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    The Natural: How to Effortlessly Attract the Women You Want
    The Natural: How to Effortlessly Attract the Women You Want
    The Natural: How to Effortlessly Attract the Women You Want
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    The Natural: How to Effortlessly Attract the Women You Want

    By Richard La Ruina

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    One of the world’s top pick-up artists, Richard La Ruina went from having no women to being a true master of seduction. Now he shows you how to do the same. So move over Mystery, and tell Neil Strauss that The Rules of the Game are about to be rewritten. Every element of the winning pickup is right here, from discovering confidence to exuding charm, learning conversation starters to mastering body language, to much more. And as you move from daydreaming to flirtation to passion to romance to love, The Natural will show you how it’s done.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherHarperCollins
    Release dateFeb 7, 2012
    ISBN9780062098603
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    Richard La Ruina

    Richard La Ruinais a London-based internationally renowned pickupartist and coach. In 2007 he founded PUATraining, which now consists of five websites,popular weekend seminars, and boot campsaround the world. La Ruina has been featuredon BBC and ITV, as well as in Men’s Health,the Evening Standard, Cosmopolitan, andmore. La Ruina is a sought-after guest speakerat seduction conferences worldwide.

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    • 5/5
      So far, this book really rings true, and is refreshingly even-handed and non-judgemental.

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      Now that I've finished - I loved this book. It really resonated with me.
    • 2/5
      Nothing surprising here. Just a lot of stories and interviews. Conclusion: Being a parent is a lot of hard work, A LOT OF HARD WORK, but the reward is being a parent.
    • 4/5
      Modern American upper-class (you could say upper-middle class, but I think that’s misleading except as to self-concept) parenting, with its multiple stresses as well as its sources of fulfillment. Basically, Senior argues, we’ve turned inward so much that we’re spending all our time investing in our kids specifically; this is exhausting for everyone, but it’s hard to figure out how to opt out on an individual basis, especially when it’s so easy to judge and be judged on one’s parenting and specifically on one’s mothering. Yet another iteration of the Prisoner’s Dilemma. Gender roles (enforced more heavily on women) are a part of this, as is the general speedup of work without allowance for caretaking obligations. Senior writes perceptively about these issues and about how the inward turn might not be good for anyone, but if you think it’s privileged navel-gazing then you might want to skip it.
    • 5/5
      This is a book that every parent should read. Senior provides a lot of information that may be hard to swallow - especially for dads, but it's good information to have. Rather than put the focus on how parenting affects the child, the focus of this book is on how having children affects parents. There's a lot of science that Senior uses to support some of what she says, and that helps. Overall, I think just understanding how having children changes you as a person is helpful. You can help recognize some of what she says in the book and it's helpful to understand how or why you might feel a particular way rather than just "dealing" or getting frustrated with yourself.
    • 5/5
      All Joy and No Fun isn’t a traditional parenting book. It’s not going to give you a new system to disciple your child. Part of it is a fascinating look at how parenting has changed through the years. Up until child labor laws were enacted, children were expected to work or to be seen and not heard. Senior takes the reader up through present day. She explains the evolution of parenting that has led to the present day where children can be overscheduled and more and more parents are “helicopter parents”. She’s not critical, just informative. Interspersed throughout are personal examples of parents that she interviewed. She spoke to a wide variety, including a grandmother who parented her own children in the 1970s and is now parenting her grandchildren, a mother living in an affluent suburb, and a single working mother.I found this book to be incredibly interesting and insightful as well as meticulously researched. I listened to the audio book which is narrated by the author. I’m usually wary when an authors narrates their own book since they are not usually experienced narrators. Senior did a great job and the book was pleasant to listen to.I highly recommend this book to parents of kids of all ages.
    • 4/5
      Read from November 12 to 15, 2014I'm hours away from giving birth to my first child. I'm (naturally) terrified of the "forever-ness" of the decision we made to have a baby. This book did little to help me get over the fear of forever being responsible for another life, but it was reassuring to read about the other parents. I found the glimpses into the lives of the parents fascinating and would've liked to read about more parents being parents. The data and statistics on what happens to marriages after a child is scary...so I'm trying to just ignore it. Jesse is most likely tired of me asking him for reassurance that we'll still be solid after having a baby. I've also asked more than once how we'll divide household chores (I'll be honest...he does most of them now). But these are good conversations to have!An interesting read for anyone with kids of any age -- or anyone even considering having them!
    • 5/5
      2. All Joy and No Fun : The Paradox of Modern Parenthood (Audio) by Jennifer Senior, read by the author (2014, 8:20, 320 pages in paperback, read Dec 18 - Jan 4)Senior writes about what parenting does to parents. She starts off by bringing up the research showing that adults without children are happier than parents. Then she looks into why, at every age of the childhood. The introduction was fascinating and I loved every chapter in this book.Had I not waited so long to review this, I would have gone on in more detail about things, like how there is no set cultural pattern in the US for how Dad's should act as parents today, so their are no expectations, while Mom's are tortured by the guilt of unrealistic expectations. But, I did wait too long and all that stuff has faded from the enthusiastic context I had it in. Too bad, this as a great book.Anyway, I was entertained that she chose to come to Houston, my home town, specifically to study families with young, preadolescent children... because we Houstonians are so obsessed with after-school activities.Senior runs (or is part of?) and early childhood group in Minneapolis. She is is a public speaker and a terrific reader. Highly recommended to parents, and on audio.
    • 3/5
      This book explores the issues of modern parenting (at least for white, middle class Americans) where the expectations of what a parent can and should do seem to be out of line with the past and with reality.  One illustration of the shift in recent generations is the change of term from "housewife" (someone who manages the house) to "stay at home mom" (someone who manages the children).  And over that same time mothers are spending more hours working and more hours with their children.  The challenge of balancing so many responsibilities contributes to grave stresses, yet paradoxically there is much joy in experiencing the children's development.  The book is illustrated with interviews and observations with a variety of parentsFavorite Passages:“Our experiencing selves tell researchers that we prefer doing the dishes — or napping, or shopping, or answering emails — to spending time with our kids. . . . But our remembering selves tell researchers that no one — and nothing — provides us with so much joy as our children. It may not be the happiness we live day to day, but it’s the happiness we think about, the happiness we summon and remember, the stuff that makes up our life-tales.”

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    • 5/5
      I’ve disavowed most “parenting” books but this one is a true breath of air, and not about how to parent but why it’s even a verb “to parent.” At turns validating and elucidating, Senior mixes scientific research on the relationships between parents and kids with anecdotes from people who sound like my friends and me. One of the more influential books I’ve read recently.
    • 5/5
      I’m working on a book right now about how those of us without children can relate to our friends with kids. I don’t have kids and I won’t be having kids, so most of what I know about kids comes from watching my friends raising their own.

      But I live in the world, and I see so much out there about the best ways to parent. It seems overwhelming, but it also seems to almost always be focused on what the parents do and how that impacts the children. Other than the occasional “are parents happier than non-parents?” studies, nothing (until now) has focused on what parenting does to the parents.

      This book is a fascinating treasure trove for those of us without kids. Ms. Senior (a parent herself) spent time with parents, read loads of studies, and consulted with the experts before putting together this long but extremely quick read. She covers autonomy, marriage, the joys and challenges of raising small children, the (new?) trend of scheduling and planning all of a child’s free time, and the special hell that is adolescence.

      One thing I appreciated from this book is that (with one tiny, and likely unintentional exception) Ms. Senior doesn’t spend time comparing parents to non-parents in any way that suggests one life choice is better than the other. I also liked that Ms. Senior was also very straightforward about the limitations of this book – it does not address very poor or very rich families; it is focused on studying middle class families.

      Another great component of this book is Ms. Senior’s way of weaving the history of parenthood into the narrative. So many things that seem ‘common sense’ or ‘parental intuition’ are pretty new to parenthood! But the best parts are the families she interviews and how she includes their stories. She does this seamlessly without interrupting the flow of the book.

      Obviously as someone without kids I can’t speak to whether parents themselves will enjoy this book. They might find it hits way too close to home, they might angrily disagree, or they might find relief in knowing their experiences are not unique. But I’d love to hear a parent’s perspective on this one!
    • 5/5
      i think that going to be a excellent book, and i will love it
    • 2/5
      i didn't finish the book , but this guy thinks he is smooth while he is not !
      i didn't like his pick up lines and i would never use them ever .totally overrated !

      1 person found this helpful

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