Episode 235: It's Not Guilt, It's Wise Remorse

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Episode 235: It's Not Guilt, It's Wise Remorse

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Feb 11, 2024

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Alli and Melisa discuss a different take on guilt -- viewing it as "wise remorse." We also share some tips on manifestation from the great Mel Robbins -- and how the Netflix series "Love on The Spectrum" could help you learn how to human.

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Feb 11, 2024

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Lesbian Chronicles is a podcast for people who’ve realized their true sexual identity later in life. Alli and Melisa share their own experiences of leaving their heterosexual marriages to be their true selves in an effort to help others find their own way and feel a little less alone in the process.

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Episode 31: Hetero Sex When You’re Gay AF: Alli and Melisa address what it was like to attempt to be intimate with our ex husbands after realizing we were gay. We also answer some listener questions and Alli educates Melisa on the Catholic Church and feeling the obligation to be intimate with... by Lesbian Chronicles: Coming Out Later in Life
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Episode 21: Coping with Lifestyle Change and Hypersexuality: Melisa and Alli discuss how life looks different following divorce and coming out. We also talk about hypersexuality and how we both feel like 15 year old boys in the height of puberty. Soo fun times. by Lesbian Chronicles: Coming Out Later in Life
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Episode 9: Living in Your Marriage: Alli and Melisa talk about staying married even when you know you’re gay or “not straight.” We also talk about Julianna Hough coming out as “not straight.” And today’s FM and *not* kill... the US Women’s Soccer Team. by Lesbian Chronicles: Coming Out Later in Life
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Episode 17: Dr. Jaime Blandino on Guilt: Alli and Melisa talk with Dr. Jaime Blandino about the guilt of leaving your heterosexual marriage. The price of admission is high. But the price of exclusion from your most authentic life is higher. by Lesbian Chronicles: Coming Out Later in Life
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Episode 20: Atlanta Pride 2019: Alli and Melisa chat about attending Pride in Atlanta and share ideas on building a community. by Lesbian Chronicles: Coming Out Later in Life
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Episode 25: Rev. Susannah Davis on Gayness and God: Rev. Susannah Davis of Kirkwood United Church of Christ joins Alli and Melisa to talk about reconciling faith with sexuality. by Lesbian Chronicles: Coming Out Later in Life
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Episode 11: Listener Questions: This week we cover a few questions we’ve gotten from our lovely listeners. Then we go off the rails a little and end up talking Roombas, recycling and the pH levels of water. by Lesbian Chronicles: Coming Out Later in Life
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Episode 23: Dykes on Bikes Atlanta/Polyamory: Alli and Melisa talk with the President of Dykes on Bikes Atlanta about their organization and her experience as a polyamorous lesbian. by Lesbian Chronicles: Coming Out Later in Life
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Episode 22: Dr. Jaime Blandino on Cheating Guilt and Love Bombing: Does someone have cancer? Is someone being deported? Why the love bombing?? Another great talk with Dr. Jaime Blandino on why some people express love so quickly and how to handle the aftermath of cheating. by Lesbian Chronicles: Coming Out Later in Life
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Episode 12: Bag of Dicks: Alli and Melisa talk the dirty details of lesbian sex. by Lesbian Chronicles: Coming Out Later in Life
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Episode 14: Manifesting the Life You Want: Today we talk about envisioning how you want your life to look in an effort to make it a reality. We also hit on hushing the noise and paying close attention to what you want versus what others think is right for you. FMK- “Girls” (Sorry, Hannah Horvath) by Lesbian Chronicles: Coming Out Later in Life
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Episode 29: Coming Out at 27: Our friend Miranda shares what it was like coming out in her late 20s and how she came to the realization she was queer. She’s also like a walking Urban Dictionary so we get the lowdown on some queer terminology. by Lesbian Chronicles: Coming Out Later in Life
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Episode 235: It's Not Guilt, It's Wise Remorse

Episode 235: It's Not Guilt, It's Wise Remorse

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