Today we are kicking off a new series on the podcast: Top 10 Marriage Mistakes. As most of you know, Dr. Kim has been married for 50 years and has been a Marriage Counselor for over 40 years. Over the years he has seen some central mistakes couples make that hurt their marriage. We will be breaking down the top ten.  Today is Marriage Mistake #10. Which is Temper Tantrums: Not Fighting Fair. Not fighting fair plays out in a lot of different ways. You may think you fight fair, but after listening to this it might give you some insight you didn’t have before about healthy conflict resolution.    We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.   Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox!    *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “I saw a quote on Facebook that said ‘Placing blame in marriage is like saying your side of the ship is sinking;’ we’re supposed to be one in marriage and placing blame on your spouse is not you operating as one.” - Christina Dodson “You can be prone to fighting unfairly in your marriage if you saw your parents do that; we forget that our parent’s marriages are our first textbooks on marriage.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “Anytime a situation becomes ‘win/lose’ in your marriage, your marriage is losing.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “When you’re fighting unfairly it puts your marriage on pause; you can’t move forward to connect and grow closer to each other like you should be.” - Christina Dodson “If you can only think of negative things about your spouse that should be a huge red flag.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “What we are saying about our spouse in our heads matters so much.” - Christina Dodson “If you’re unable to get out of the habit of fighting unfairly, going to see a counselor who can give you goals and accountability is hugely beneficial.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “Getting a divorce is a lot more expensive than seeing a marriage counselor.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “Decide with your spouse what is unhealthy about how you fight and make boundaries that you both will agree to keep.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “Standard boundaries that a couple should have in fighting is no yelling, cussing, or insults.” - Christina Dodson “If something is important to your spouse, make it important to you.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “If you don’t forgive someone it hurts you more than them.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling   SPONSORS   Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code “awesomemarriage” for 15% off your order!    RESOURCES Brighten your marriage with our new resource 30 Gems of Wisdom For Your Marriage. This digital resource is an 18 page PDF that gives you 30 nuggets of God’s wisdom regarding your marriage. Get it today here!  Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!