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The 12-week pregnancy rule makes the pain of miscarriage worse | Katy Lindemann

The secrecy around early pregnancy means that many women grieve in private, weighed down by feelings of guilt and failure
‘It’s fine to broadcast the minutiae of our daily lives on Instagram, yet disclosing that we’re pregnant, even just to close friends and family, is somehow transgressive.’ Photograph: Alamy Stock Photo

Most of us will be familiar with the “12-week” rule – the longstanding social convention that dictates that women mustn’t tell anyone they’re pregnant before the 12-week mark, “in case something happens”. It’s time to talk about the insidious effect it has on women who suffer a miscarriage early in their pregnancy.

An estimated are miscarried every day in the UK, with the vast majority occurring during the first trimester. Most of these losses will be suffered

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