OP is in a complicated relationship with their girlfriend, who has a close male friend named Tom. Tom had expressed romantic interest in the girlfriend before the OP came into the picture, which initially caused some tension. Despite several incidents that made the OP uncomfortable, such as secretive text conversations and Tom's reaction to seeing them together, the girlfriend assured the OP that they were just friends. However, it was revealed that Tom had called the girlfriend to confirm their relationship status, and upon learning they were still together, he decided to end their friendship. This caused the girlfriend to be deeply upset, and she expressed how much she missed Tom. The OP is now torn between their love for their girlfriend and the lack of trust and insecurity that has arisen due to the situation, compounded by other issues in the relationship.