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Carl Snow appeared to have it all—doctor husband, four lovely children, nice house, expensive car and all that was needed to maintain a comfortable suburban lifestyle. But one thing was missing: ha...view moreCarl Snow appeared to have it all—doctor husband, four lovely children, nice house, expensive car and all that was needed to maintain a comfortable suburban lifestyle. But one thing was missing: happiness. After 20 years of marriage, she found herself alone. As her husband spent more and more time at the office and writing for medical journals, she was left on her own to care for the children, to celebrate holidays, and even to go on vacations. Finally Ms. Snow could take it no longer; she decided to get a divorce.
Don’t Blame Me. Chronicles the struggles of a determined woman, unaware of the many pitfalls she would encounter, to reach a divorce settlement and build a new life for herself and her children. Ms. Snow takes the reader through various stages of a process that will only be too familiar to other s who have found themselves in her position: finding a lawyer that will ensue she receives an equitable settlement; adapting to a considerably reduced and much less comfortable lifestyle; coping with her children’s anger in the face of circumstances they are powerless to control. Later, there is the pain of constant rejection when searching for a job in a society that gives little value to years of experience raising children; the disappointment of re-entering the dating scene and failing to connect with a suitable partner; the humiliation to borrow money from friends in order to make ends meet.
Having grown in a very modest two-room house as part of a large family, Ms. Snow contrasts the domestic lives of her Jewish forebears with her own through flashbacks that portray a startlingly different mentality and mode of existence. Her Jewish sensibility is also conveyed through vivid dreams that reveal; her unmistakable sense of guilt, as well as through the stories of other divorcees awaiting finalizing of papers she encounters in a Jewish courtroom.
Ms. Snow’s cautionary tale concludes with a list of “do’s and don’ts” for those contemplating divorce, which should be compulsory reading for anyone embarking upon the process without the adequate advance preparation. Readers will not only enjoy the book’s engaging story but find it eminently practical as a reference work.view less