Ever feel like you just can’t come to terms with something that has happened? It’s time to stop beating yourself up. The inability to ‘get over it’ or ‘move on’ is down to our biological and evolutionary make-up, so if you’re finding something hard to accept – it’s very much not your fault.
The act of accepting, closing the door and moving on from things – whether that’s an unattainable goal, the dissolution of a relationship or the loss of a loved one – is extremely challenging as it’s almost like admitting defeat, says body psychotherapist Jessica Eve (). ‘We naturally fight against it because our bodies have learned that they to fight to survive. However, being in a state of nonacceptance can leave us feeling stuck or trapped. Plus, if steps aren’t consciously taken to move on after an adverse experience, the body often won’t allow the experience to be forgotten, which can lead to the depletion of our mental and physical wellbeing.’
