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Letters: ‘At The Time, I Told No One.’

Readers respond to Deborah Copaken’s story of her own rape in 1988, and her choice to confront the assailant in light of the Kavanaugh allegations.
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My Rapist Apologized

The Kavanaugh allegations led Deborah Copaken to confront the man who assaulted her years ago. After he apologized, she wrote, “30 years of pain and grief fell out of me.”


Kudos to Ms. Copaken for her insightful article, and for having the courage to provide an opportunity both for her catharsis and for her rapist’s personal redemption. He may not have remembered his 30-year-old actions, but by approaching him without anger and recrimination, she allowed for simultaneous forgiveness and contrition.

She is also correct in asserting that a potential Supreme Court justice must be held to a higher standard, and not simply get a pass for a preppie’s “youthful indiscretion.”

Ed Christy
Albuquerque, N.M.


My two roommates in college told me their stories of rape. I escaped rape once when, while walking down the road, a man placed a knife to my throat. I cleverly talked my way out of it, and the clincher was that I had a camera over my shoulder and told him I had already taken his photo. Now imagine this: He was wearing red shorts and had a black ski mask over his head, that’s

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