Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm thirty eight years old and I've been with the same man for five years and he's not focused on marriage or taking our relationship further, but he won't let me go. He accuses me of seeking attention from other men because of the way I dress and I see that as him not trusting me. He's so paranoid all the time, so I reassure him that I'm not up to no good when I'm hanging out with my friends. I told myself i'd give him another year to propose. I would never tell him about my deadline because I don't want him to propose unless he really wants to........................................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.