Comedian E.R. Fightmaster (Shrill, Grey's Anatomy) joins Nicole to discuss the benefits of keeping romantic partnerships out of the public eye, how dating reality TV shows are normalizing abuse in relationships, and the common manipulation tactics to watch out for in your love life. Plus, they share horniest they've ever been in their life, and what it's like to write horny music.Check out E.R.'s new EP, VIOLENCE, out today. Submit a dirty message to Nicole! Write it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746