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    'All The Rage' Isn't About Moms Having It All — It's About Moms Doing It All

    Psychologist Darcy Lockman says there's been progress since the 1950s, but equal partnerships are a long way off. Her book All the Rage explores uneven distribution of childcare and domestic labor.
    by Lulu Garcia-Navarro May 12, 2019 4 minutes
    "We go into parenting expecting something like parity ... but it doesn't manifest," says psychologist Darcy Lockman. "Our expectations are really not being met and that leads to a lot of anger."

    Darcy Lockman conducted interviews with 50 women about the division of labor in their households, and she heard a lot of anger and a lot of gratitude. The gratitude concerned her — here's why:

    "It was actually a way of walking back their own anger," she says. Women would express legitimate grievances and then say: "But I know women who are in worse situations, so I don't want to complain too much."

    In her new book, Lockman demonstrates why women have every right to complain. All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership explores how American mothers and fathers are far from 50/50 when it comes to childcare and domestic responsibilities.

    Women told Lockman they were grateful their husbands weren't as badhusbands. "That attitude really stops women from advocating for themselves as fully as they might," Lockman says. "There's always going to be someone whose husband is doing less."

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