Robin Abcarian: A royal wedding and a royal shredding: Why you should never want your daughter to marry a prince

Pity the poor woman who marries into the British royal family.

In exchange for a life of material wealth and privilege, she must give up her own successful career, she must never express her political opinion in public, she must always look like she stepped off the pages of a fashion magazine, and she must live with the knowledge that the intense media interest in royal life has actually resulted in death. (See: Princess Diana.)

But pity her poor family even more.

This much is clear in the run-up to Saturday's wedding of His Royal Highness Prince Henry of Wales to Her