Katherine Ryan does it ‘exactly twice a month’. How often should we be having sex with our partners?
Ah, honey, not tonight – I’m not in the mood.” These are words you won’t be hearing from Katherine Ryan or her husband, Bobby Kootstra, on their twice-monthly sex dates. The Canadian comedian and actor revealed in an interview with The Times that getting down and dirty is something they do “exactly twice a month” – it’s all part of the schedule, alongside, presumably, playdates and children’s birthday parties.
Not only does she have a quota, the 40-year-old star of Netflix show The Duchess keeps track of every time they do the deed. “I log it just in case I do get pregnant,” she says. (Ryan also said we should all be rimming, according to her gay friends – but she’s not quite ready for that yet.)
Meanwhile, the septuagenarian siren and actor wrote in a recent essay for that she’s currently having the most “wonderful and passionate” sex of her life with boyfriend John Zambetti. It’s brought the question of how often couples in long-term relationships “should” be. And, pushing it a step further: should we even be popping physical encounters with our partners in the diary?
