Yes You Can! Bloom Where You Are Planted

By Kelley Post

Do you find yourself searching for methods to encourage seemingly unmotivated individuals to become something more in life?
Do you find yourself clueless in how to make “change of lifestyle suggestions?
With more than 30 years of experience in the social services field, Kelley Post has compiled a gardener’s guide to motivating your specific individual towards a more productive lifestyle.

As parents, counsellors, social workers, clergy, and sponsors we may find ourselves in the role of motivators yet we may feel less than qualified to make a noticeable difference.

What if I told you that you already have the ability to make a difference in your individual’s life?
Discover the basic down-to-earth ideas as simple as planting a seed.
Unearthing your individual’s potential could mean all the difference in their world.

YES YOU CAN BE THE PERSON WHO MAKES A DIFFERENCE IN THEIR LIFE!
YES YOU CAN ENCOURAGE THEM TO BE MORE THAN WHAT THEY ARE RIGHT NOW!
YES YOU CAN WATCH THEM BLOOM WHERE THEY ARE PLANTED!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Kelley Post
• Release date: Apr 13, 2017
• ISBN: 9781370081301

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Yes You Can, Bloom Where You Are Planted

How to Motivate Those Who Need You

Kelley Post

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Copyright 2017 Kelley Post

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I Dedicate This Book to My Daughter Alicia 

Guiding You through Your life, I have found myself.

Table Of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1. The Gardener’s Guide to having Impact and Influence

Chapter 2. Everyone Does Have the Ability to Bloom Where They Are Planted

Chapter 3. Unearthing Their Potential

Chapter 4. How Deep Do Their Roots Really Go?

Chapter 5. Fertilizing the Possibilities

Chapter 6. Introducing New Varieties

Chapter 7. Shedding the Light on the Barriers

Chapter 8. The Vine Art of Positive Advocacy

Chapter 9. Pruning the Past Problems

Chapter 10. Pulling the Weeds of Ineffective Efforts

Chapter 11. Harvesting the Authentic Abilities

Chapter 12.Celebrating a Thanksgiving of the Bountiful Achievements

Chapter 13. Untangling Root Bound Motivational Techniques

Chapter 14. Gardener’s Self-Care for Continual Effectiveness

Chapter 15. Perennial Growth of Motivation for Generations to Come

About the Author

Introduction

When we find ourselves in any roles such as parent, teacher, counsellor, clergy or any other caregiving concerned person, how do we motivate and encourage our children, clients, patients, students, consumers etc.? How do we plant the seeds towards a better future?

Do you find yourself searching for methods to encourage seemingly unmotivated individuals to become something more in life?

Do you find yourself clueless in how to make change of lifestyle suggestions?

Do you see the potential for your individual right where they are at?

Do you see how they can bloom right where they are planted?

In this book you will learn how to find the positive in these individuals.

You will start to understand the reasons why their current circumstances are so appealing and have such a rooted hold on the individual.

You will discover the positive potential of their right here, right now world.

You will master the essential techniques of motivation, which include:

Unearthing their potential

Fertilizing the possibilities

Shedding light on the barriers

Pruning the past problems

Harvesting the authentic abilities

I wrote this book to gather ideas and plans to create genuine motivational skills for parents, counsellors, social workers, caregivers, clergy and sponsors who have positioned themselves willingly and sometimes unwillingly in the helping roles and professions.

I would like these family members, professionals and para-professionals to be able to see in each and every individual the potential to bloom. From the mentally challenged, the school dropouts, the teen moms, those with justice issues, poor decision makers, those with low self-esteem, and those who feel they have nothing to offer, those who want more out of life and those who really could not care less about what is coming up next. This book will give you insights on how to have an influence on the people who really need you the most.

This book also speaks to the inevitable need for self-care of the motivator. The process of building up and encouraging another person can have a draining effect on even the strongest motivator.

In this book I will pull apart segments of motivational techniques in each chapter. The key components will be analyzed. There will be strategies, tips, quotes and some stories to instill in you the motivator, that you have the potential to influence and motivate others.

I invite you to join me in the following chapters as we watch our people.

BLOOM WHERE THEY ARE PLANTED!

Chapter 1

The Gardener’s Guide to having Impact and Influence

Motivation is a form of internal energy that drives a person to do something in order to achieve something. How do we set motivation into motion?

As you pick up this book, you immediately have someone in mind who you feel needs to be motivated. Could be your child, grandchild, friend, client, church member, student or anyone who seems stuck in a situation where you feel that they could do better. You see in them a potential for something more. It is very exciting if they agree with your ideas and they welcome your input into their personal life. However, it is not usually that simple.

If the individual is currently living in their chosen lifestyle, making their own decisions, why should they listen to your theory on what would improve their life. There is a good chance that your opinion is not going to mean a great deal to them and that they will not likely jump at the opportunity that you are presenting. You may have been down that road a few times with that individual and you wish the outcome had been different. Maybe it is time to put together a plan instead of just hoping things will change.

The first thing to remember is that you do not have the final say in this situation. You are hoping to encourage the other person into your way of thinking for something that is specific to their life. So why should they listen to you? Are you an older, wiser, been there done that sort of person? Is it your life experience that should spark their interest? Do you hold some financial role? Do you have the power to change things in their world?

Do you feel that you have the right to impose your will if it is something that you are paying for?

I feel that there is no wrong or right answer to that question unless you know the specific situation.

Money is one of the most powerful motivators. Money changing hands, can change the world. However, for the purpose of this book we are going to investigate alternate options.

Why is it important to motivate and encourage this particular person? Do we see potential in some aspect of their life? Were we encouraged by someone in our life and now it is time to pay it forward? When we come alongside and lift someone up, emotionally, physically, or spiritually, we are showing that person that we believe in them and we see value in who they are and their potential. The power of an authentic caring person is tremendous. By believing in that person you help them believe in themselves.

Self-esteem and motivation ride together in the same wagon. When we feel really good about ourselves, we can be motivated to do almost without anything but a good strong feeling of self-worth we just don’t seem to have the ability or confidence to pull it all together.

How is it that we find ourselves in the role of motivator? We are in a world that requires that we get along and support each other on many different levels. Having the ability to influence another human being is an honor that we should never take lightly nor abuse. Our first and foremost influencer in our lives are the parents. In most cases the parents have the biggest impact on the individual in the developing years. This is where the individual picks up their first set of beliefs about themselves and the world around them.

However, when the child reaches puberty and then adulthood, the relationship between the parent and the child could change dramatically. It is expected that as the individual matures and starts taking on adult responsibilities that the parent/child relationship matures as well.

This is not always the case. The level at which the parent expects the adolescent/adult to make decisions may be totally different and therefore cause some relationship turmoil. On one hand the adult child may have ideas that they want to seek and this could mean some or total abandonment of family values and they could head out on their own. On the other hand the individual may find the current lifestyle to be comfortable and decide to stay put and enjoy being cared for. Neither of these scenarios may be what the parent was hoping for but which one of the two would be easier to deal with?

The answer would depend greatly on what kind of relationship you have had thus far with that Individual. The ability to motivate another person, generally is a result of the relationship that has been developed between the motivator and the individual.

If you are someone new entering into the individual’s circle of acquaintances, then a great deal of trust has to be established before you, the new person will have any significant impact. Of course that changes if the newcomer is in an authority role, such as a doctor or police officer or social worker.

If you are not new to the individual’s world and would like to have more influence in how they make their decisions, than the basic answer would be to improve your relationship with the individual. As a parent, change the relationship of adult /child to adult/adult and realize that the decisions are theirs to make and your role is just to discuss the options. In any other adult to adult relationships the rules are the same. You discuss the options and they make the decisions. Therefore the opportunity to motivate is limited. You need to choose your words and timing extremely well.

Every interaction has some form of impact. How do you make people feel about themselves? Do you add to their positive feelings or do you take something away? Do you encourage and build up an individual or do you look for the negatives and point out their flaws? Well, if we are being truthful, most of us would say it is a combination of the positive and negative. We all have our up and down times