Kingdom believers. Trusting someone to be who he or she says they are is a process by itself. Individuals can believe their own lies to the extent that they believe the lies they have going on in their imagination. This is a problem for the other people who get caught up in their fantasy, and the person who trusts you to be who you say you are becomes collateral damage.

Life is always a process, but how you choose to handle the process will ultimately determine where you end up. It’s all about choices. Helen chose to take the high ground and not consent to individuals she allowed to temporarily borrow her heart to destroy the path that God had already mapped out for her.

As you read her story, He Heals The Brokenhearted: Living and Loving After Rejection, remember, whatever your now is, there is always a NEXT. God said he would show you great and mighty things that you know not (Jeremiah 33:3). Don’t get distracted from the promises God has for you. And never choose to prioritize someone who has chosen to make you an option.

Dr. Valorie N. Parker  

Author-Inspirational Speaker-Life Coach

PREFACE

First of all, I am not a psychologist, psychiatrist or licensed mental health or family counselor.  I am an ordained minister of the Gospel of Jesus Christ and the Bible is my source of reference, as well as Holy Spirit, for all wisdom and guidance. I believe that God’s Word answers all things and Holy Spirit will lead and guide us into all truth (if we want truth). Although I sought professional assistance to move me along my trauma, it was the Word of God that ultimately brought me freedom and healing from the wounds of rejection that led to my brokenness.

Rejection is very tangible; its sting causes scars that are deeply rooted in the soul of man. Abandoned children are probably scarred the most, who may go all through life with issues of distrust, low self-esteem or even depression, totally unaware that their deep-seated issues lie in rejection. Spouses deserted, left holding onto empty bags once filled with hopes and dreams suffer immensely after what was supposed to be a happily thereafter, till death do us part life.  Others’ experiences of rejection are tied to them being passed over for a job, or not being selected for a part, or a parent’s preference shown of a sibling.

Whatever the gateway that led you into the dark room of rejection, Jehovah Rapha stands ready and waiting to heal.  Those who have been injured can come to Him and be completely restored, appropriating the finished work of Christ. 

Allow the Potter to put the shattered pieces of your heart together again.  Receive His healing...today! 

My Prayer

Heavenly Father, I thank You for being the keeper of my life.  I cannot imagine it without You.  You took me by my hand and walked me through the darkest valley of my life. I only ask that You will also now guide my pen so that I may bring comfort to others with the comfort I have received from You.  I love you so much and will forever praise You!

Your daughter,

Helen

INTRODUCTION

Drama free.  That’s how I described my personal life.  Yet, my world was surrounded by OPD (other people’s drama) six days a week.  As a paralegal in a quaint family law firm and pastor of a thriving congregation, I was called to help sort out the drama in other people’s lives. While I’ve had my own share of disappointments and disapprovals, failures and shortfalls, I have laid claim to my personal rest with the peace that all things do work together for my good. The Bible says, It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows: for so he gives his beloved sleep, Psalm 127:2.

So I was taught in the infancy of my walk with the Lord how to cast all of my concerns on Him, with confidence that He does care and knows what is best for me.  After all, I am his beloved.  So, when I had to walk out my personal, real-life drama, I had to rely on what I knew was truth – God loves and cares for me. Although I couldn’t fathom it while in the midst of this episode of my life, somehow this was going to work for my good. 

He Heals The Brokenhearted: Living and Loving After Rejection is not written out of retaliation for being a jilted lover, it’s about embracing the one True Lover, who loves like no other.  He has ALL power to heal and restore.  He will prepare a banquet table in the presence of your enemy (the spirit of rejection), so that you do not have to eat the bread of sorrows another day in your life.  Come on in and dine with me. 

Isaiah 53:5

"But he was wounded for our transgressions;

he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed."