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Talking about Being Queer Makes Mamí Uncomfortable

Talking about Being Queer Makes Mamí Uncomfortable

FromHow to Talk to [Mamí & Papí] about Anything


Talking about Being Queer Makes Mamí Uncomfortable

FromHow to Talk to [Mamí & Papí] about Anything

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Length:
20 minutes
Released:
Jul 3, 2023
Format:
Podcast episode

Description

Emilio’s Dominican mother was supportive and encouraging when he came out to her, but when he decides to speak openly with a younger relative about being gay, tensions arise between them. And Laurin Mayeno, a consultant and coach specializing in gender inclusion and justice, speaks with Juleyka about why prioritizing our needs helps us engage more productively during triggering conversations, and offers advice on how to avoid projecting our discomfort onto others.Featured Expert: Laurin Mayeno is an equity and justice consultant and children’s book author whose work is inspired by her experiences growing up mixed race (Japanese/Jewish) during the social movements of the 1960s and parenting a nonbinary queer child. She wrote "One of a Kind Like Me/Único como yo," a bilingual (Spanish/English) story about a little boy who wants to dress up as a princess. Laurin is also active in Somos Familia, an intergenerational organization she co-founded that supports families with LGBTQ+ children in the Latinx community. Her personal and professional experiences have given her a deep appreciation for the importance of responding to gender diversity, which is now a central focus of her work For over two decades, Laurin has provided coaching, consultation, and facilitation services to leaders, teams, and organizations. Prior to launching her consulting business in 1999, Laurin worked with a variety of public and non-profit organizations. She earned a Bachelors of Science in Ethnic Studies, and a Masters in Public Health, with a focus on community health education and multicultural health from UC Berkeley. She brings learnings from different perspectives to her work – including frameworks and approaches focusing on anti-racism, gender diversity/gender justice, pivoting from white supremacy culture, cultural humility, nonviolent communication, and coaching for transformation. Learn more about her work here.Laurin recommends The Center for Nonviolent Communication as a great resource for speaking with families about gender and sexual orientation, as well as Somos Familia's bilingual guide.If you loved this episode, listen to Coming Out to My Family and Talking to Their Parents About Being Nonbinary.We’d love to hear your stories of triumph and frustration so send us a detailed voice memo to hello@talktomamipapi.com. You might be on a future episode! Let’s connect on Twitter and Instagram at @TalkToMamiPapi and email us at hello@talktomamipapi.com. And follow us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts.
Released:
Jul 3, 2023
Format:
Podcast episode

Titles in the series (100)

"My two sons' godmother, who is a first-generation Dominican in New York City, was having a really, really hard time getting through to her mother about taking extra precautions during the start of the COVID pandemic," says Juleyka Lantigua, host and creator of How to Talk to [Mamí & Papí] about Anything, Apple Podcasts' Spotlight show for January 2023. "It was like they were speaking to each other in two different languages. The cultural and generational differences between them seemed to push them further apart as their conversations progressed. I realized they represented millions of children and parents enmeshed in a drag-out white-knuckle fight because those of us who are 'Americanized' see the world—and most importantly, live in the world—very differently from our immigrant parents." Lantigua, who is a veteran reporter and founder and CEO of the digital audio and production company LWC Studios, launched How to Talk to [Mamí & Papí] about Anything in 2020. She found out quickly that many listeners could relate to the experiences discussed on the show. "It was a grand experiment, and we were nervous and excited," she says. "And then the emails started pouring in from listeners who never knew they needed these conversations or those who wished they'd had the show growing up 20,30, 50 years ago!" Each episode features a listener with a problem that can range from navigating relationships with parents who disapprove of their spouse to maintaining a relationship with a difficult parent for the sake of the grandchildren. An expert on the episode’s topic joins Lantigua on the show to offer professional advice and analyze the generational and cultural dynamics at play. "So many of us straddle that hyphen of being American and something else. So many of us are trying to honor our parents' ways while making our own way in the world," Lantigua says. "This is a place to find solace and really good advice." After nearly 150 episodes, Lantigua is taking the plunge into extending the brand with a sister show, How to Talk to [High Achievers] about Anything. And her hope is that there’s more where that came from. "My vision is that the "How to Talk to" franchise continues to grow and serve the rising-majority audience in the US for years to come.”