408 - When Work Gets in the Way of Relationships | Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships Podcast

006 - Fundamentals: Polyamory - The Most Common Questions: If you're a polyamory beginner, or if you need some help answering the questions your relatives are throwing at you, check it out! by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

56 min listen

007 - Fundamentals: SHOP: How to Repair After a Fight: How do you deal with the aftermath of arguments, or subjects that are the cause of recurring disagreement? Go to the SHOP! by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

58 min listen

078 - Gender, Bisexuality, and Fairness: Sexual orientation and gender identity are currently hot-button topics. The non-monogamous community attracts many people who are exploring alternative identities, but many of the challenges in dating, acceptance, and personal discovery remain the same. How do you operate with grace and confidence in a culture that isn't necessarily fair to everyone? by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

41 min listen

001 - Welcome to Multiamory by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

3 min listen

002 - Fundamentals: The Triforce of Communication: Does your partner give you advice when you're looking for support and listening? Give this simple communication hack a try. by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

53 min listen

009 - Fundamentals: Attachment Theory And Polyamory: Jessica Fern joins us to talk about attachment, trauma, and polyamory, as well as helpful advice for more secure attachments. by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

53 min listen

089 - Make Poly Great Again: This week, the Multiamory crew is pissed off. The current political climate has inspired us to vent about a number of topical things that get under our skin: toxic masculinity, sexual harassment, the alt right, and more. In particular, we examine how the polyamorous community is not immune to these things, as well as addressing what steps everyone can take to turn things around. by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

44 min listen

083 - The Triforce of Communication: It's dangerous to go alone...take this! It's the Triforce of Communication! What is that, you ask? The Triforce of Communication, other than being a nerdy title, are the three primary goals of communication in any given conversation or interaction with a partner. Communication breakdowns often occur when you and your partner have mismatched goals. If your partner thinks you are seeking support or acknowledgment when you are actually seeking problem-solving advice, disappointment and frustration can show up faster than you know it. In this episode, we talk about these three different goals, and how you can use the knowledge of these goals to make your communication more effective. Kathy Labriola's original video on communication goals can be found here: <a href="https://youtu.be/CzA5UBDaQcc">https://youtu.be/CzA5UBDaQcc</a> by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

42 min listen

008 - Fundamentals: Demon Dance Battles: We're talking about fight choreography, or the patterns we fall into when arguing with partners, and how to break out of them. by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

60 min listen

098 - Happy Poly-Days Part 2: This Time It's Personal: The holidays are upon us, and so is the holiday stress! This week we are talking about all the aspects of the holidays that makes us fall into a temporary stress-induced insanity. We also give insights on managing the holidays with multiple partners and how to tackle coming out to your family members. But most exciting of all, we play a very special Christmas edition of Two Truths and a Lie. by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

48 min listen

079 - Polyamory and Spirituality: Ommmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm Welcome and namaste! This week we are talking about the spiritual side of alternative relationships. Polyamory has long been associated with the free love movement, which in turn has long been associated with the New Age spirituality of hippies. Though modern-day religions tend to condemn polyamorous relationships, there are a number of people in the poly community who closely tie their relationship structure to their spiritual practice. Is it possible to find enlightenment through polyamory? by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

43 min listen

003 - Fundamentals: Relationship RADAR: Scrum 2.0: Follow our step-by-step process for creating safe, supportive, and productive communication in a monthly relationship check-in. by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

55 min listen

104 - Polyamory in Movies and TV (Live Show): This is a very special live presentation by the Multiamory crew that took place in Santa Monica on January 20th, 2017. In this episode we are discussing the various ways polyamory and non-monogamous relationships are portrayed in fictional movies, TV, and webseries. From hilarious to touching to bizarre, we explore what stories are currently being told in our mainstream media, including clips from <em>House of Cards, Orange is the New Black, Futurama</em>, and many more. by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

77 min listen

005 - Fundamentals: Rules vs. Agreements Ft. Boundaries: We're exploring the differences between rules and agreements and how to make healthy decisions regarding them. by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

66 min listen

081 - Multi-versary: The Sequel: The Multiamory podcast just turned two years old! Welcome to the terrible twos, baby! On this episode, we give a recap of all the things we've accomplished in the past two years, much of it with the inspiration of our wonderful listeners and fans. We also talk about the personal turning points we've each had in the past year, and how that has changed our lives and our relationships. As an added bonus, we try to make Jase cry. by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

43 min listen

084 - Zen and the Art of First Dates: If you are new to poly or just opening up your relationship, you may come to a realization that is exciting for some and terrifying for others: time to go on first dates! Going on first dates when you're poly presents a whole host of unique benefits and challenges. In this episode, we lay out all the pros and cons of poly dating, as well as our most Zen advice for making each first date enjoyable and fulfilling, even if you don't feel that the chemistry is there. by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

42 min listen

077 - Life Changes and Polyamory: Ch-ch-ch-ch-changes! Change is an unavoidable part of life but that doesn't keep it from being scary sometimes. We have a lot of personal experience with big life changes like moving to new states or countries, deaths of family or friends, transitioning from monogamy to polyamory, and much more. In this episode we discuss some the things we've learned about dealing with change and how to make it as painless as possible. Often one of the most helpful things is knowing that you're not alone in struggling with change. Hopefully our stories and advice about finding community at the times when you need it most will help you with your current changes and also in preparation for the changes that will happen in the future. As the saying goes, "The only constant in life is change," so it's something that all of us can benefit from learning about. by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

39 min listen

094 - Multiamory has Group Sex with Billy Procida: This week we welcome very special guest Billy Procida, host of <a href="http://manwhorepod.com/"><em>The Manwhore Podcast: A Sex Positive Quest for Love.</em></a>We dig into all kinds of topics in this one: sex positivity, sex party etiquette, being a single hetero man in the swinging scene, quick fixes for handling jealousy at a play party, and just a little bit about butt stuff. by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

45 min listen

086 - Sustainable Relationships: Sustainability means making decisions that address the needs of the present without compromising the needs of the future. The term is most often applied to environmental policy, but how does the concept of sustainability apply to relationships? Are poly relationships more sustainable than monogamous ones? by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

39 min listen

090 - Poly Processing Groups: Have you ever felt alone on your poly journey? Do your friends or family immediately jump to blaming polyamory for any relationship problems you may have? We've definitely all encountered this and have wished for a better support network. On this episode we talk with two people who created their own Poly Processing Group that has been hugely transformational in the way it helps them and others (including Jase!) get through those tough patches and emotional challenges. In addition to discussing the philosophy behind their group we also talk about ways you can start your own processing group even if you only have a few people to join it. by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

42 min listen

004 - Fundamentals: The Basics of Boundaries: Boundaries are one of the most powerful yet misunderstood tools for having healthy relationships. by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

60 min listen

102 - Emotional Responsibility aka Owning Your Shit: If you've ever been in a relationship with a human being, chances are you've encountered some emotions within yourself and the other person. Until the day we are dating Vulcans or robots, our relationships will continue to be sticky, emotional, and not always rational. But all is not lost -- a healthy dose of emotional responsibility can go far! In this episode we deconstruct exactly what emotional responsibility is, and how it can bring clarity and calm to moments of conflict. We explore what it looks like if there's not enough emotional responsibility in a relationship, as well as what it may look like if there's too much! by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

41 min listen

075 - Primary Partners and Priority in Polyamory: Whew, that's a lotta P's! After many discussions inspired by our solo polyamory episode a few weeks ago, we decided to revisit the topics of hierarchy and priority. Some people insist that a primary/secondary hierarchy is the only that works for long-term polyamory. After all, if you want a house, kids, and any other number of long-term relationship milestones, most people choose to do that with a single, primary partner. However, we argue that it is possible to enjoy these things either with one partner or multiple partners, but without resorting to establishing a rigid hierarchy. We explore the idea of organic priority within your relationships, rather than prescribing hierarchal roles. by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

36 min listen

107 - A Very Poly Valentine's Day (Live Show): The Multiamory West Coast tour brought the crew to Seattle on February 14th. On this very traditional romantic holiday, we spent some time discussing how people in non-traditional relationships can use this as a time to reflect on the unique qualities each relationship and each partner brings to the table. We also discuss the slightly creepy origins of Valentine's Day itself. by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

75 min listen

085 - Meeting Your Metamours: Having a positive relationship with your metamours can dramatically improve the quality of your relationship landscape. In this episode we cover the who, what, where, when, why, and how of meeting your metamours and setting yourself up for the best possible outcomes. by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

36 min listen

087 - Five Mistakes Poly N00bs Make: For a long time there haven't been many public role models to demonstrate healthy, high-functioning polyamory, in contrast to the many demonstrations of monogamy we see every day on TV, movies, and other corners of the media. It's easy to make mistakes when first venturing down the path of non-monogamy. This week, we take you through five common mistakes made by people first opening up a closed relationship or dabbling in polyamory. by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

33 min listen

101 - Gender Non-Conformity 101: This week on Multiamory, Jase and Emily get all Gender Non-Specific with our special guest, professional cuddliest and dominatrix, Tate Ashley! Tate helps us explore queer theory, gender "extremes" vs. gender "middle ground," and language and its inefficiency when referring to gender non-conformity. The three of us also reveal the childhood experiences that helped shape our own personal gender identity and sexuality. You can find out more about Tate Ashley, their work, and their writing at <a href="http://www.tateashley.com/">http://www.tateashley.com</a>. by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

44 min listen

080 - Multiple Love Languages, Multiple Lovers: Your love language is the way in which you express love and prefer to receive love from your partners. Each person has a unique combination of love languages, some stronger than others. You may not realize it, but you and your partner may be speaking different love languages, which can lead to confusion and frustration. If you can determine your love language, as well as that of your partner(s), it can open up a whole new world of effortless communication and intimacy. In this episode, we cover the 5 most common love languages, as well as discuss how knowing about love languages can change your approach to multiple partners. by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

36 min listen

076 - Emotional Abuse and Polyamorous Relationships: It isn't easy or fun to talk about abuse. Abusive relationships come in many different iterations, and non-monogamous relationships are not exempt from these kinds of unhealthy dynamics. It's difficult for poly folk to speak publicly about abuse, as social stigma discourages many people from sharing any negative or darker aspects of poly relationships. In this episode, we explore how poly relationships in particular can fall victim to emotionally abusive behaviors, as well as how to recognize abusive patterns early on. by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

37 min listen

100 - Relationship Resolutions: It's Multiamory's 100th episode! It's a new season! It's a new year! And that means....New Year's Resolutions. Download the <a href="https://multi-amory.squarespace.com/s/NewYearsResolutionsWorksheet.pdf">worksheet here</a> to use in your own relationships! In this episode we are discussing how to make resolutions for your relationships in 2017. However, this isn't your typical discussion on goal-setting. We are going to be taking you through a process to dig deeper into your relationships and uncovering what will be the best driving force for you and your partners in the coming year. by Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

38 min listen

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