Beer and Whine and Other Bubbly Concoctions
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Her universal truths may not all be true, but they are endearing and frequently hilarious billboards for a breezy journey from birth to menopause in which the author explores (muses about) the difficulties and joys (not necessarily in that order) of being Jewish, short, married (her second) to a tall, formerly lapsed Presbyterian and raising two children in modern suburbia.
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Beer and Whine and Other Bubbly Concoctions - Betsy Snider Heuer
Greetings
I have no idea how I ended up as a stereotypical Jewish mother. I was a child of the 70s, moseying along with no long term plans concerning marriage and kids.
Yet here I am, a canasta playing (I hate losing, but my mother told me that no one would play with me if I wasn’t a good sport), weekly salon hair blow out (somehow I can’t do my own hair anymore), hovering caricature of my former self. I wonder if it’s too late to break out of the mold and become the edgy, intellectual person more befitting of my large-framed, progressive reading glasses.
I believe in certain universal truths.
Universal Truth #1: Tall, mean people have a much easier time in life. I have endlessly lectured my children on this, and they get it. Life is just plain easier when you’re tall, and/or tall and mean.
I don’t even know how to save this manuscript on my Mac without bothering my daughter in Chicago. Of course she isn’t answering, but to her credit, she is very good about checking in every day. That way I can rest easier in the evenings, knowing that she is still on this earth. Since she adamantly refuses to be one of my 1,232 Facebook friends, I have no way of stalking her every move. She knows I could never resist the temptation.
My son Jeremy is my Facebook friend, but he must be screening, if there is such a thing, because I’m never able to glean any good info from his postings. Although last week I noticed some chatter on his page about a Vespa. He bought a Vespa! He’s driving it to work! OMG! I’m worried sick about it but had to think of a subtle way to approach the subject.
I waited a day and a half before expressing my dismay, exercising tremendous restraint. I was in Boston and came up with an excuse to email him, but rather than begin the email with, How could you buy a Vespa?!
and listing every potential danger, I discussed the news of the day, then nonchalantly signed off with, ... and if you get injured on the Vespa, it will ruin my life.
He responded, Don’t worry, I have a helmet,
at which point I went ahead and listed every possible danger. A lot of good a helmet will do if someone texting or speeding might hit him (G-d forbid!). (That hyphen is there for a reason, by the way; a Jewish custom to avoid the risk of erasing or defacing the Lord’s name.)
Jeremy in helmet for Vespa
(only worn if no passenger on board)
Nora No More
I never intended to actually write this story; I only wanted to provide the ideas, and then collaborate with Nora Ephron. Sadly, when I finally began writing, a news flash popped up with the heartbreaking news that Nora had passed away. I am beyond upset about this. I’m sad that her life was cut short. I feel for her family, and for the rest of us who so enjoyed her witticisms.
Ever since I read Heartburn, it was my intent to have Nora pen my screenplay. I’m sure we would have been friends. The friendship would have developed naturally once we began working together. I first hatched the idea to write a screenplay when I was 35, and the protagonist is now 58. It just goes to show what happens when you procrastinate!
Universal Truth #2: The world is a sadder place without Nora Ephron.
My Family Tree
Before I go any further, I should introduce you to my family.
Jeff is my 71 year-old husband, who converted to Judaism. We live in West Bloomfield, Michigan, a very nice suburb on the northwest outskirts of Detroit.
An odd picture with Jeff actually smiling
Jeremy is my 31 year-old son, an attorney practicing in Chicago. Same looks and dramatic personality as me, so he grew a beard.
Hilary is my 29 year-old daughter. She is a nurse anesthetist who also lives in Chicago. She and Jeremy are very close. She takes after her father and has a calm, centered personality—nothing like me.
Hilary and Jeremy
My youthful mother is Selma. She lives about ten minutes away. She’s barely five feet tall.
Her husband is Jack, my wicked stepfather
who takes wonderful care of her and is an extremely devoted papa.
Becca, my Goth sister, lives in Windsor and has an adorable ten year-old son named Louis.
My sister Bekka in zombie makeup (the ink is real)
Her son, my nephew Louis
Jonathan is my 46 year-old stepson. His wife is Jean Liu. They live in San Diego, parents to our two adorable granddaughters, Galen (10) and Bree (8).
Meredith is my 43 year-old stepdaughter, an extremely talented photographer, married to Tom Wright, the nicest guy ever. They live in Beacon, New York, and are parents to our grandsons, Cleveland (9) and August (7).
San Diego Zoo with families of Jonathan and Meredith, including grandkids
Uncle Jeremy at Tigers Game with grandsons Cleveland and August
And finally, Ponce is my hairdresser and confidante.
Ponce - hairdresser extraordinaire
Hil and one long-legged niece, Shannon
Jeremy and the beard (no escape, he still looks just like me)
Hil, Jeremy and friends partaking, drinking, karaoke and dancing (They have wonderful friends)
Incognito
Back in the days of regular school (as opposed to Hebrew school, where it was obvious) I never wanted anyone to know that I was Jewish. I was so relieved and flattered when gentile classmates would exclaim: But you can’t be Jewish; you have blond hair and blue eyes!
(They overlooked my prominent, slightly bulbous nose.) Flash forward to today, when the first words out of my mouth let you know I’m Jewish and proud of it. I’m very ashamed that I did not have the chutzpah then to be proud of my Jewish heritage.
In my defense, who in her right mind would pipe up in class (in response to the Gurri twins’ request that the Jews raise their hands, so that they could beat us up after school) to admit she was Jewish?! Also, an a-hole named Jerry Lill once approached me in junior high, slammed my locker shut, and spit out: You know, you’re a Jew, and you have a big nose.
I mean, what’s the comeback to that?
I just wanted to be built like a sturdy cheerleader with a small nose, at least some boobs, defined calves and thin lips. I had skinny legs, next to nothing in the boob department, the aforementioned bulbous nose, and big lips. And take my word for it: Big lips were not all the rage in the 60s and 70s. (The big lips fashion started in the late 80s with some Natasha Kinsky film.) Not to mention that I didn’t even get braces on until ninth grade, when everyone else was getting them off. Another reason that boys didn’t like me. I just wanted to fit in, and stop winning the spelling bees, where the winners were announced in homeroom over the PA system. It was not cool in my junior high and high school to be smart. I just wanted to hang out with the cool jocks.
There were no Asians or Indians at Groves High School, and I did not want to hang out with the intellectual Jewish crowd.
I was taunted in junior high with, Won’t somebody please take the lady with the skinny legs?
One nice brave boy did ask me to be his girlfriend and gave me his ID bracelet. This was a big deal for me. However, one of the popular girls said that I wasn’t good enough for him, so I had to give it back, and we broke up.
To try to fit in, I sneakily drank liquor in the ninth grade. We drank gin with orange juice, cleverly refilling the gin bottle with water. (My parents drank so infrequently that they never noticed the difference.) Don’t worry, eventually I was busted and had to clean up my act. Today, I can’t stand even the smell of gin, and I don’t drink orange juice anymore (too much acid for my reflux).
Not to mention that I was only invited to three bar mitzvahs, even though I went to Hebrew School three times a week. Girls did not have a bat mitzvah in those days, so that narrowed the playing field to only boys, and not one of them wanted to invite me. The only three I went to were neighbors’, where the parents insisted I be invited out of politeness. To this day I guilt my good friend Larry Nemer for not inviting me, and he’s been paying penance ever since.
So, I was too small and skinny for regular school, for Hebrew school, and for playing outside with the neighborhood kids.
Helicopter Generation
A helicopter
parent is one