This episode is a game changer when it comes to understanding yourself in relationships thanks to long-awaited guest Dr. Nicole LePera, holistic psychologist and bestselling author. Nicole covers so much ground, including why we seek out relationships that feel familiar but aren’t healthy for us (and how to stop), why fear of rejection can be debilitating, and the difference between relationships that are empowered and disempowered. We dissect trauma bonding (both the power and danger of it), and also discuss how couples misinterpret each other’s behaviors (touching on love languages, but going even deeper) and how you can better understand each other instead of expecting them to change. Nicole also tells us about her throuple and the dynamics of it. Before she joins us, we catch up on Ashley’s recent altercation on a plane, Rayna’s observations about sisters, and a star-studded event we attended. Enjoy!  Follow Nicole on Instagram @the.holistic.psychologist and get her new book How to Be the Love You Seek. Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Helix: Get 20% off all mattress orders + two free pillows at helixsleep.com/gge with code HELIXPARTNER. Hinge: Download Hinge and find someone worth deleting the app for hin.ge/gge. Quince:  Go to quince.com/gge to get free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order. Chomps: Get 20% off your first order and free shipping at chomps.com/gge.