SUMMARY:  What if you don’t identify with the concept of an obsession being a FEAR? It’s a repetitive thought or feeling, but you’re not scared of a specific outcome.  What is the UNCERTAINTY when it comes to these obsessions?  Guilt Obsessions:  WHAT IS OCD GUILT?  OCD Guilt over past mistakes “I shouldn't have done that”  “That was a mistake”  OCD Guilt as a simple intrusive thought- no known mistake “Is it bad that I did that”  “Did I make a mistake?”  “What could be the consequences”   REGRET obsessions.  I’ve heard a lot about how guilt is a common intrusive feeling in OCD but not much about regret.  “I wish I didn't do that”  “I wish I had done it another way”  Guilt and Regret accompanied with sadness??  How to stop OCD guilt?  How to treat OCD guilt and regret Links To Things I Talk About: Feeling guilty doesn't mean you have done something wrong https://kimberleyquinlan-lmft.com/ep-161-feeling-guilty-doesnt-mean-you-have-done-something-wrong/ How to let go of the past https://kimberleyquinlan-lmft.com/ep-70-how-to-let-go-of-the-past/ I screwed up. Now what?  https://kimberleyquinlan-lmft.com/ep-293-i-screwed-up-what-now/ ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com.  CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors.  Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety...If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 310 Welcome back, everybody. We are at Episode 310. I just recorded it as 210 and I’m still in shock that we have hit 310 episodes. I recorded it and I was like, “Hang on a second. That doesn’t sound right.” And it wasn’t, and that still shocks me to this day.  All right. Today, we are talking about a very important topic, which is guilt and regret. And I’ve called this episode Guilt and Regret: The Most Misunderstood Obsession, and I believe that to be true because a whole bunch of you are walking around wondering whether you have OCD or not because a lot of what you hear is that OCD is all about anxiety and uncertainty. But what about the folks who don’t have a lot of anxiety and a lot of uncertainty, but they’re having obsessive guilt and obsessive regret in the form of OCD guilt and OCD regret? So, I wanted to talk about that today.  Before we do so, let’s quickly do the “I did a hard thing” segment. For those of you who are new, this is where listeners and followers share the hard thing that they’ve done. Why do I do this? Because so often, you guys forget that just because your hard thing is hard for you doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with that. I want you to see that hard things are hard things and we should celebrate them and we should share them, and this is a platform I want to do that with. So, this one is from Mars, and Mars said: “After many weeks and years of hard work, I finally managed to reach an important stage of my career, and I ended up with two job offers.” Amazing. “Both were great really for different reasons, and I couldn’t choose. I went back and forth and tortured myself four months trying to get certainty about which one is the right choice. I’d never been so anxious in my life. Finally, today, I sent the final email, even though I wasn’t certain about the choice, it was the hardest thing I’ve ever done, but I finally feel like I can move forward with my life again.”  Mars, number one, congratulations. Sounds like you’ve worked really hard. And number two, you’re also doing this hard thing where you’re allowing the discomfort into your day, into yo