100 Simple Secrets of the Best Half of Life: What Scientists Have Learned and How You Can Use It
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Practical advice on how to thrive in the second half of your life, based on scientific studies. The sixth book in the bestselling 100 Simple Secrets series.
What do people who relish the second half of their lives do differently than those who dread getting older? Sociologists, therapists and psychiatrists have spent entire careers investigating the ins and outs of successful aging, yet their findings are inaccessible to ordinary people, hidden in obscure journals to be shared with other experts.
Now the international bestselling author of The 100 Simple Secrets series has collected the most current and significant data from more than a thousand of the best scientific studies on the second half of life. These findings have been boiled down to one hundred essential ways to find and maintain joy, health, and satisfaction every day of your life. Each one is accompanied by a true story showing the results in action.
The Baby Boomers are hitting retirement age. This upbeat, light approach will appeal to the enormous market of citizens grappling with the effects of becoming 'senior', looking to discover the positive benefits of aging beyond discount tickets at the movie theatre. Books about aging well continue to sell year in and year out. The Simple Secrets approach will stand out among the heavier self-help/psychology titles and will without a doubt become an affordable impulse and gifty mainstay in this category.
A good inexpensive gift for parents and grandparents.
David Niven, PhD
David Niven, Ph.D., bestselling author of the 100 Simple Secrets series, is a psychologist and social scientist who teaches at Ohio State University. David Niven, Ph.D., es el autor de los bestsellers internacionales Los 100 Secretos de la Gente Exitosa, y Los 100 Secretos de las Buenas Relaciones. Es psicólogo y científico social, y enseña en la Florida Atlantic University.
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- Rating: 2 out of 5 stars2/5Being that I am approaching 50 years of age, I was interested in reading David Niven's book "100 Simple Secrets of the Best Half of Life". This is part of the "100 Simple Secrets..." series, and the only one I've read. Each one of the 100 secrets has 3 parts. First, he tells you what the secret is. Be optimistic, work with the young, etc.... Second, he gives a real life example, be it a professional, a famous person or someone who has already retired, that represents that secret in action. Third he presents the results of a scientific study that back up the secret he is presenting. There is more information at the end of the book as to where you can find more about the research data. The secrets, or suggestions Niven makes in his book are sound. The studies he uses for scientific evidence are believeable. The problem is, just about everything in the book is common sense, and not necessarily information you would need a book to learn. Obviously as we get older, we need to be more conscious of our health. We need to spend more quality time with our friends and family, and we need to stay involved with other people so we don't turn into hermits (though I'm not convinced that's a bad thing). There really didn't seem to be anything in the book that made me think "wow, there's something I never thought about". I don't mean to totally berate the book. Some of the real life stories were interesting, and really brought his points home. I guess the problem I had with it, was that as I approach 50, I'm becoming more aware of my mortality, and lack of success in my career, and was hoping for something a little more unique that might have helped my outlook become more optimistic, and my views of aging less frightening.
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100 Simple Secrets of the Best Half of Life - David Niven, PhD
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Happiness Is Not an Accident
We have strategies for most things in our lives—from work, to games, to how to get home from town two minutes faster. But we leave some of the most important parts of our lives, like our happiness, to chance. Happiness is not like height; you don’t just get a certain amount and then have to live with it. Happiness can be improved—if you know what you are doing and what you are not doing, and you care to change.
For Patrick, it started with a request from a neighbor. The neighbor had played the part of Santa Claus for several years, creating a tradition of a visit from Santa to all the children in the neighborhood. But one year, Santa had a cold and asked whether Patrick could take over for him that day.
Patrick donned the suit and passed out candy canes and good wishes to all the neighborhood children, calling them each by name and convincing them he was for real. When I put on the suit, I actually felt like Santa Claus,
Patrick says. It was a truly magical feeling.
When the old Santa saw how much Patrick enjoyed the job, he told Patrick he would be happy to let him take over. Patrick saw the potential for sharing some joy with others and expanded the reach of his duties from his neighborhood to area hospitals. Sick children would light up when they saw me,
Patrick recalls. I would sit with them, and they would smile from ear to ear. It was such an honor to be able to bring them a good feeling like that.
Over the years the Santa suit wore out and Patrick upgraded to a top-of-the-line model—the kind they use at the really good malls,
he explains.
Patrick has been playing Santa for so long now that he’s beginning to see the children of the children he saw as Santa when he first started out. But Patrick has no plans to find a new man for the suit. Santa never retires,
he says.
Researchers found that the majority of the subjects they studied were not able to identify anything they had done recently to try to increase their happiness or life satisfaction.
Frijters 2000
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You Must Approve of Yourself
You can make the best plans in the world for your life. But no action, no accomplishment, no outcome will offer you ultimate fulfillment. You must offer yourself complete, unconditional approval, regardless of whatever takes place in your life.
Two of Freddy Johnson’s good friends have gone on to become famous and well-paid head coaches in professional and college basketball. Freddy coaches boys’ high school basketball on a far smaller stage, for a far smaller paycheck.
Far from being jealous of his friends or disappointed in himself, Freddy celebrates their successes and his own. He saves newspaper clippings about his old friends and keeps them in his office for the players he coaches and his visitors to see.
And Freddy never doubts the value of having spent almost three decades teaching and coaching the game. It’s amazing where some of the guys I know are now,
he says. But I’m happy where I am, too. I wouldn’t trade it for the world.
Freddy has coached teams that have won more than six hundred games and a half dozen state titles.
Freddy’s fellow high school coaches admire his willingness to keeping learning. He never stops soaking up basketball knowledge,
says one colleague. There’s always a game to watch somewhere, another insight to be gained.
But most of all, his peers admire his willingness to surround himself with good people. As the colleague puts it, Head coaches always want to be the dominant force on their team. No one else should know as much as they do. No one else should question decisions that are made. But Freddy seeks to be around the best assistants in the game because he has the self-confidence to surround himself with talented people and to take their success as something he, too, can be proud of.
Those who considered themselves a success were 25 percent less likely to feel anxious about their lives, 14 percent less likely to be selfish, and 45 percent more likely to say they enjoyed their lives.
Chamberlain and Haaga 2001
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Keep Going
It’s hard to get much done one little step at a time. But it’s impossible to get anything significant accomplished without going one little step at a time. The capacity to continue, to move forward despite obstacles, becomes even more important as we age. Even though there may not be projects at work or deadlines to face, the need to fight through obstacles and move toward your desired outcome serves every part of your life.
Just out of medical school, Dr. Robert Lopatin was working hundred-hour weeks as a first-year medical resident. Unlike other residents, who often drew skeptical looks from patients wondering if the residents were really old enough to be doctors, Robert seemed to inspire a calm confidence. In fact, not a single patient questioned whether he was old enough be a doctor.
It could have had something to do with the fact that he was fifty-five years old.
As a boy, Robert had imagined himself as a doctor. But when he was in school his father asked him to join him in a new clothing business he was starting. And for almost three decades, Robert dedicated himself to the business.
But when his father sold the business to a competitor, the newly unemployed Robert knew exactly what he wanted to do with his time: go back to school. After trying several areas of study, he realized that his desire to be a doctor was still as strong as it had been when he was a boy.
At age fifty-one Robert began studying at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine in New York City. He was older than most of his professors. He was even older than the school itself. But he felt completely at ease. It took a lot of imagination to do it, but once I undertook it, it just felt so right,
he says. I felt I was home again.
Dr. Lopatin now practices in New York. And he encourages others to keep going, even if they didn’t quite get where they were heading when they were younger: When you’re older, once you do make a commitment to something, there’s more purposefulness and there’s more joy.
People in their sixties and beyond who had a long-term plan to accomplish something were 31 percent more likely to report that they enjoyed their lives.
Wallace, Bisconti, and Bergeman 2001
4
Try Something New
We are often leery of new things—whether they’re as important as a new job or a new direction in life, or as trivial as a new product in the supermarket—because we are comfortable with the old and familiar. Give yourself a chance to try new things. They won’t always be what you want, but it’s unlikely they won’t ever be what you want.
Lisa knows it’s not the typical path. Most people, when they graduate from high school, don’t ever want to come back,
she says. Instead, the sixty-something mother and grandmother decided to return to high school, as a substitute teacher, four decades after she graduated. Substitute teaching was just the thing to give her some variety in her life while still leaving her with free time.
Lisa says she likes the idea that every day is a little different and holds something new. And I feel needed,
she adds. I fill a void. It’s my contribution to the world.
Interacting with different generations also is energizing for her: "I really like young people. They give me a fresh outlook. I like to do anything the students do. In math, which is not my strongest subject, I have great respect for their knowledge. And I learn new things in the process. It’s exercise for my brain, and it’s a joy.
"I think I’m a student at heart. I have an insatiable quest for knowledge, reviewing what I studied years ago and learning new material and then teaching it. It’s a great way to learn.
Sometimes when I get home from school my friends ask, ‘When are you going to stop that foolishness?’ But it’s not foolishness. It’s fun.
Those over fifty who showed a high degree of resistance to change were 26 percent less likely to feel optimistic about their futures.
Caughlin and Golish 2002
5
You Still Are Who You Were
Pick up an article about advertising and demographics, and you will learn that to some industries, the only people who matter are no older than forty, or thirty, or even twenty-five. There is no shortage of cultural bellwethers suggesting that we are most interesting and useful when we are young. It’s almost as if we come with an expiration date for cultural relevance. As arbitrary as these notions are, we can arm ourselves with the best defense possible against feeling out-of-date. In truth, we are every age we’ve ever been. We have all the experiences of a forty-year-old, a thirty-year-old, a twenty-five-year-old within us. Let yourself think about all that you’ve known and done, and, far from feeling out-of-date, you will feel even better about who you are today.
She had spent her career in education, teaching and eventually serving as a principal. In her spare time she had served countless community groups, from the Boy Scouts to Habitat for Humanity. But Rebecca Adams felt she could do more for her community.
She’d never done anything like it before, but at the age of fifty-seven, Rebecca decided she wanted to run for city council in her hometown of Chesapeake, Virginia.
Against the advice of local political experts, she entered the field of fifteen candidates, all seeking one seat. Nobody out and out said, ‘You’re too old,’
she recalls, "but people said things like ‘Is this really what you want to do with your time and energy at this point?’ And I said yes.
People think you should slow down when you’re staring sixty in the face. But you don’t have to slow down if you don’t spend your time thinking about turning sixty. We all have the same 10,080 minutes in a week,
Rebecca says. We can spend them worrying about getting old, or we can do something more productive with them.
Though she very much wanted to win the election and serve her city, her expectations were modest. I honestly thought I would finish seventh or eighth,
Rebecca says.
She ran her campaign with no experience and little money but with lots of hard work. And she won. Now, with a seat on the city council, she has her mind firmly focused in one direction. We’ve got to decide what we want to look like in the future,
Rebecca says, referring both to her hometown and to its people.
Those who strongly identified with their current age be came 2 percent less satisfied with their lives with every passing year, while those who infrequently thought in terms of their age showed no such negative trend.
Reis-Bergan et al. 2000
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Happy Looks for Happy
If you are convinced that things are bad, you will notice many unpleasant things and unpleasant people. If you are convinced that things are good, you will notice many pleasant things and pleasant people. Understand that every one of us selectively perceives the world around us. We see far too many things every time we step outside the door to focus on all of them. You can get all the supporting evidence you want, regardless of